"You can never be more Spiritually Mature (intimacy with God) than you are Emotionally mature (ability for intimate relationships with people.)" Emotional immaturity forms a ceiling to our Spiritual Maturity. Emotional immaturity comes from emotional wounds that have never been processed and dealt with. Things like anger, bitterness, resentment, anxiety, mistrust and unforgiveness are the result of emotional wounds and they not only block our horizontal intimacy but because the two are connected in God's heart and His Word, also our ability to have real intimacy with Him.

The pile of emotional garbage we carry throughout our lives is what sabotages our lives and relationships with God and others.

This chapter was added for the couples version of the workbook and raises and explores the question, "When did you and your spouse stop being partners and become competitors?"

I explain powerlessness as "Effective" powerlessness. In myself I don't have any power to control people, places, things "Effectively", which means with a positive outcome. Trying to control God, self, and others always results in life becoming "unmanageable."

I am powerless God is not. In this I develop the power of belief in every area of life. About God, Self, and Others. I challenge people to understand that you can "Never Act Contrary to What you Believe." All behavior is motivated by belief. It is an exercise in futility to try to change behavior without changing belief. However, It is possible to act "Contrary to what you say you believe, think you believe, have convinced yourself that you believe." When there is a contradiction between "behavior" and "belief" that means there is a "Lie" underneath which is what I really believe. We have to discover the lie and replace it with the truth. This is painful and difficult. It is like peeling the layers from an onion. Eventually we can get to the core.