Navigating family law transitions can be complex, especially for neurodivergent women. If you've ever worried about how your ADHD diagnosis or struggles with executive function might be perceived during a divorce or co-parenting discussion, this episode is your empowering guide.

In this episode of ADHD &..., Jorie Houlihan sits down with Jessica Weiner, an experienced family law attorney, Guardian ad Litem, and mediator. Jessica demystifies the legal system and explains why you don't need to hide your true self. In fact, she shares why it's crucial to stop masking behind closed doors and instead be fully open and honest with your legal representation .

We discuss how the court actually values parents who actively seek treatment and do the hard work , how to share the mental load in a co-parenting relationship by leaning into each other's unique strengths , and the practical steps to take if you and your ex disagree on an ADHD diagnosis for your child . Whether you are navigating adult ADHD in women or simply looking for ways to advocate for your family, this episode is packed with validation, legal clarity, and practical advice.

Our Guest:

Jessica Weiner, FW Family Law Group

Website: https://fwfamilylawgroup.com/

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Do you have the time, the ability, and even the desire to do a task, but you literally cannot make yourself move to start it? You aren't lazy, and you aren't broken. You are hitting the "Activation Wall."

In this episode, Jorie Houlihan demystifies "Activation Dysfunction" - the neurological gap between intention and action that plagues so many women with late-diagnosis ADHD. If you have spent decades asking, "Am I just lazy?" or struggling with the shame of "doom piles" and unanswered emails, this episode is the validation (and the solution) you need.

We move beyond "just do it" advice (which doesn't work for our brains) and dive into evidence-based strategies to trick your neurology into getting started.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The "Laziness" Myth: The crucial difference between procrastination, laziness, and activation dysfunction.
• The Neuroscience of "Stuck": How dopamine dysregulation, working memory limits, and urgency bias create the invisible wall.
• Micro-Starting: How to lower the activation threshold so your brain can't say no.
• Body Doubling: Why working alongside others (even virtually) cures analysis paralysis.
• Gamification: Turning chores into challenges to hack your dopamine levels.

Resources Mentioned:

• Body Doubling App: Focusmate

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• Your ADHD Action Blueprint: Learn More!
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Disclaimer: Jorie Houlihan and the "ADHD &..." podcast are not medical professionals. The information shared in this episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and should not be taken as medical advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider regarding your specific health needs.

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In this episode of ADHD &..., host Jorie Houlihan sits down with Dr. Emily Levy, founder of EBL Coaching, to explore how multisensory learning can unlock the potential of students with ADHD and dyslexia who often fall through the cracks of traditional education.

Dr. Levy demystifies the complex differences between 504 plans and IEPs , sheds light on the quiet struggle of executive dysfunction in girls , and shares actionable strategies like the "Estimated Time vs. Actual Time" technique to drastically improve time management.

Whether you are a parent advocating for your child's specific learning needs or an adult navigating your own neurodivergence, this conversation offers a refreshing perspective on how finding the right research-based tools—rather than just working harder—can lead to lifelong academic and professional success.

Resources Mentioned:

Strategies for Study Success Workbook Series

Flags and Stars Multisensory Math

Overcoming Dyslexia by Sally Shaywitz

A Mind at a Time by Mel Levine

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• Your ADHD Action Blueprint: Learn More!
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Disclaimer: Jorie Houlihan and the "ADHD &..." podcast are not medical professionals. The information shared in this episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and should not be taken as medical advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider regarding your specific health needs.

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Ever start a new routine on Monday only to have it completely fall apart by Wednesday? You aren't lazy, and you don't need more "discipline." In this episode, host Jorie Houlihan breaks down the "Wednesday Crash" and explains why traditional planning advice fails the ADHD brain. We dive into the biology of boredom, why interest regulation matters more than attention, and the specific tools—like body doubling and dopamine menus—that actually work for neurodivergent minds.

