A Sex Worker's Guide to the Galaxy

This week, we get to speak with Chad, a Texas-based male escort and friend of mine. He shares with us his perspective on sex work being healing in two directions, both for him and his clients. We also talk extensively about STIs and PrEP. We talk about stigma of various kinds revolving around sex and sex work and how they can crop up in non-profit settings, even when the organizations mission is to serve sex workers.

**TW: Sexual Assault and Suicide**

Things We Talk About:

PrEP Resources:

https://heymistr.com/ (https://heymistr.com/)

https://www.nurx.com/prep/ (https://www.nurx.com/prep/)

https://www.hiv.gov/federal-response/ending-the-hiv-epidemic/prep-program (https://www.hiv.gov/federal-response/ending-the-hiv-epidemic/prep-program)

https://www.iwantprepnow.co.uk/ (https://www.iwantprepnow.co.uk/)

https://endinghiv.org.au/stay-safe/prep/# (https://endinghiv.org.au/stay-safe/prep/#)

STIs: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/blog/six-things-sex-educators-wish-you-knew-about-stis#:~:text=Having%20an%20STI%20doesn't,%2C%20negative%20attitudes%20about%20sex). ("Six Things Sex Educators Wish You Knew About STIs" by Planned Parenthood)

https://coyoteri.org/wp/ (COYOTE (Call Off Your Old Tired Ethics))

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKGbjJarMeA ("Bidi Bidi Bum Bum" by Selena)

https://www.hri.global/what-is-harm-reduction (Harm Reduction)

Resonance Art Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1KEjtcsZ4TI (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1KEjtcsZ4TI)

Podcast Links:

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod (patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod)

Website: https://www.parkerwestwood.com/podcast/ (parkerwestwood.com/podcast/)

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/SexyGalaxyPod (@SexyGalaxyPod)

ANSWER-Detroit: https://www.answerdetroit.org (answerdetroit.org)

This is the second half of my interview with Makeda Joi, an escort based out of Atlanta, GA. Last time, we talked about compassion, toxic masculinity, and privilege. The last half of our discussion is dedicated to all things joy and resilience, something we could all use more of right now. <3

Makeda Joi's Links:

Website: http://www.makedajoi.com/ (MakedaJoi.com)

Twitter: https://my.captivate.fm/www.twitter.com/makedajoi (@makedajoi)

Things We Talk About:

https://bookshop.org/books/sex-matters-from-sex-to-superconsciousness/9780312316303 (Sex Matters: From sex to superconsciousness by Osho (book))

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/kama-sutra-vatsyayana-richard-francis-burton/1127630392 (The original translation of the Kama Sutra by Vatsyayana (book))

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Hegd4xNfRo (River by Leon Bridges (song))

Podcast Links:

Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod (patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod)

Website: https://parkerwestwood.com/podcast/ (parkerwestwood.com/podcast/)

Twitter: https://my.captivate.fm/www.twitter.com/SexyGalaxyPod (@SexyGalaxyPod)

ANSWER-Detroit: https://my.captivate.fm/www.answerdetroit.org (answerdetroit.org)

We are graced by the presence of Makeda Joi, an escort based in Atlanta, GA. In this episode we talk about privilege, acceptance, compassion, toxic masculinity, and we do it with gusto!

Makeda Joi's Links:

Website: http://www.MakedaJoi.com (MakedaJoi.com)

Twitter: @makedajoi

Things We Talk About:

Full Service Podcast with Tank

https://www.gq.com/story/atlanta-strip-club-magic-city (Atlanta Strip Club Magic City Article)

(Check out Part Two's show notes, because I am definitely missing some here.)

Podcast Links:

Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod (patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod)

Website: https://parkerwestwood.com/podcast/ (parkerwestwood.com/podcast/)

Twitter: @SexyGalaxyPod

ANSWER-Detroit: answerdetroit.org

This week we talk with Chris Ballbelly, a belly-bloat content creator. He talks to us about the belly-bloat fetish community, the importance of listening to your body while creating this kind of content, and being a content creator with autism. It's an interesting conversation with a charming individual about a niche area of sex work. Enjoy!

**Trigger Warning: Binge Eating Behavior**

Chris Ballbelly's Links:

Twitter: @BallbellyChris

Instagram: @chrisballbelly

PornHub: https://www.pornhub.com/model/chris-ball-belly (https://www.pornhub.com/model/chris-ball-belly)

Things We Talk About:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=93vjY9RY4-k (Pop Rocks and Coke Myth Busters)

https://www.youtube.com/user/littlemissbelly (LittleMissBelly Youtube)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIrr-TN5CdY (Pultinos)

ANSWER's Links:

Website: www.answerdetroit.org

Instagram: @weareanswerdetroit

Twitter: @answerdetroit

Podcast Links:

Website: https://parkerwestwood.com/podcast/ (parkerwestwood.com/podcast/)

Patreon: Patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod

Twitter: @SexyGalaxyPod

Instagram: @parker.westwood

It's been nearly one year since we heard from Savannah. She and her partner, Mountain Man Link, joined us for last years Valentine's Day couples episode. This time, she's returning with a new last name and a new outlook on life. Savannah Hart talks to us about her rebranding and the burnout that preceded it. She discusses the tactics that she used to move forward from that burnout moment and find ways to make the work better suited to what she wants out of life.

