A couple months before our wedding my fiancé asked if we should push our date back a bit.

I had barely broken into my 20’s but I thought I knew what I wanted… ahem I mean what God wanted. I thought I knew about the foundations of love and marriage. He told me exactly what he would need, what I was getting into, and if I needed more time. I said no. I thought I was ready.

I was wrong.

I don’t know if anyone is ever really ready. How can you be ready for two sinful, selfish, works in progress to be united under one roof and immediately call it home? We lived independent lives until the moment we were now united as one. You can talk to a lot of people, read lots of words, pray lots of prayers, and prepare for a lot… but you can’t prepare for the day in and day out until you're in it.

It takes time to become one, lots of time. It takes humility, to love well, tons of humility! It takes surrender, forgiveness and work, a lot of work. Oftentimes this work feels unseen.

And once you think you’ve got a rhythm going something unexpected will happen and force you to completely re-learn what you thought you knew. You will begin building a new rhythm again. There will be high highs, and low lows. Those lows in marriage feel lonely, but you are never alone.