By A OK
Weekly interviews with people on the asexual and aromantic spectrums.
This is it - the final episode! Thank you so much to everyone for listening and supporting A OK. It was such an honor to host this podcast. Keep being amazing. Warnings: swearing Courtney's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/qwartney Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music:...
Shane (he/him) is an animator and YouTuber who is demisexual and demiromantic. Shane talks about his experiences as someone who is both demisexual and demiromantic, his animated Dungeons and Dragons series on YouTube, and his own podcast called “Podcasts &...
Kay (she/her) is a BTS Army who is panromantic and asexual. Kay talks about discovering her asexuality, her experience in a sexually coercive relationship, and how BTS has been a positive influence on her life. Kay's fanfiction story: https://archiveofourown.org/works/20104624/chapters/47624020 Warnings: sexual abuse...
Shimona (she/her) is a curious human who is asexual. Shimona talks about struggling with being “a-okay” about her asexuality, preferring to live solo and child-free, and how that all intersects with her family-oriented religion. Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music:...
Marshall (he/him) is The Gentle Giant Ace, who identifies as asexual and aromantic. Marshall talks about his experience as a Black ace activist, growing up in the midwest, and photography! Warnings: swearing Twitter: @TheAceGentle Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsw6zzoKlskACsfRs0sZ20g
Kelsey (they/them) is a writer and Alexis Rose enthusiast who is queer/gay and asexual. Kelsey shares their story of figuring out they’re asexual and nonbinary, their experience writing BIFL: The Series, and how much the show Sex Education means to...
Clawy (they/them) is an artist who is asexual and aroflux. Clawy talks about their experience discovering the term asexual, how their cultural upbringing intersects with asexuality, and their joy of writing. Warnings: mentions of aphobia Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music:...
Michael (he/they) is a music director who is cupiosexual and demiromantic. Michael talks about labels, their experience with evangelicalism, and writing for theater. Warnings: religion, homophobia Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative...
Angela Chen (she/her) is an author and writer who is asexual and biromantic. Angela talks about her upcoming book Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex. Angela's book: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/ace-angela-chen/1136968395?ean=9780807013793 Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music: A...
Sorabeth (hen) is a florist who is aromantic and asexual. Sorabeth talks about crafts, being a florist, and dating! Warnings: mentions of masturbation, sex, swearing Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons...
V (she/her) is a filmmaker who is asexual and heteroromantic. V talks about having haphephobia, being a director in Hollywood, and her love of wigs! Warnings: mentions of fatphobia Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed...
Ben (they/them) is a storyteller who is asexual, greyromantic, and nonbinary. Ben talks briefly about some of the struggles that Native Americans face, what it’s like to be married with kids as an asexual, storytelling, and building languages. Native American Rights...
Juniper (she/her) is a college student and pinball player who is aromantic and bisexual. Juniper talks about her experience dating someone who is alloromantic, as well as how to play competitive pinball. Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music: A OK...
Yasmin Benoit (she/her) is a model and aromantic and asexuality activist who is aromantic and asexual. Yasmin talks about #ThisIsWhatAsexualLooksLike, heavy metal, and Crime Science. To be fully transparent, this interview was recorded in mid-June. We reached out to Yasmin about...
Sarah Costello (she/her) is ace/aro, and Kayla Kaszyca (she/her) is demisexual/heteroromantic. Sarah and Kayla host the well-known podcast Sounds Fake But Okay. In this episode, we discuss their separate journeys discovering their identities, the three-year anniversary of Sounds Fake But...
Nik (she/her) is a grey-asexual and demisexual University student. Nik talks about how it felt to discovery the term asexual, why it’s difficult to come out to her parents, and her love of corgis. Warnings: mentions of homophobia Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual...
Thay (she/her) is an asexual/demiromantic writer. Thay talks about how music, dancing, and writing all intersect with her asexuality. Made-Man: Heroes Are Made: https://my.w.tt/nNberiMh97 Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under a Creative Commons License. And thank you to our wonderful...
Ian (he/him) is an analyst, podcaster, and travel writer who identifies as asexual. Ian explains how helpful the split attraction model is for him, how kink feels separate from his sexuality, and traveling as the Barefoot Backpacker. Blog: https://barefoot-backpacker.com/ Podcast: Travel...
