At 63 years old, I reflect on the absence of my father, a man I've never known, and how this missing piece of my identity has subtly shaped my life. A chance encounter in church triggers a profound realization that, although I never felt incomplete, the absence of my father has impacted my understanding of myself.

Ultimately, I learned that true self-knowledge comes from embracing the unknown parts of our stories, rather than seeking to fill every gap.d

Key Takeaways

00:00 I never thought much about my father’s absence, as my maternal grandfather filled the fatherly role in my early life. However, at 63, a single moment in church shifted my perspective on this missing piece of my identity.

02:00 The absence of a parent, especially for daughters in single-parent homes, can quietly shape identity, even if we convince ourselves we don't need that missing piece.

03:00 Embracing unanswered questions, rather than seeking closure through filling gaps, allows us to understand our story and to live within that uncertainty.

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Key Takeaways:

(00:00:13) – Impact of Childhood Abandonment: How the abandonment I experienced as a child has influenced my adult relationships and sense of self-worth, particularly after my third divorce.

(02:24:92) – Healing through Self-Reflection: Healing from childhood trauma starts with self-reflection and accountability rather than blaming others for your past.

(04:49:63) – Effects of Abandonment in Adulthood: How abandonment has shaped my behavior, making me avoid conflict and withdraw from situations where I feel like a burden.

(07:12:52) – Taking Responsibility for Your Life: The importance of taking full responsibility for your life, how Jack Canfield's The Success Principles is currently influencing my journey of continuing self-awareness.

(09:36:61) – God as a Source of Healing: Understanding God as your loving father is essential for healing from abandonment and building healthy relationships.

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Takeaways

The Abandonment of Daughters by Windrush Mothers (00:00–01:45)

• Introducing the experience and lingering feelings of abandonment many daughters of Caribbean mothers face, even when they reunite later in life.

The Emotional Toll and Healing Process (02:00–04:30)

• The deep emotional scars left by the abandonment.
• The importance of working through these issues for healing between mothers and daughters.

The Call for Shared Stories (05:00–06:50)

• An invitation to other abandoned daughters of Caribbean moms, and their mothers, to share their stories.
• The importance of understanding both perspectives—particularly the “why”—to foster healing and connection.

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Abandoned Daughters of Caribbean Moms explores the emotional journey of women whose mothers left the Caribbean in the 50s and 60s, leaving them behind.

I touch on the reason for starting this podcast -- the fractured relationships between mothers and daughters who were never able to reconnect.

This private, heart-wrenching podcast creates a safe space for abandoned daughters and mothers alike to share their stories, free of judgment or guilt.

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