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In this episode, you'll be inspired and motivated to take action! There are so many ways we can all help end sexual violence and how we, as survivors, can overcome our challenges and thrive!

We talked about Daniela's journey from survivor to thriver to warrior.

Daniela shared the many ways that Together for Girls is making a difference all around the world.

We discussed the different strategies we can all apply in our lives on micro and macro levels to end sexual violence.

We talked about what kind of support we all need to develop our own resiliency and determination to thrive and help prevent abuse for others.

And we spoke about what the future looks like when we all band together. Collectively, as a global community, we can all make an impact.

Let me be clear- this is not a Hallmark card statement- this is truth and a statement for action!

ABOUT DR. DANIELA LIGIERO

Dr. DanielaLigiero is the Executive Director and Chief Executive Officer of Together for Girls, a global, public-private partnership dedicated to ending violence against children, especially sexual violence against girls. The partnership includes five UN agencies, the governments of the United States and Canada, several private sector organizations and more than 20 country governments in Africa, Asia, Latin America and the Caribbean, working together to generate comprehensive data and solutions to this public health and human rights epidemic. Dr. Ligiero also serves as a member of the Executive Committee of the Global Partnership to End Violence Against Children.

WEBSITE:
http://togetherforgirls.org/

FACEBOOK:
https://www.facebook.com/togetherforgirls

Twitter:
https://twitter.com/together4girls

Also mentioned in the episode:
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In this informative and important episode, Amy and I talk about:

• At what age do you start teaching sex ed to your child

• At what age to start talking to your kids about porn exposure

• How to talk to kids about porn and help them stay safe

• Ways to stay on top of their internet usage

• How often to have these conversations

• What to do if kids do get exposed to it

• What to do if a child/teen find they can't stop consuming it

We'd love to know what your biggest takeaways were and what actions steps you're going to take regarding teaching your kids about porn literacy.

Screenshot this episode and tag Amy and me in your Instagram stories and let us know!

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ABOUT AMY LANG, MA:

Amy Lang, MA has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. With her lively, engaging and down-to-earth style she helps parents become their kid’s go-to birds and bees source. Amy’s books, online solutions center and podcast show parents that talking about sexuality doesn’t need to be totally uncomfortable and really can be fun. She also works with early childhood educators providing childhood sexuality and sexual abuse prevention training. Amy is still married to her first husband and they are getting the hang of parenting their recently launched man-child. She lives in Seattle, WA and you can learn more about Amy and her work at BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

RECOMMENDED BOOKS + RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE:

Books -Birds & Bees & Kids Bookstore

- Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.

- Good Pictures Bad Pictures

- It’s SO Amazing

- It’s Perfectly Normal

- Every Body Book

Amaze.org - great videos for kids

Circle.com - monitoring and parental controls

Solutions Center- one-stop-shop with everything you need to rock the sex talks: help to get you started; age-appropriate topics; porn prevention video; and vetted, age-appropriate videos and books for kids. 

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In this episode I talk about:

• How I started learning about human trafficking

• The Listen Hunnay episode with Jeannie Mai and Tera Hilliard that opened my eyes

• Why trafficking IS a problem that will knock at your door in some way, shape or form if you're a parent or are a caring adult for other children in your life.

• Ways that kids can be trafficked from infant to teens

• How adults can be trafficked through dating sites

• Why we all need to band together to solve this problem

• Organizations you can support, through donations, volunteering or sharing about them.

MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST:

Forgotten Children Inc.

Listen Hunnay Episode with Terra Hilliard 

ORGANIZATIONS FIGHTING HUMAN TRAFFICKING THAT I SUPPORT:

LOVE146.org

SAFEHOUSEPROJECT.org

POLARISPROJECT.org

UAHT.org

LEARN MORE ABOUT ABUSE PREVENTION AT

CONSENTPARENTING.com

"Are you willing to feel a little uncomfortable, so your children don't have to. Because when we turn our backs to this crime, children pay the price."

-Feather Berkower

WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT:

• How abuse prevention has changed over the last 30 years and what it looks like now

• Feather shared her story for how she got started and why she's so passionate about this work

• We talked about child and parent grooming and what parents need to know from a predator/offender perspective

• What parents who's children have been abuse should do to help empower their children and prevent revictimization

• What she has learned from offenders and what parents should know and do

• How parents should respond to a disclosure from a child 

• Feather also shared what is coming up for her in 2021 and how you can work with her to protect your family

ABOUT FEATHER BERKOWER

Feather Berkower, Founder of Parenting Safe Children, is a licensed clinical social worker and holds a Master’s of Social Welfare from the University of California, Berkeley. Feather is one of the nation’s leading experts in child sexual assault prevention. She has dedicated her career — which now spans over three decades — to educating parents and youth professionals on how to make their communities “off limits” to child sexual assault.

Using her community-based approach, she has trained over 150,000 schoolchildren, parents, and youth professionals across the United States.

Feather presents her well-regarded workshop, Parenting Safe Children, in schools, youth organizations, parenting groups, and businesses nation-wide. Now, Feather offers her workshop live via Zoom so people around the world can participate.

