We all possess an inner world, that we call the mind, no one doubts this. This inner world consists of our feelings, needs, intentions, perceptions, dreams, ambitions, expectations, amongst other.

Mentalization is about how we relate to this inner world, both that our own and of others', in a way that is open, curious and continuous. You can imagine how this is especially important in a marriage where you share so much of your life together.

Mentalization is therefore the focal point of episode #13, which is a continuation of the series ‘359 ° marriage’, were we focus on the many different facets of marriage. We talk about how the best framework for a good ability to mentalize is deeply dependent on a secure attachment to our parents. The ability to mentalize is something we take with us in to adult life and is especially important when we start a family of our own.

This ability determines how good we are at forming strong bonds with our loved ones. But it also determines our ability to understand and deal with strong emotions and reactions, in ourselves and others. 

Episode #12 is part 3 of our series on marriage - ‘359° marriage’. In this episode - 'Marriage & attachment style' - we address the first domain of married life, our past and how it plays a role in our current relationships.

We talk about the way of being in a relationship and our expectations for marriage and how they are inextricably linked to the childhood environment that we grew up in.

We also discuss how Attachment theory can help us understand the dynamics that shape our adult life, especially when it comes to our married life.

We review the four attachment styles/patterns that researchers points to and hopefully become clearer about our own either flexible or inhibitory behavior patterns and acquired coping mechanisms, when we face challenges or become insecure in our love life.

Episode #11 is part 2 of the introduction of our new series on marriage – called ‘359° marriage’. If you haven’t heard part 1 in the previous episode we recommend that you do so. In the first episode we introduced 2 of the 5 domains that our conversations on marriage will cover. In this episode we will cover the next 3 domains. The 3rd domain is intimacy in the relationship. Here focus isn’t on sexual intimacy but on curiosity in each other, friendship and vulnerability. The 4th domain is the practical aspect of the relationship such as personal goals, career, children, economy, chores in the family etc. The 5th domain is about ideals and ideology concerning relationships and gender roles. Here we discuss masculinity and femininity, sameness, and difference between the genders. We also discuss the role of societal and religious influence on the relationship. We hope you will enjoy this episode.

In episode #10 we launch a new series called, ‘359° marriage’. So in the following episodes our goal is to understand marriage more in depth, using our own personal journey but also psychological and sociological perspectives.

In the first episode we introduce 2 of the 5 domains that this series of conversations on marriage will cover. The first domain covers the individual background, upbringing, family life and other influences on both our perception on marriage and on how we take part in the couple. The second domain is focused on personal development or growth and what role it plays in a couple. Focus is here on responsibility, values, boundaries and self-awareness. The following 3 domains are covered in episode #11.

In episode #9 we discuss the interaction between being a minority and majority, between what we have in common and what we have in difference. The dynamic line between being a foreigner and being native.

Our conversation is tied to a question from a recent SAS (Scandinavian Airlines) commercial asks: “What is Scandinavian? Absolutely nothing!” -  states this SAS commercials.

Where do we land according to that logic? And why does the question hit a nerve? We use SAS's advertising on 'What is Scandinavian?’ to further the discussion about ethnicity, culture, religion and extremism. Listen in as we discuss everything from DNA testing, mass media, Cous Cous and extreme right movements.

In this episode we discuss both psychological, social as well as political dimensions of a subject that is globally relevant in an ever more connected and interdependent world.

Episode #8 is a discussion about some of the topics that we want to cover in the upcoming future. Some of the topics we discuss are focus on the individual VS the collective, the challenges between the genders, grown kids and relationship with parents, conservatism vs liberalism, modern technologies and much much more. Our discussion is tied up with what role our values play in all aspects our life.

Episode #7 is part 2 of our discussion about having small children, pursuing career and pros and cons of daycare.

If you haven’t heard the first part of this conversation you can find it in episode #6.

In episode #6 we address the topic of having small children, pursuing career and pros and cons of daycare.

For what matters most? Children or career? And how does it affect the choices we make concerning our small children. Can daycares replace the close relationships and the necessary security that our young loved ones so desperately need? If not, is it then better to prioritize your children and stay home with them while they are young? 

With three children of our own and high ambitions, we ourselves have been confronted with these issues.

Listen along as we share our thoughts, feelings, and attitudes when it comes to what we love most in life.

Note to listener: this podcast is in two part episode.