Savannah Hart's Links:

Website: https://www.savannahhart.com (savannahhart.com)

OnlyFans: onlyfans.com/savannahhart

Twitter: @yoursavannahxo

Instagram: @yoursavannahxo

Linktree: @yoursavannahxo

ANSWER Detroit's Links:

Website: https://www.answerdetroit.org (answerdetroit.org)

GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/grantmatching-fundraiser (gofundme.com/f/grantmatching-fundraiser)

Twitter: @answerdetroit

Instagram: @weareanswerdetroit

Podcast Links:

Patreon: patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod

Website: https://www.parkerwestwood.com/podcast (parkerwestwood.com/podcast)

Merch: https://sexygalaxypod.bigcartel.com/ (sexygalaxypod.bigcartel.com)

Twitter: @SexyGalaxyPod

Instagram: @parker.westwood

"A Sex Worker's Guide to the Galaxy" has been a podcast for one whole year! This episode is a big thank you to the many people who have made this podcast happen and an announcement of an online merch store (https://www.SexyGalaxyPod.bigcartel.com (SexyGalaxyPod.bigcartel.com))! Thank you for one year, you wonderful human beings!

Things I Talk About:

A Network of Sex Workers to Excite Revolution (ANSWER) Detroit

https://www.gofundme.com/f/grantmatching-fundraiser?qid=0f156eb9bda34e19a5bc5d90f8c03b96 (ANSWER Detroit Fundraiser)

https://www.companiontax.com (Companion Tax)

https://Captivate.fm (Captivate.fm)

https://www.detroitpodcastfest.com/ (Detroit Podcast Festival)

https://www.michiganradio.org/people/erin-allen (Erin Allen)

Skyler Mills

Kori Davenport

KA2 Art (doowarrt.bigcartel.com)

https://www.universetoday.com/141741/the-iridium-flare-era-is-about-to-end/ ("The Iridium Flare Era is About to End" by David Dickinson)

https://www.satflare.com/track.asp?q=iridium#MAP (Iridium Satellite and Flare Tracker at satflare.com)

Mental Health Resources:

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

https://www.aasect.org/referral-directory (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)

https://www.self.com/story/sex-worker-self-care-kit ("The Sex Worker Self Care Kit" by Anna Borges)

https://swop.org.au/mental-health (Sex Worker Outreach Project (SWOP) Counseling) (Australia)

https://pineapplesupport.org/pineapple-support-therapists/ (Pineapple Support Subsidized Therapy for Adult Industry Workers)

Podcast Links:

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod (patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod)

Website: https://www.parkerwestwood.com/podcast (parkerwestwood.com/podcast)

MERCH!: https://SexyGalaxyPod.bigcartel.com (SexyGalaxyPod.bigcartel.com)

Twitter: @SexyGalaxyPod

Instagram: @Parker.Westwood

In this Episode we talk about Elaina St. James journey as a new OnlyFans model, how sex work facilitated her acceptance of her body, and the struggle for work-life balance. We also discuss solo parenting as a sex worker, flipping society's ageism the middle finger, and Elaina's general badassery.

Elaina's Links:

Website: https://elainastjames.com/ (elainastjames.com)

OnlyFans: onlyfans.com/elainastjames and onlyfans.com/elainavip

Twitter: @ElainaStJames

Instagram: @Elaina.StJames

LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/ElainaStJames (linktr.ee/ElainaStJames)

ANSWER-Detroit Links:

Website: answerdetroit.org

GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/giving-season-grantmatching-fundraiser (https://www.gofundme.com/f/giving-season-grantmatching-fundraiser)

Things We Talk About:

https://www.stjamesinfirmary.org/wordpress/?p=5481 (Margo St. James)

https://nypost.com/2021/02/20/ca-mom-bullied-by-fellow-parents-for-selling-sexy-snaps-on-onlyfans/ (Mrs. Poindexter)

https://www.reuters.com/business/onlyfans-reverses-ban-showing-sexually-explicit-content-2021-08-25/ (OnlyFans explicit content ban and reversal)

Merkins were mentioned so... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PRIt4nEVU0w ("Map of Tazmania" by Amanda Palmer and The Young Punx)

https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/dolly-partons-america (Dolly Parton's America Podcast)

https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/the-paradise-papers-the-suppression-of-womens-rites_merlin-stone/250140/item/1743547/?gclid=CjwKCAiAiKuOBhBQEiwAId_sKywg3Sm2JnDI7rz0M0M0vPddIJ-m8HmiRiLdwV0WkWNSN4DAMnky2hoCRiMQAvD_BwE#idiq=1743547andedition=1024728 (When God Was a Woman (book))

https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/the-memoirs-of-cleopatra_margaret-george/288019/item/17604982/?gclid=CjwKCAiAiKuOBhBQEiwAId_sK3JL3p2VB2EHunbLPSRXWw9nQCwvue1kkuijl1eNa4SIjqZLBmrDgRoCy9AQAvD_BwE#idiq=17604982andedition=2355776 (Cleopatra (book))

Podcast Links:

Website: parkerwestwood.com/podcast

Patreon: patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod

Twitter: @SexyGalaxyPod

This week, we're talking about selling worn items with a wonderful human being and fan of the show, Calla Miia. She tells about her experience getting into the industry, what she's learned, and what it's like. She shares about how sex work allowed her to explore her sexual identity and get to know herself better. We also talk about the importance of mental health and, probably most importantly, puppies.