Feather co-authored Off Limits: A Parent’s Guide to Keeping Children Safe from Sexual Abuse, a parenting book that will change the way you think about keeping children safe. She also authored Conversation-Starter Cards that accompany Off Limits to help parents get conversations about body safety started with caregivers. They are both available on her website at parentingsafechildren.com.

Feather makes a difficult and sensitive topic less scary, and consistently impresses audiences with her knowledge, commitment, and warmth.

Feather is also available for private consultation at an hourly rate.

CONNECT WITH FEATHER

http://www.parentingsafechildren.com

https://www.instagram.com/parentingsafechildren/

https://www.facebook.com/parentingsafechildren/

https://twitter.com/FeatherBerkower

If you're a parent or not, this will help you reflect on how toxic masculinity has shaped your views and how you can break the cycle of toxic masculinity, mental health stigmas and reclaim your power as a child sexual abuse survivor.

Quentin shared on how he manages anxiety, what it can look like for others, and why it's important to get to the root of anxiety and not deal with it as a surface symptom.

We also talked about equity in communities of color and how this impacts mental health services and more! 

Shout out to Rebekah Borucki for making the connection for Quentin and me!

ABOUT QUENTIN:

Quentin Vennie is a celebrated wellness expert, philanthropist, keynote speaker, and author of the bestselling memoir, Strong In The Broken Places. He is the host of the new wellness and social justice podcast, “Freedom to Breathe”. His work has been featured in the Huffington Post, Thrive Global, Entrepreneur, Chicago Tribune, NBC News, Fox News, MindBodyGreen, and others. Quentin has been recognized as one of Black Enterprise magazine’s 100 Modern Men of Distinction and by the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention for his contribution in raising awareness for mental health and suicide prevention, as well as appearing as the wellness keynote speaker for Colin Kaepernick’s “Know My Rights” Camp. Quentin is passionate about working with youth in under-resourced communities, helping them understand their traumas and turn them into triumphs, and spearheads initiatives that make yoga and mindfulness accessible among communities and populations that don’t ordinarily have access to them. Having spent years practicing yoga and meditation, Quentin has found a recent passion in gardening and interior design as forms of anxiety management.
 

Website:

https://www.quentinvennie.com/

Social Media:

www.instagram.com/quentinvennie

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Please note there is a TRIGGER WARNING with this episode, so please be sure to take care of your mental health and if you need to pause the video and come back to it later, please do what is best for you!  

But I do want to let you know that this is an important episode to listen to, not just for the warning that online dangers are real, but because it also sheds light on how it happens, who can do it and what parents can do to be proactive and preventative.  

Cara Chace is a former Special Agent having conducted countless investigations of internet crimes against children, child exploitation, and child pornography. While she is now an online entrepreneur specializing in Pinterest marketing, her in-depth and unique experience in criminal law enforcement gives her a perspective and dose of real-world knowledge that is so needed.

Website:

www.carachace.com

www.onlinesafetyabc.ck.page/pdf  

Social Media:

www.instagram.com/carachace

Sponsor Links:

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Cue Dr. Nadine Thornhill, sexuality educator and all around awesome human! Nadine is a certified sex educator and Doctor of Education specializing in child and adolescent sexuality. She helps folks access fact-based information, and build strong communication skills so they can teach the kids in their life about for their bodies, building positive relationships, and feeling good about who they are!

She strives to work within sex-positive, queer-positive, anti-oppressive, and pro-choice frameworks.

In her nearly fifteen years as a sexuality educator, she's worked with thousands of people, and dozens of schools and organizations across North America. She offers regular media commentary on issues related to sex education. She's been featured on networks including CBC, CTV, and CITY TV and in publications such as Today’s Parent, Huffington Post, and Oprah Magazine.

In 2018, Ontario government announced the repeal of our province’s sex ed curriculum. In response, she created #SaveSexEd, a YouTube project wherein she taught every sex education module from Ontario’s Health and Phys Ed curriculum. That same year, she was named one of Flare Magazine’s Heroes In The Fight Against Gender-Based Violence. She currently produces and co-hosts the acclaimed web series Every Body Curious . Season two premiered June 1, 2020. You can watch season one here.

WEBSITE:

www.nadinethornhill.com

www.everybodycurious.com

INSTAGRAM:

https://www.instagram.com/nadinethornhill/

https://www.instagram.com/evrybodycurious/

FACEBOOK:

https://www.facebook.com/nadine.thornhill/

YOUTUBE:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJqQvHjzDtjLEu9IjpUh68Q

In this week's episode, I'm joined by psychotherapist Nicole Schiener to talk about the power of anger and how we can use it as transformative energy instead of a toxic one that depletes us.

We talked about:

• The conflicted relationship that many survivors and Black, Indigenous and People of Colour have with anger because of their trauma.
• Why is it so important for people with trauma to process their anger and not just 'get over it'.
• What survivors who are afraid of their anger can do, particularly if they're not sure how to express it.
• What reclaiming and transforming anger into healing looks like on a personal and collective level.
• How most survivors are told to get over things that happened a long time ago and how one can respond to these kinds of comments?
• What a humble warrior means and how we can all be a warrior for others.

