This lecture features the comparative analysis of our lives and the game of football or soccer, from the temporality of time to the compelling and obvious fact that something is happening in our lives at every point in time. Despite the delight and the disgust in the game, we need to develop the ability to focus not only on the goals but also on the process. The game is beautiful if we play it with fairness, dexterity, and creativity.

As the match goes on, whether we score goals or not, we should all be grateful that we are having the privilege of playing together on earth. I invite you to listen, learn and enjoy the metaphors, analysis, and approaches to life’s football matches as you edit your Youniverse!

The women have always had to put in extra efforts in ensuring that they play their roles in taking care of their families during the month of Ramadhan, so much so that it is unimaginable what the month would be like without them. This is why we should appraise their immeasurable contributions and appreciate their sacrifices.

This lecture gives hints on how the women can make things easy for themselves while cooking for their families, and how to also create time for worship activities during the month of Ramadan. After all, the reward system in Islamic worship provides that everyone, male and female will be rewarded in whatever ways they are able to serve humanity, especially by providing food to feed the needy. Listen, laugh, and learn as you edit your Youniverse!

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Our faces define our personalities and that is the gift we are to give to humanity. The face of fellow humans and other creatures in the universe are like mirrors that reflect the Face of Allah. So, in order for us to see the Face of Allah, we should seek His Face in bringing happiness to the faces of fellow humans through love, kindness, and charity.

This concept is taken from the Qur’an chapter 2, verse 115, and it explores the connection between the Face of Allah and the face of humans. It is an attempt to explain the Philosophy of the human face as well as the power and the mysteries of the human gaze. Listen, learn and enjoy as you edit your Youniverse!

Reality is the state of things as they actually exist, rather than as they may appear or might be imagined. Reality isn't harsh, and it isn't easy either.  It is just what it is.

In the midst of our daily struggle to fix, to figure, to pursue, to evade, or to sustain, one should not forget to appreciate what “today” entails. It is this adventure, this struggle, this “work in progress” nature of life that is probably part of what makes life an interesting journey. Realities have taught us that prayer doesn’t work with laziness, the guidance doesn’t work with ignorance, understanding doesn’t work with short-sightedness, and blessing doesn’t work with indiscipline.

Whatever our life or marital realities are, we should maintain a constant mentality of hope, love, and mercy. Listen, learn, and laugh as you edit your Youniverse!

What type of crime has anger not led people to commit? People have killed and destroyed because they were angry. Anger is a deviation from momentous cerebrations; an aberration to meaningful articulations. You would just kind of talk without saying anything, and you would say things without talking! Anger makes you shout, it makes you scream, it makes you hate, it makes you hit, it makes you hurt, it makes you cry. Then, it makes you suffer and makes you do stupid things; real stupid things that make you look really stupid! Anger makes you mess up your life, mess up your marriage, mess up your career, mess up your relationships, and mess up your destiny.

While we cannot completely rid ourselves of the emotion of anger, we must not let it becloud our other noble emotions of patience, understanding, and love. Anger in its right place may add grace to the overall quality of your life. But if you let it fester into malicious iniquities, the consequences would make your destiny appear complicated as if it was put together by a committee! This audio lecture was recorded on October 30, 2017, and presented here so you can listen, learn, laugh, and edit your Youniverse!

Domestic violence comes in many forms such as physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, financial/economic abuse, and so on. Under no circumstances are such abuses against women and men, in their various manifestations, encouraged or allowed in Islam. There are many examples in Qur'ān and ḥadīth that describe the sort of loving, respectful, and kind behaviour that husbands and wives ought to exhibit to one another. Islamic teachings indicate that marriage is mutual love and mercy between a couple and that its objectives, besides perpetuating human life, are emotional well-being and spiritual harmony. NOT violence! Listen, learn, and laugh as you edit your Youniverse!

A good friend is like a tonic: a medicinal concoction that is brewed to make us feel healthier, livelier, and re-energized. A “tonic friendship” therefore, is like a healthy blend of mutual respect, positive attachment, affection, loyalty, love, respect, and trust.

Conversely, toxic friends don’t nourish our souls but suck the verve out of our spirits. Is it not time for us to reconsider our stance in relationships that add no real value to our lives other than frustration and distractions?

The point is, many are successful in life today because they flowed with the right group of friends, while some are not getting ahead due to the toxic friends they are drifting with. Most importantly, the message of this audio lecture is that we should take into account not just what kind of friends we make, but also what kind of friends we are. So, listen, learn, laugh, and edit your Youniverse!

If you don’t take time to sharpen the axe of your relationships, you will lose touch with your true nature, and you become unable to create boundaries that protect, nurture, and sustain your self-worth. You misplace your crown.

This audio lecture tells stories to prod us to think, and practice the art of silence so as to listen to our spouses’ heartbeats every day. It teaches us to take care of ourselves and to take time to learn and grow, to love and rejuvenate our marriages. This is how to bring out the Kings and Queens in us, just like Sulaiman and the Queen of Sheba did.

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Wise counsels have freed us from paralyzing fears, severe anxieties, and overwhelming burdens. Can you imagine where we would be if not for people who offered us great, life-changing advice at every stage of our lives? Don’t people fail in life because they got bad advice from the wrong people? Should we take advice from just anyone who shows up to give us counsel? This audio lecture offers insights into the crucial things to consider before seeking, receiving, or giving advice in relationships, careers, financial matters, health issues, legal concerns, or spiritual journeys. Listen, learn, and laugh as you edit your Youniverse!

Malice is a form of emotional abuse typically employed by people without good communication skills, an inability to express a high level of empathy, and avoidance of conflict resolution. Keeping malice appears to be deeply ingrained in our culture, such that it is acceptable to shut somebody out as a way of punishment. A malicious husband or wife, because they cannot prevail over their spouse, or they have been insulted, offended, or have been deprived of their coveted ego massage, continues to harbour enmity towards their spouse, and the flames of anger and acrimony consume the love they share. This audio lecture explains pointers to narcissistic tendencies and how to handle malice in "loverland", depending on your unique situation. Listen, learn, and enjoy, as you edit your Youniverse!