Not everyone "clings" to people to prevent people leaving. Some people surrender to the abandonment wound and engage, repeatedly, with people who ‘always leave’. Others will avoid intimacy totally, so as not to get hurt, and others will punish people when they let us down or try to leave us.Today, in part 2 of the OPENHOUSE Abandonment Wound Series, Louise & Stephanie explore:

The concept of surrendering to the abandonment wound.

The connection between the abandonment wound and the father wound.

The hope associated with surrendering to both the father wound and the abandonment wound.

How the abandonment wound can manifest as a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The link between low self-worth and the abandonment wound.

Counterattack: Why we engage in self-sabotage and punish others when they withdraw.

Avoidance of intimacy: Exploring why some people steer clear of closeness to avoid the fear of abandonment.

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120 - ABANDONMENT - How A Fear of Being Hurt Can Lead To You Abandoning Them First -  Stephanie Therapy

Welcome to your weekly #FreeTherapy fix with Louise Rumball and her favorite therapists.  Your safe haven where friendship and therapy collide. OPENHOUSE is a fresh, fun and real podcast that explores the amazing impact that therapy and human connection can have on all areas of our lives. Louise and her favourite therapists, clinical psychologists & mental health experts take weekly thoughts, questions and stories as well as digging into Louise's life (the good, the bad and the ugly) so you know that you are not alone. From relationships to dating, to sex, intimacy, family, friendship and more, this podcast has something for everyone.

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Celibacy gets a bad rap, are we right? This week, Louise jumps into the Bumble controversy to reverse ANY sort of shame you might be feeling about your own dating and celibacy decisions after that tone deaf ad. Because, you know what, sometimes a man ban is actually the PERFECT answer. And us women? We’ve had enough of being told what to do for as long as we can remember. And if you don’t wanna date, hook up, sleep with anyone? You do you honey boo! Don’t let a billboard shame you. 
After a hot take intro where you get Louise all to yourself, Louise revives a past episode with Jordan Jeppe, shadow work guide and celibacy expert. Join Louise & Jordan for a real-talk girl episode as they:

Share their personal journeys with celibacy- one intentional, the other with a side of naughtiness. 

Debunk common misconceptions about celibacy (yes, you can still date!).

Explore how our shadow influences dating patterns.

Discuss the game-changing impact of setting boundaries and intentions in the dating stage.

Give us all the juicy details on navigating celibacy even while dating.

Unpack the concept of a 'sexual pause'. 


The pair’s raw, honest conversation will demystify the assumptions around celibacy and help you see it as a path to self-discovery, empowerment, and the best sex of your life!
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157 - DATING - Sometimes a man ban actually *is* the answer, Bumble

Crying over Biebs? You’re not alone. There Louise was. Standing in a cute little organic supermarket when it happened. Justin and Hailey Bieber announced that they were having a BABY! Her reaction? Silence and a weird smidge of… something? Had that feeling too? You’re not alone. That’s the story of how this episode was born. Pun intended!
From dreaming of running into your favorite star on the street to feeling personally offended when they're criticized, the allure of celebrity culture can be downright intoxicating. But why do we feel this intense connection to people we've never even met? And how does it affect us on a deeper level? AND HOW CAN WE REALLY BE UPSET WHEN SOMEONE WE HAVE NEVER MET ANNOUNCES THEY ARE HAVING A BABY WITH A WOMAN WHO IS NOT YOU? In today’s episode, Louise sits down to investigate the psychological and emotional aspects of celebrity worship and parasocial relationships.
In this episode, Louise dives into:

The slightly odd but hilarious reactions she and her friends had to the Beiber pregnancy announcement.

The psychology behind celebrity worship and the three levels of parasocial relationships.

Why the Selena v. Hailey/ Damon v. Stefan debates get us in a chokehold.

Why criticism of our favorite fandoms and idols evokes visceral reactions (looking at you, Swifties).

The delulu belief that we can "fix" or help celebrities like Justin Bieber.

Maladaptive daydreaming and escapism associated with celebrity fascination.

Themes of the sheer relentlessness of life, self-worth, and attachment styles.


And more!

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156 - The Bieber Baby Announcement: The Psychology of Why You Care ft. Louise Rumball

From the dreaded airport goodbyes to the joyous reunions, long distance relationships (LDR) can be HARD and EMOTIONALLY DRAINING. Add an anxious attachment style into the mix and you have the recipe for a rough ride ahead. Who are you with? Who are you f**king? What drugs are you taking? We’ve all at one point or another had these uncomfortable thoughts in an LDR but when managed well? They can also be beautiful, powerful testaments to a relationship that is worth going the long distance for! In today’s solo episode, Louise dives headfirst into the wild world of long-distance relationships to arm you with the tips and tricks you need to make your long distance love thrive across miles and time zones. 
In this episode, Louise spills the tea on: 

Her personal experience of navigating her 2-year long distance relationship.

Managing communication and staying emotionally connected.

The importance of maintaining trust in an LDR.

The power of thoughtful gestures.

The 9 tips she swears by to hack the long distance game + to keep the romance alive.

Facetiming fatigue and how you can spice things up in other ways.

Her straight-out-of-a-movie ultimate meet cute with her boyfriend.

And more!
So if you're currently in a long-distance relationship or considering taking the plunge, this episode is your ULTIMATE survival guide. It’s fast, it’s fun, and you get Louise all to yourself with plenty of heartfelt advice from someone who's been there, done that, and still believes that love knows no bounds!

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155 - Long Distance Relation-Tips ft. Louise Rumball

Situationships can be crazy, soul crushing, exhilarating journeys. Who can relate? One moment you’re on top of the world, the next you’re desperately waiting for them to text you back feeling like the world is going to end. You’re not alone if you’ve been left wondering how so much damage could be caused by such a short-lived experience. Today, in a highly requested solo episode, Louise dives deep into the REAL WHY behind how and why these situationships can f**k you up. 
Louise gets into the juicy details of:

How situationships can be tied to early life experiences, brain structure, nervous system, and neurotransmitter function (yes really).

The rollercoaster of emotions that come with a situationship 

How the concepts of hope & silence can drive our inner child crazy (and how inconsistency of the highs and lows can exacerbate this cycle)

The biochemistry of obsession

The concept of fantasy bonding & maladaptive daydreaming (and how it is actually a coping mechanism)

How imbalanced neurotransmitters can leave you craving situationships


And more.
Louise has been there. You’re not alone. You’re not going crazy and when you listen to this episode you will understand WHAT is going on a biochemical level and HOW this person has such a grip over you. Welcome to clarity, peace and healing!
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154 - Why a situationship f**ks you up more than a relationship ft. Louise Rumball

Healing girlies already know they need to heal their inner child - but where do you start? Today, Louise sits down with psychotherapist Tasha Bailey to get into this & more. 
Louise & Tasha discuss:

What inner child healing *actually is* 

How our childhood shapes our adulthood

The concept of age regressions (including you anger, we see you!)

The connection between the inner child, the inner critic, the shadow, and how you feel about yourself 

Big bad boundaries (and the importance of them when healing a wounded inner child) 

How important play is for children and adults alike


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120 - ABANDONMENT - How A Fear of Being Hurt Can Lead To You Abandoning Them First - Stephanie Therapy

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