Links Mentioned:

• Previous Episode on Body Doubling: https://rss.com/podcasts/adhd-and/2328710
• FocusMate (Digital Coworking): FocusMate
• James Clear / "Never Miss Twice" Concept: https://jamesclear.com/
• Jorie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joriehoulihan

Show me what you got done this week! Post it on Instagram and tag me!

Disclaimer:

Jorie Houlihan and the "ADHD &..." podcast are not medical professionals. The information shared in this episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and should not be taken as medical advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider regarding your specific health needs.

If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and tell us your biggest takeaway in the comments!

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• Your ADHD Action Blueprint: Learn More!
• My Favorite Things!: https://joriehoulihan.com/favorite-things

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What if your home or office clutter is just the tip of the iceberg? In this episode, Jorie sits down with Barbara Hemphill, a pioneer of the organizing industry and author of Taming the Paper Tiger and Less Clutter, More Life.

Barbara reveals that physical and digital clutter are often symptoms of deeper emotional and spiritual blockages. Together, they explore why "just cleaning up" rarely works for the ADHD brain and how to shift your mindset from "what should I do?" to "what will I do?".

Whether you are drowning in paper, paralyzed by digital files, or struggling to organize family photos, this episode offers hope-filled strategies to help you accomplish your work and enjoy your life.

Resources Mentioned:

• Free Training: lesscluttermorelife.com
• Barbara’s Website: barbarahemphill.com
• How to Make Your Closet a Productive Environment
• Books: Taming the Paper Tiger and Less Clutter, More Life

If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and tell us which of her tips you are going to try in the comments!

Disclaimer:

Jorie Houlihan and the "ADHD &..." podcast are not medical professionals. The information shared in this episode is for educational & entertainment purposes only & should not be taken as medical advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider regarding your specific health needs.

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In this episode of ADHD &..., host Jorie Houlihan tackles the "identity crisis" that often follows a late ADHD diagnosis. It’s not just about learning why you can’t focus; it’s about realizing that the story you’ve told yourself for decades - that you were lazy, flaky, or "too much" - might need a complete rewrite. Jorie explores the complex mix of relief and grief that comes with this realization and offers five actionable steps to navigate this shift with curiosity rather than judgment.

Key Topics Discussed:

• The "Identity Shift" Explained: Why a diagnosis often feels like grieving a version of yourself you thought was true.
• The Conflict of Emotions: Understanding why your brain might feel relief and anger simultaneously.
• Reframing the Past: Shifting the narrative from "I’m a quitter" to "I was in an environment that didn’t support my brain".
• Reclaiming Your Strengths: How to stop apologizing for traits like creativity and spontaneity that are actually ADHD strengths.
• 5 Steps to Navigate the Shift: From separating your worth from your diagnosis to intentionally rebuilding your self-image.

Links & Resources:

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Jorie Houlihan and the "ADHD &..." podcast are not medical professionals. The information shared in this episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and should not be taken as medical advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider regarding your specific health needs.

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#ADHDWomen #ADHDLife #NeurodivergentWomen #ADHDPodcast

Do you feel like everyone else got the "memo" on how to be an adult while you are constantly playing catch-up?. If you have ADHD - especially if you were diagnosed later in life - this feeling of being behind in your career, finances, and relationships is a common, exhausting reality.

In this episode, Jorie Houlihan breaks down why this happens and why it is not a character flaw, but a result of neurochemistry. We explore the specific ADHD symptoms that contribute to this phenomenon, including time blindness, working memory challenges, and executive function deficits.

Key Takeaways:

• The Neurobiology of "Behind": Why standard productivity advice fails neurodivergent brains and how the gap between "knowing" and "doing" creates shame.
• Time Blindness: How distorted time perception makes you feel like you are constantly starting over or stuck in a "time portal" where years vanish.
• Comparison Traps: Why comparing your "behind the scenes" to a neurotypical's "highlight reel" destroys your momentum.
• Actionable Systems:
  • Check Your Capacity: Assess what actually works for your brain using curiosity rather than judgment.
  • Ditch Willpower: Replace discipline with gamification, body doubling, and novelty.
  • Reject the Timeline: Accept that societal milestones were not designed for your operating system.
  • Redefine "Ahead": Distinguish between what you actually want versus what you think you "should" want.