Rebecca (she/her) is a cat mom who identifies as arospec and asexual. Rebecca talks about the difficulty figuring out her romantic orientation, dating challenges, and her experience founding Arts Healing Hearts, a charity in Toronto, Canada. Arts Healing Hearts: https://artshealinghearts.org/ Redemption Paws:...
Chio (she/her) is a comic artist who identifies as asexual and greyromantic. Chio talks about creating comics, how labels can be helpful, and why romance is so hard to figure out. Organizations to Donate to: ACLU: https://www.aclu.org/; Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatter.com/; Black Visions Collective:...
Raymond (he/him) is an LGBTQIA+ activist and erotica photographer who identifies as aromantic and queer fluid. Raymond talks about how being trans relates to how he figured out his orientation; how being a leatherboy intersects with his identities; and how...
David Jay (he/him) is the founder of AVEN and an ace activist, parent, and community organizer. David talks about his own experience discovering asexuality as a sexuality and not a disorder, how AVEN (The Asexual Visibility and Education Network) started,...
Official George Floyd Memorial Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/georgefloyd; Justice for Breonna Taylor: https://www.gofundme.com/f/9v4q2-justice-for-breonna-taylor; In Memory of Tony McDade: https://www.gofundme.com/f/in-memory-of-tony-mcdade; I Run With Maud (Ahmaud Arbery Fund): https://www.gofundme.com/f/i-run-with-maud; Justice for David McAtee: https://www.gofundme.com/f/justicefordavidmcatee; For James Scurlock’s Family: https://www.gofundme.com/f/for-james-scurlocks-family; Organizations: ACLU: https://www.aclu.org/; Black Lives Matter: https://blacklivesmatter.com/; Black Visions Collective: https://www.blackvisionsmn.org/; Black Women’s Blueprint:...
Ria Faustino (she/her) is an aspiring animator and full-time weeb who identifies as asexual and aromantic. Ria talks about her journey discovering her asexuality, her senior project, and Dungeons and Dragons. Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed under...
Ess (they/them) is a voice actor who identifies as asexual and aromantic. Ess talks about growing up in India, their previous misconceptions around marriage, and their journey to discovering their gender identity. Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is licensed...
Josh (he/him) is an engineering student in recovery who identifies as asexual and panromantic. Josh talks about his journey with recovery and how the split attraction model helped him come to terms with his asexuality. Josh's bandcamp: https://joshispeachy.bandcamp.com/releases Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner...
Ezra (he/him) is a cat dad who identifies as aromantic. Ezra talks about the importance of aromanticism in his life, not identifying under the split-attraction model, and his experience with witchcraft and tarot reading. Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music: A OK...
Sherry (she/her) is a future law student who identifies as asexual and aromantic. Sherry responds to a list of arguments against aces and aros being in the LGBTQ+ community, pulled from a thread on A OK’s twitter page. Donate to the...
Melissa Caruso (she/her) is a fantasy author who identifies as biromantic and asexual. Melissa talks about coming out to her husband and children, her secret to writing allosexual characters, and her upcoming book, The Obsidian Tower. AVEN (asexuality.org); Empire of...
Chris (he/him) is an escape room enthusiast who is homoromantic graysexual. Chris talks about "getting comfortable with" asexuality, his experience dating, and his adventures in 60+ escape rooms. Content Warnings: mentions of genital mutilation Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music: A OK by ÜberKicK is...
Erica Cameron (she/her) is a young adult author who identifies as WTF-romantic and asexual. Erica discusses her past marriage and divorce, aro and ace characters in literature, and the importance of roommates. Erica's Website: http://byericacameron.com Coming Up Aces (Asexual Q&A): http://byericacameron.com/wp/q-ace/ Content Warnings:...
Daniel (he/him) is a YouTuber and engineer who is homoromantic and asexual. Daniel talks about his experiences dating allosexual men, his current long-distance relationship, and his YouTube channel Slice of Ace! Warnings: swearing Slice of Ace: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3vDNqa_MMGI43NAO2C-JJw Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music: A...
Maddy (she/her and they/them) is a genderqueer music nerd who is greyromantic and bisexual. Maddy talks about changing labels, ethical non-monogamy, and an unexpected romantic experience after she had already embraced the term "aromantic." Twin Cities Sirens: https://www.facebook.com/tcsirens/ Content Warnings: swearing, mentions...
