In this conversation, Blu and Hayley Leishman explore the complexities of addiction, trauma, and recovery. They discuss Haley's journey from recreational therapy to becoming a certified coach and obtaining a master's degree in counseling. The conversation delves into the connection between trauma and addiction, the importance of celebrating small wins in recovery, and the challenges of addressing behavioral addictions, particularly pornography. They also touch on the stigma surrounding these issues and the need for support systems for both individuals struggling with addiction and their partners. The discussion emphasizes the significance of emotional intimacy in relationships and the impact of attachment styles on addiction behaviors. In this conversation, the speakers delve into the complexities of attachment styles, the impact of technology on relationships, and the challenges of modern sexuality. They discuss the importance of open communication about topics like pornography and the role of trauma in shaping relationships. The conversation highlights the power of EMDR therapy in fostering resilience and growth after trauma, emphasizing the need for honest discussions in relationships to navigate these challenges effectively.

Listen to our previous episode with Hayley where she shares some of her personal story. https://addicttoathlete.libsyn.com/sober-sunrise  Follow Hayley on IG- @cliffrosetherapy

Takeaways

• Haley's journey highlights the importance of education in trauma and addiction.
• Many individuals suffer in silence, especially those not in the justice system.
• Pain from trauma is not meant to be carried indefinitely.
• Establishing trust is crucial in therapeutic relationships.
• Celebrating small wins can lead to significant progress in recovery.
• Behavioral addictions are often overlooked but equally devastating.
• Stigma around pornography addiction can hinder recovery efforts.
• Partners of addicts need support and reassurance.
• Emotional intimacy is often lacking in relationships affected by addiction.
• Understanding attachment styles can help address underlying issues in addiction. Anxiously attached and avoidantly attached individuals often attract each other.
• EMDR can help unravel attachment issues by addressing core emotional triggers.
• Technology has created disconnection in relationships, especially among younger generations.
• Young women often feel pressured to monetize their bodies, impacting their self-worth.
• The average age for first exposure to pornography is now around 11 years old.

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