Resources Mentioned:

• Clarity + Action Intensive: A premium private coaching experience for women ready to build a life that works with their brain, not against it. Learn More & Apply

Disclaimer:

Jorie Houlihan and the "ADHD &..." podcast are not medical professionals. The information shared in this episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and should not be taken as medical advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider regarding your specific health needs.

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✅ Share this episode with an ADHD friend who always feels behind.

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In this episode of ADHD &..., host Jorie Houlihan sits down with Lauri Stern, founder of Custom Designed Wellness, to explore the powerful intersection of holistic health and neurodivergency. Together, they discuss how modalities like Reiki, yoga, and chakra balancing can help women with ADHD navigate burnout, emotional dysregulation, and the journey of late diagnosis. Lauri shares her "Real meets Woo" approach, offering practical tools for grounding, processing negative self-talk, and creating a wellness routine that actually sticks.

About the Guest

Lauri Stern is the founder of Custom Designed Wellness, where she empowers individuals to cultivate self-awareness and balance. As a yoga teacher, Reiki practitioner, and author, she guides people on transformative journeys that integrate ancient wisdom with modern self-care. She is also the host of The Real and the Woo podcast.

Connect with Lauri Stern:

• Website: www.customdesignedwellness.com
• Podcast: The Real and the Woo
• Instagram: @sternlauri
• LinkedIn: Lauri Stern

Disclaimer:

Jorie Houlihan and the "ADHD &..." podcast are not medical professionals. The information shared in this episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and should not be taken as medical advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider regarding your specific health needs.

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I’m a life coach, not a medical or mental health professional—this content is for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional care.

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#ADHDWomen #ADHDLife #NeurodivergentWomen #ADHDPodcast

Welcome to the Season 2 premiere of ADHD &...! In this episode, Jorie tackles a concept many women with ADHD experience but often lack the language to describe: Learned Helplessness.

If you have ever felt like you are just "not trying hard enough," or if you avoid tasks because you are convinced you will fail, this episode is for you. Jorie explains that this feeling isn't a character flaw or a lack of motivation. It is a psychological response to repeatedly trying neurotypical strategies that weren't built for your brain.

In this episode, we cover:

• Defining Learned Helplessness: Understanding why your brain decides to stop trying after repeated struggles.
• The "Neurotypical Trap": Why trying harder at systems designed for other brains leads to burnout, not success.
• The Consistency Myth: How "all-or-nothing" thinking sabotages your progress and how to embrace flexibility instead.
• Self-Awareness vs. Shame: Why understanding your specific triggers (like "out of sight, out of mind") is more effective than brute force.
• Identifying the Signs: How learned helplessness manifests as avoidance, not asking for help, or dismissing your own capabilities.

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Clarity + Action Intensive: A premium one-on-one coaching program designed to help you build a system specifically for your unique ADHD brain: Learn More

I’m a life coach, not a medical or mental health professional—this content is for education only, not a substitute for professional care.

Next Week: Join us for a conversation with Laurie Stern from the Real and the Woo podcast on tuning into your body to manage emotional dysregulation.

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What happens when you finally get an ADHD diagnosis at 49?

In the very first episode of ADHD &… with Jorie Houlihan, I share my personal story of living decades with guilt, procrastination, and shame before realizing I wasn’t lazy—I had ADHD.

From forgotten appointments and abandoned planners to the surprising role TikTok played in me finally getting my diagnosis, this episode is about what it really feels like to be a late-diagnosed woman with ADHD.

You’ll hear about the grief and relief that comes with an answer, why “trying harder” never worked, and why I created this podcast to give women real tools, real talk, and zero shame.

🎧 Listen now and remember: you are not broken—you’ve just been using the wrong owner's manual.

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I’m a life coach, not a medical or mental health professional—this content is for education only, not a substitute for professional care.

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