Leo (he/him) is a medical student from Puerto Rico who identifies as quasiromantic and asexual. Leo talks about his experiences with women, what intimacy means to him, and why aces and aros are definitely LGBTQIA+. Content Warnings: swearing Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner...
Vincent Scott (he/him & they/them) is a writer who identifies as asexual and aromantic. Vincent talks about toxic masculinity, trends of sexuality throughout history, and his new novel! Warnings: depression and social anxiety Link to Vincent's Kickstarter campaign: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/thinkinginkpress/the-hereafter-bytes?ref=user_menu Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist: Tanner Groehler; Music:...
Laura (she/her) is a student and dancer in Finland who identifies as asexual and cupioromantic. She discusses wanting children as an asexual, why she’s still questioning her romantic orientation, and ace and aro book recommendations. Content Warnings: none Book Mentions: Summer Bird...
Rowan (they/them) is a tarot reader and hairstylist who identifies as demisexual and greyromantic. Rowan talks about their ultimate dream-relationship, why they masturbate, tarot reading, paganism, and witchcraft! Content warnings: mentions of sex, masturbation, swearing LISTENER SURVEY: https://forms.gle/9Pwpz7QpifbvniUBA Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual Artist:...
Christy (they/them & she/her) is a movement artist with disabilities who identifies as grey-aro and grey-ace. Christy talks about the stereotypes that come with being an asian femme poledancer and a disabled aromantic asexual. They also describe visible vs invisible...
Gwen Elledge (she/her) is an astronomy nerd and jock who identifies as asexual and biromantic (but usually just says gay). Gwen talks about changing labels, being touch-starved, Tinder, and the wonders of gravity. Content Warnings: none LISTENER SURVEY: https://forms.gle/9Pwpz7QpifbvniUBA Special Thanks: Editor/Producer: Sofi LaLonde; Visual...
Devon (they/them) is a Japanese translator who identifies as asexual, aromantic, and agender. Devon discusses role-playing as identity exploration, sex and romance as the focal point in western music, and why they are looking forward to starting estrogen. Content Warnings: swearing...
Dean D’Monic is ace, agender, and known as the Shapeshifter of the Twin Cities. We talk about what it means to be an ace advocate, what it’s like to perform at the Renaissance Festival and in drag shows, and Dean’s...
Caitlin (they/them) is a crafter who identifies as asexual and panromantic (or maybe biromantic). Caitlin talks about being autistic and asexual, what they want in a relationship, and representation in season two of Sex Education on Netflix. Content Warnings: swearing Special Thanks: Editor/Producer:...
John Arrow (he/him) is a second-grade teacher and fem slash convention organizer who identifies as bisexual/queer and aromantic. John and Courtney bond over their experiences trying to date as aromantic people, and John talks about representation, ace and aro headcanons,...
Janet (she/her) is a retired I.T. manager who identifies as asexual. Janet reflects on her past marriages, tells us a bittersweet love story between herself and a married woman, and tries to figure out how to proceed with life now...
Sophie Katz (she/her) is a writer who identifies as panromantic and demisexual. Sophie points out the parallels between anosmic and asexual experiences, explains how growing up Jewish prepared her for certain challenges, and reminisces about what it was like to...
Graham (they/them) is your best friend who identifies as demiromantic/queer, and who is also questioning their asexuality. Graham explains how they can tell the difference between romantic feelings versus how they feel pre-romance. Courtney and Graham also discuss how society...
Joci (she/her) is a poet and artist who realized she was aromantic and asexual at age 46. Joci talks about her time studying at a bible college nicknamed “bridal college,” aphobia in the Christian community, and a marriage proposal that...
Jim (he/him) is a maker and engineer who identifies as asexual and heteroromantic. Jim explains how Dungeons and Dragons helped him realize he was asexual. Courtney and Jim also go into the pressures society places on cis het men to...
Jude (she/her) is an author who identifies as anegosexual and "historically" romantic. She explains what it's like to be asexual in a long-term marriage with someone who is allosexual, the complexities of coming out to her children, and what an...
Episode Transcript: As you may have seen announced on the A OK twitter page, we don't have a new interview this week. I sincerely apologize for skipping this week, especially as I know that the holiday season is ramping up, which...
