Taylor Paslay was adopted at birth and she grew up knowing all of her family, even her biological parents. She grew up in an amazing and healthy family. Adoption to her is so normal! Her and her brother were both adopted and that’s the life they always knew. Because of this Taylor has always had a passion to adopt children of her own. She now has three children. Two that are biological and then an 8 month old who was adopted from birth. They also received a call a few weeks ago and are moving into another open adoption with a little girl.

Taylor is a wife, mama, and also works with those wanting to adopt. Adoption is a part of every aspect of her life. The desire to adopt was birthed in her story. Her husband has also always had a desire to adopt. When they first met they connected right away knowing that they both desired to adopt. It has always been a core aspect of their marriage. They never knew when it would all happen, but God called them and spoke to them when it was time.

It took them 2 1/2 years to finish their adoptions but it was so worth it in the end. Taylor begin working to help people adopt half way through their own adoption process. She loves to help people walk through open adoptions because that has been such a positive and special part of her story. She loves helping people address their fears and concerns and finding hope in it all.

With three kids transitioning to four soon the Paslay family has learned the value and importance in intentionality. All of their kids receive love, discipline, and communication differently. The family has learned what is most important to each child and how they can meet their love needs in simple and small ways each day. One of her greatest goals is that every child feels loved and cared for at the end of the day. Practically they have monthly dates with each child where they get special one on one time with each parent.

When they set out on their adoption journey Taylor felt unprepared on what to do with mixing biological children with adopted children because it was so different from her upbringing. Ultimately God met her and gave her the help and guidance that she needed to navigate this season. The family did lots of training but God has been the main guide in their transracial adoptions.

The family has decided to involve their kids in every step of the way. They make the process age appropriate but they also want their kids to be a part of the real life journey of adoption. Life is hard and there are so many times that we fall down and in this process of adopting their kids got to see their parents falling yet letting God pick them up again. They got to watch their parents be vulnerable and give everything to Jesus. They learned from a young age that not everything goes perfectly but ultimately they can always trust God.

Their goal is to raise their children to be their adopted siblings biggest advocates. Teaching them that they are siblings through and through.

Taylor’s biggest piece of advice for people thinking about adopting is that fear is a nasty beast. There is so many unknowns but when we submit ourselves to truth we find peace even in the unknown. The first hurdle to overcome is learning to come to the understanding that you can. You can love your kids the same. You can raise enough money. You can take care of both biological and adopted children. The second hurdle is finances. God will not call you to something that He will not sustain you through. He will provide.

God pulls through for family every single time!

Don’t miss out on the joy that awaits you on the other side because of the hard stuff you’ll have to go through in the middle.

Faith is being willing to take the first step even when you can’t see the top of the staircase. There is a sovereign God who has worked everything out for you. He will take care of you in this process.