We're in a pretty failure-averse world. There's not much mercy and not much margin for error in a world where our mistakes can be plastered across screens throughout the world. 

So how do we wrap our heads around failure, and what kinds of failure are out there? Turns out, there's at least three kinds of failures-- one for when we're learning and growing, one for when we unintentionally wander, and one for when we intentionally do the wrong thing. 

I think it's pretty helpful to have categories for failure, and over it all, a merciful and patient heart. Just my two cents...

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Nathaniel Hawthorne has a lovely version of the story of King Midas, called "The Golden Touch," and Joseph read it aloud to his kids recently. While it's ostensibly about greed, it's also about exchanging real life for sterile, un-smellable, un-tasteable, un-nourishing shiny facsimiles. In other, unrelated news, how's your smartphone looking these days?

Here's Hawthorne's story: https://www.gutenberg.org/files/35377/35377-h/35377-h.htm#THE_GOLDEN_TOUCH but it's public domain, so you can find it many places...

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It's weird how scandalous it sounds, that life is worth living, sharing, and multiplying. But these are ways we're inclined to be, to behave, and to desire as human beings. So saith Aristotle, Aquinas, and me, your friendly neighborhood podcaster.

(Joseph did mis-speak-- it's in question 94, article 2, not question 86, of first part of the second part of the Summa: https://www.newadvent.org/summa/2094.htm#:~:text=Thirdly%2C%20there%20is%20in%20man,law%3B%20for%20instance%2C%20to%20shun)

Joseph unpacks these inclinations a bit, and hopefully conveys the main point that YOUR life is worth living, sharing, and multiplying.

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And the Joseph Pearce event at the Chesterton Academy in Jackson, MI can be RSVP'd for here: https://www.castgeorge.com/events/pearce

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Our social fabric is threadbare these days, and making invitations is our way of re-enforcing, patching, and strengthening society.

Joseph talks about having invite-to-able lives, about making clear invitations, and handling rejection. Those are the things he needs to hear, so he's guessing you might too!

On our website, if Catholic husbands have a minute (or 45) to talk with Joseph about some of his upcoming projects, that'd be appreciated: https://ouroutpost.org/youroutpost/ and scroll down to the link to find a time with Joseph.

If you're in the southern Michigan area, check out this upcoming event hosted by the Chesterton Academy of St. George! (this is an impersonal invitation, btw): https://www.castgeorge.com/events/pearce

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How proud am I? 

Do I think I'm wiser than I really am?

Do I think I'm stronger than I really am?

Do I think I'm more excusable than I really am?

Probably. And that, my friends, is prideful.

Listen in to find out more!

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If we want to live in harsh conditions, we could wear appropriate equipment, we could change the conditions, or (maybe impossibly) we could change ourselves to adapt to those conditions. If we want to live in perfect love, there's a temptation to either become superficial or water down what it means to live perfect love, while the only real option is the seemingly-impossible one: we need to change.

In this episode, Joseph talks about the three significant changes that happen to us to allow us to live in the city of God: the theological virtues of faith, hope, and love. 

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Marriage can be great for many reasons, but its greatness is not one of the reasons Joseph talks about getting married.

What does he talk about? The sacrament of marriage fundamentally re-orients us to with respect to time, it stitches together a broken society, and the process of finding a spouse can and should help raise the collective bar for men and women-- so will call single men and women to be better.

Just fyi-- we're interviewing Catholic singles right now, and we'll be starting an online program for Catholic singles soon. If you're male and single, sign up with Joseph for a 45 minute call here: https://bookme.name/ouroutpost/lite/joseph-serving-singles and if you're female and single, sign up with Crystal for a 45 minute call here: https://bookme.name/ouroutpost/lite/crystal-serving-singles

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Here's the text of the passage from Mark 4:35-41:

On that day, as evening drew on, Jesus said to his disciples:
“Let us cross to the other side.”
Leaving the crowd, they took Jesus with them in the boat just as he was.
And other boats were with him.
A violent squall came up and waves were breaking over the boat,
so that it was already filling up.
Jesus was in the stern, asleep on a cushion.
They woke him and said to him,
“Teacher, do you not care that we are perishing?”
He woke up,
rebuked the wind, and said to the sea, “Quiet!  Be still!”
The wind ceased and there was great calm.
Then he asked them, “Why are you terrified?
Do you not yet have faith?”
They were filled with great awe and said to one another,
“Who then is this whom even wind and sea obey?”

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Aristotle writes about three different kinds of friendship in the Nicomachean Ethics. It's not uncommon to hear talks about friendship, and how of the three kinds, the best/truest kind of friendship needs to be focused on. We even have some episodes about that very thing. 

But what Joseph noticed recently is that we're suffering not just from a lack of virtuous/true friends. We're suffering, too, from a singular lack of all three kinds of friends. In our overly-technologized society, where we'd rather watch other people have pleasant lives than do so ourselves, we actually need a return of the useful and the pleasant friendships, too.

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While the Grubers have started a marriage ministry, that also serves Catholic singles, Joseph has been moonlighting as one of the pilot-ers of the pilot initiative of the Knights of Columbus, Cor. 

It's been a very different way to serve men in the community, both from what the Knights have been doing as well as from what Joseph has been doing. You can see some of what he's been up to here: jacksoncor.org.

Men's ministries as a whole have been something Joseph has been interested in-- it's been really unclear what they are, who they're for, and what difference they're supposed to make. Cor, so far, has made sense to him!

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