Calla Miia's Links:

PantyDeal: pantydeal.com/member/callamiia

Things We Talk About:

https://bdsmtest.org/select-mode (BDSM Test)

PantyDeal.com

Panty Selling School

https://swrolodex.com/ (SW Rolodex) (website where Sex Workers can find and hire freelancers for various projects)

ANSWER-Detroit Links:

Website: www.answerdetroit.org

Grant-Matching Fundraiser: https://www.gofundme.com/f/giving-season-grantmatching-fundraiser?utm_campaign=p_lico+share-sheetandutm_medium=copy_linkandutm_source=customer (https://www.gofundme.com/f/giving-season-grantmatching-fundraiser?utm_campaign=p_lico+share-sheetandutm_medium=copy_linkandutm_source=customer)

Twitter: @answerdetroit

Instagram: @weareanswerdetroit

Podcast Links:

Website: parkerwestwood.com/podcast

Patreon: patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod

Twitter: @SexyGalaxyPod

We hear from Kristy Cooper, former stripper, librarian, and now author of the book I Was a Stripper Librarian: From Cardigans to G-strings. We discuss stripping as an industry, feminist views of sex work, and community organizing skills that Kristy learned from sex workers. Kristy also opens up about the stigma surrounding sex work and the emotional strain of living a double life.

Kristy Cooper's Links:

https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/i-was-a-stripper-librarian-from-cardigans-to-g-strings_kristy--cooper/28891253/?gclid=Cj0KCQiAtJeNBhCVARIsANJUJ2FhENzFFlCwn1UIEv9LoIRh8WLjuumUrQBqviDnepWLvJSXSZ8xbs8aAujZEALw_wcB#edition=60059264andidiq=47621482 (I Was A Stripper Librarian: From Cardigans to G-Strings) (book)

Things We Talk About:

https://libraryfreedom.org/lfp-members/ (Library Freedom Institute)

https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/revolting-prostitutes-the-fight-for-sex-workers-rights/18682659/?resultid=189b8033-de3f-488e-8186-97e06962452f#isbn=1786633604andedition=19913405 (Revolting Prostitutes) (book)

https://www.facebook.com/WestlandNews/posts/five-fired-westland-librarians-fight-backon-march-4th-the-news-broke-that-westla/1545140978830592/ (Westland Public Library Protests)

https://www.vickyfunari.com/film/live-nude-girls-unite/ (Live Nude Girls Unite (documentary) )

https://workingclasshistory.com/podcast/e20-the-exotic-dancers-union/ (Lusty Lady Stripper Union)

https://publicseminar.org/essays/detroits-project-green-light/ (Project Green Light (Detroit Surveillance Bullshit) )

I did not figure out how to spell the name of the musical artist mentioned. I wish you all more luck finding it than I had. :-)

Podcast Links:

Patreon: patreon.com/sexygalaxypod

Website: parkerwestwood.com/podcast

In this episode we get to hear from none other than Carol Leigh (AKA: Scarlot Harlot), one of the OGs in the fight for sex workers' right and who's credited with coining the term "sex work." She tells us about how the term "sex work" came to be. We also talk about some sociolinguistics in the feminist movement as well as the anti-trafficking framework that dominates the way we think and talk about sex work.

Carol Leigh's Links:

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/CarolLeigh (linktr.ee/CarolLeigh)

Twitter: @carol_leigh

Instagram: @scarlot_harlot

Her Book: https://www.abebooks.com/servlet/BookDetailsPL?bi=30874973103andcm_ven=swsandcm_cat=swsandcm_pla=swsandcm_ite=30874973103andclickid=3DQVs-UiXxyLULpwUx0Mo387UkGxgjyAK0bLVI0andcm_mmc=aff-_-ir-_-353196-_-77798andref=imprad353196andafn_sr=impact (Unrepentant Whore: Collected Works of Scarlot Harlot)

Things We Talk About:

https://www.patreon.com/thotscholar (thotscholar)

https://hackinghustling.org/ (Hacking Hustling)

https://actupny.com/ (ActUp)

https://www.thesisters.org/ (Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence)

https://www.lauraagustin.com/ (Laura Agustin)

https://www.betterworldbooks.com/search/results?q=1573440426 (Sex Work (book) )

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KynkMn5Hv3Q (Megan Thee Stallion)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Srq1FqFPwj0 (Lizzo)

Podcast Links:

Website: https://parkerwestwood.com/podcast/ (parkerwestwood.com/podcast/)

Patreon: patreon.com/SexyGalaxyPod

Twitter: @SexyGalaxyPod