This was most definitely an empowering episode and I can't wait for you to hear it!

ABOUT NICOLE SCHIENER:

Nicole Schiener is a Registered Psychotherapist in Ontario, Canada, and a published author. Her writing has been featured in the Gottman Blog and Elephant Journal. 

She provides counseling and supervision at a non-profit organization and sees clients privately at a wellness clinic in St. George, Ontario. 

Nicole is a member of her region's Sexual Assault Response Team and a mama to a teen son and 10-year-old daughter.

Nicole loves helping people connect to their inner expert and learn to dance with their emotions, embracing and celebrating their authentic self and the power of the human spirit to heal and thrive.

Currently, she's completing a compilation of short stories, poetry, and reflective questions on the awakening journey for highly sensitive mothers. Nicole believes, "World peace begins with inner peace."

CONNECT WITH NICOLE:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PeaceandPossiblity

Instagram: @mindfulmama_nsm 

Linktree with a collection of writing and free offers: http://www.linktr.ee/mindfulmama_nsm

FCC: http://www.fcccnd.com

STG FB for booking: https://www.facebook.com/stghealthandwellness

Other mentions in the episode is Asha Frost.

Find her at www.ashafrost.com

SPONSOR:

www.consentparenting.com/safetynetwork

It is for this reason that I invited Trauma Psychotherapist Adriana Alejandre to the podcast.

In this episode we talk about the taboo that continues to surround therapy and why it matters that we all shift our perspectives, now more than ever.

We also discussed why parents, particularly in the Latinx community, are still reluctant to seek mental health support, and also, how they can take steps to become more receptive to the idea.

We dived into what parents, caregivers or any adult can do when a child discloses abuse so that they don't re-traumatize the child, including themselves if they are survivors.

We also talked about why it's so important for kids to get the right mental health support after a disclosure so that they can lessen the long term negative effects that abuse can have and begin to heal sooner, which can dramatically improve their ability to live a happier life.

There were so many little gems as well that will make you take pause and think about how you can support those in your life who are survivors or if you're a parent and never thought about these topics.

I hope you take steps consistently to care for your mental health in these times of crisis so that you can be well, stay well and support your family through this time.

ABOUT ADRIANA ALENJANDRE:

Adriana Alejandre is a Trauma Psychotherapist and Speaker from Los Angeles, California. She specializes in adults who struggle with PTSD and severe traumas at her own private practice. She has done disaster relief work for Hurricane Harvey and Las Vegas shooting survivors. Adriana’s clinical work has been featured in Univision, LA Times, the New York Times and Buzzfeed.

Adriana is also the founder of the internationally recognized, Latinx Therapy, directory and bilingual podcast that destigmatizes mental health & provides education to combat the stigma through technology and actual mental health services. In 2019, she won Hispanizice’s Best Social Good Content award. Her podcast has been featured in iTunes’ Top 200, Spotify’s Top 30 Latin shows, Fierce by Mitu , and has been heard in 112 countries. Adriana’s mission is to create spaces to spark dialogue about mental health struggles and strengths in the Latinx community.

CONNECT WITH ADRIANA:

Website: https://latinxtherapy.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/latinxtherapy

Twitter: https://twitter.com/latinxtherapy

Instagram (Latinx Therapy): https://www.instagram.com/latinxtherapy/

Instagram (Adriana): https://www.instagram.com/latinxtherapist/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSEQTK3ijZJDTcXb2KsOz5Q

TW: This episode contains discussions on domestic and sexual violence and loss. Please take care of your mental wellness.
 

In this episode, Arlene Salcedo talks about her journey from witnessing domestic violence, sexual trauma in her teens, the loss of a child in her 20's, to finally tapping into her own inner wisdom, power, and awakening.

Arlene's transcendence from trauma to empowered healer has been a testament to the strength of the human spirit and one that can shine as an example of how we can all step into our own power.

I hope you find that you, too, can step into your own power and reclaim the parts of yourself that may feel like they were damaged, taken, broken or lost. You have the power inside you to heal and overcome your past.
 

ABOUT ARLENE SALCEDO:

Arlene is a 200 Certified RYT Yoga Instructor, Reiki Practioner, and Human Design Chart Reader. Arlene is the curator of Luna Soul Wellness; she began healing and teaching through yoga and holistic care. Her passion to support others’ healing journey had always been prevalent. She believes healing and change begin with self-love and self-awareness practices. Her principle approach is to encourage women to learn, embrace, and embody the natural lifestyle, Holistic healing, and self-care so they can live a balanced life and be their own healer.
 

CONNECT WITH ARLENE AND HER WORK AT:
WEBSITE:

https://www.lunasoulwellness.com/

INSTAGRAM:

https://www.instagram.com/lunasoulwellness/
 

FACEBOOK:

https://www.facebook.com/lunasoulwellness

YOUTUBE:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYE6apEhV9hFZiovxrTnqMw?view_as=subscriber
 

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