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- The Life Under the Number
At fifteen, Garth was a busy, sporty kid who decided he was too big, and that if he lost weight, the girl at school would finally see him. In this first episode he talks about how that one idea tied food to hope, hope to being chosen, and being chosen to whether he was worth anything, and about the question that finally changed things. Plus a seven-day experiment you can set up in about fifteen minutes.
In this episode
[00:00] Intro: who Garth is and what the show is about
[00:23] What this show is, and what it isn't (not a diet show)
[00:56] Where it started: badminton, cricket, a girl at school and a first diet
[02:51] How a diet turns into a pattern: fresh starts, gym memberships and "just one more"
[04:36] The question that changed: what kind of life makes caring for this body possible?
[05:55] Surgery in 2022: "a tool, not a solution", and "move every day, no negotiations"
[07:04] The shirt in the change rooms
[08:18] Order comes before change
[09:08] This week's experiment, in five steps
[10:22] Wrap-up
Try this week: Pick one action for the next seven days, with a time and a place. "I'll try harder" isn't an experiment. "I'll prepare tomorrow's breakfast after dinner" is.
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This is Garth's experience, not medical advice. If you're dealing with an eating disorder, serious distress or a health condition, please do this alongside qualified professional care.
12 min
About A Remade Man
From the publisher's feed
G'day, I'm Garth Lategan. I'm 54, I live in Melbourne, and I've had more fresh starts than I can count. The diets, the gym memberships, the big Monday plans. The promise that this time would be different had an extraordinary attendance record, even when I didn't.
What finally worked wasn't a better plan. It was the order I did things in: sleep, structure, honesty and support. When my life got steady enough to hold a change, the change started to hold. Weight-loss surgery in 2022 was part of that, and I've lost more than half my body weight since. But my surgeon told me it was a tool, not a solution, and he was right. The work was everything around it.
The same thing happened with dating. I went 20 years before I was in a relationship again. I was the easy-to-be-with nice guy who never got chosen. Dr Robert Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy, a men's group, therapy and my mate Tom Valcanis helped me stop trying to be liked and start being honest. I've run men's groups on Glover's ideas for about fifteen years now, and I'm with the love of my life, Sam.
A Remade Man is for men over 40 who are tired of starting again: weight, confidence, dating after 40 and 50, and recovering from being the Nice Guy. Each episode runs around 20 minutes. One honest story from my life, and one small thing you can try for seven days. No meal plans, no pick-up lines, no five simple steps. Just what worked for me, so you can decide what fits your life.
Order comes before change. Start there, and the rest has something to hold onto.
New episodes every week. Get the free newsletter and the free five-lesson email course, Why You Keep Dating the Same Person, at aremademan.com.
This show is my experience, not medical, psychological or financial advice. Please work with qualified professionals on your health.