Today we talk about dating outside of your race, racism on Grindr and if romantic/sexual choices come down to bias, preference or fetish.

Trigger warning- discussions about race and racism.

Drag queen extraordinaire Mahatma comes to visit us again fresh from a very busy year. We talk about his latest gigs (including Glastonbury), his stint on MTV dating show True Love Or True Lies and when he bumped into RuPaul in Primark!

We chat to drag and burlesque performer, Samuel Harding-Brian AKA Eileen Bothways.

We talk about being non binary and trans on the drag scene, drag race, gender, performance and so much more! You can find Eileen on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/eileenbothways/?hl=en

We are now on Youtube!!! You can watch this episode filmed live at Outlet Studios here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cj1rCMY2Pec

Today we talk to Ade Adeniji from the Quest for Gay Men. In the conversation we talk about, coming out, family pain, race, adoption, healing wounds and growing up gay and Nigerian in the western world, in the 70s.

You can find out more about Ade and The Quest below:-

https://www.thequestawaitsyou.com/about/key-players/ade-adeniji/

https://www.thequestawaitsyou.com/

http://walkwithyou.me/about/

Recorded at Outlet Studios, London.

As two former people pleasers, we talk about what we have learned. And discuss what resources we like to use in order to heal and grow away from unhealthy relationships.

People and resources we mention are:-

Natalie Lue at Baggage Reclaim https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/

Ross Rosenberg https://www.selfloverecovery.com/

Julia Cameron, author of the The Artist Way https://juliacameronlive.com/

Esther Hicks https://www.abraham-hicks.com/

Lourdes Viado and her Women In-depth podcast https://lourdesviado.com/womenindepth/

Nana and Sharlene join Zak and Anola again to talk about all kinds of unwanted attention and how it can happen no matter your sexuality or gender. In the era of #metoo, we discuss DM sliding, harassment, entitlement and how certain violations are normalised in some scenes and subcultures.

We are joined by Sharlene and Nana this week so it's Kiki squared! Topics range from first crushes, family reactions and valentines day blues to mental health, drugs and Fyre Festival.

This week we chat to the wonderful and hilarious Mahatma Khandi! The stylist/drag queen can be seen performing with the amazing Sink The Pink https://sinkthepink.co.uk/,

and the queer Asian collective, The Bitten Peach https://www.instagram.com/bittenpeachuk/

Check him out on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/mahatmakhandi/

During our chat, we talk to him about growing up in Italy, going to international school, how to use comedy to talk about politics, Asian representation and Crazy Rich Asians, Liam Neeson and collective responsibility, saying thank you after sex, advice on clothes and personal style, Rupaul's Drag Race, all other things drag and so much more! For information on Simon Sinek, who we mention when we talk about social media, his website is https://startwithwhy.com/.

Anola and Zak discuss attraction, personality, values and what else they think is important in relationships. And also how Hollywood rom coms are really rom cons.

Zakariya Adeel talks about The Quest- a programme designed for gay men to gain confidence and self acceptance. Their mission statement states that the programme is designed 'to help gay men better understand and transform the relationships they have with themselves, others and the world they inhabit'. Find more information on their website https://www.thequestawaitsyou.com.

We mention two good books on a similar theme- 'Straight Jacket' by Matthew Todd and 'The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World' by Alan Downs.