Resilient people don’t mistake all pain for punishment and they don't take all pain personally.

Resilient people avoid permanent solutions for temporary problems.

There is a winning strategy for flourishing families and it’s NOT unbundling family. It’s not taking out the parts we don’t like: the responsibility, the commitment, the difficult relationship and just grabbing the parts we want a la carte. Family is not about what you can “get out” of it…but what you can PUT IN!