Adoption Wise

Did you know there are 700 kids who age out of foster care each year just in Georgia? 97% of youth who age out without a significant, stable person in their lives will end up in poverty or worse. 70% of male youth who age out will end up in jail or prison.

There is a solution to these dire statistics. Today's guest, Pam Parish, tells us what that is. She also talks about ways we can support these youth and change their futures.

Pam Parish is the founder of Connections Homes an Atlanta-based organization impacting the lives of young adults who are aging out of foster care, homeless or without family. She and her husband, Steve, are the parents of seven young adult daughters. One of their daughters came to them through the gift of birth and six through the gift of foster care and adoption. They are also Pops and Nana to four adorable grandchildren.

Links Relevant to this episode:

#11: Hope for Battle-Weary Parents with Pam Parish

Pam's Website

Pam's books (including The Gift)

The Adoption Connection Facebook Group

Lisa and Melissa answer this reader question:

How do I handle parenting multiple children with high needs and challenging behaviors?

Chores - do you make your kids do them? Is it worth it? What if your child refuses to do his chore?

In this episode, Lisa and Melissa talk about the importance of including our kids in the work of the family, while also being mindful of our kids' needs and abilities.

We talk about how and when our families do chores and how we avoid huge conflicts. Don't miss this practical episode.

Join the discussion about chores in our private Facebook group. Click here to join.

Links Relevant to this episode:

How To Get Your Kids To Do Chores (Without Resenting It)

Kids and Chores [Video]

5 Tips: Chores for Kids from "Hard Places"

Chores - do you make your kids do them? Is it worth it? What if your child refuses to do his chore?

In this episode, Lisa and Melissa talk about the importance of including our kids in the work of the family, while also being mindful of our kids' needs and abilities.

We talk about how and when our families do chores and how we avoid huge conflicts. Don't miss this practical episode.

Join the discussion about chores in our private Facebook group. Click here to join.

Links Relevant to this episode:

How To Get Your Kids To Do Chores (Without Resenting It)

Kids and Chores [Video]

5 Tips: Chores for Kids from "Hard Places"

 

Chores - do you make your kids do them? Is it worth it? What if your child refuses to do his chore?

In this episode, Lisa and Melissa talk about the importance of including our kids in the work of the family, while also being mindful of our kids' needs and abilities.

We talk about how and when our families do chores and how we avoid huge conflicts. Don't miss this practical episode.

Join the discussion about chores in our private Facebook group. Click here to join.

Links Relevant to this episode:

How To Get Your Kids To Do Chores (Without Resenting It)

Kids and Chores [Video]

5 Tips: Chores for Kids from "Hard Places"

 

Chores - do you make your kids do them? Is it worth it? What if your child refuses to do his chore?

In this episode, Lisa and Melissa talk about the importance of including our kids in the work of the family, while also being mindful of our kids' needs and abilities.

We talk about how and when our families do chores and how we avoid huge conflicts. Don't miss this practical episode.

Join the discussion about chores in our private Facebook group. Click here to join.

Links Relevant to this episode:

How To Get Your Kids To Do Chores (Without Resenting It)

Kids and Chores [Video]

5 Tips: Chores for Kids from "Hard Places"

 

Picture this, your child is falling apart, ramping up, and he's totally flipped his lid. Your fear starts to creep up. How do you make him stop?

You've been there, right? So have we.

In this week's episode, Robyn Gobbel helps us understand what is happening in us and our kids during times of dysregulation. Then she offers practical tips to help our children regulate.

Don't miss her explanation about the importance of matching our children's energy in the moment, which is different from being calm.

Links Relevant to this episode:

Robyn on Facebook

Gobbel Counseling Website

Episode 6: Helping Kids Process Scary Events with Robyn Gobbel

Episode 25: Regulating Through Movement and Play with Robyn Gobbel

Mentor Moments:

This week Lisa and Melissa answer the question:

"When you have been in the trenches and people say things like....'You knew what you were getting in to' or 'It was your choice to adopt,”...How does one gracefully respond?"

Picture this, your child is falling apart, ramping up, and he's totally flipped his lid. Your fear starts to creep up. How do you make him stop?

You've been there, right? So have we.

In this week's episode, Robyn Gobbel helps us understand what is happening in us and our kids during times of dysregulation. Then she offers practical tips to help our children regulate.

Don't miss her explanation about the importance of matching our children's energy in the moment, which is different from being calm.

Links Relevant to this episode:

Robyn on Facebook

Gobbel Counseling Website

Episode 6: Helping Kids Process Scary Events with Robyn Gobbel

Episode 25: Regulating Through Movement and Play with Robyn Gobbel

Mentor Moments:

This week Lisa and Melissa answer the question:

"When you have been in the trenches and people say things like....'You knew what you were getting in to' or 'It was your choice to adopt,”...How does one gracefully respond?"

*If you're already on our email list, you automatically receive each week's download in our Quick Connection email.

Picture this, your child is falling apart, ramping up, and he's totally flipped his lid. Your fear starts to creep up. How do you make him stop?

You've been there, right? So have we.

In this week's episode, Robyn Gobbel helps us understand what is happening in us and our kids during times of dysregulation. Then she offers practical tips to help our children regulate.

Don't miss her explanation about the importance of matching our children's energy in the moment, which is different from being calm.

Links Relevant to this episode:

Robyn on Facebook

Gobbel Counseling Website

Episode 6: Helping Kids Process Scary Events with Robyn Gobbel

Episode 25: Regulating Through Movement and Play with Robyn Gobbel

Mentor Moments:

This week Lisa and Melissa answer the question:

"When you have been in the trenches and people say things like....'You knew what you were getting in to' or 'It was your choice to adopt,”...How does one gracefully respond?"

 

Support Regulation Through Movement

This download contains suggestions for regulating and proprioceptive activities. Additionally, there is a list of behaviors that may indicate your child's level of arousal.

*If you're already on our email list, you automatically receive each week's download in our Quick Connection email.

Picture this, your child is falling apart, ramping up, and he's totally flipped his lid. Your fear starts to creep up. How do you make him stop?

You've been there, right? So have we.

In this week's episode, Robyn Gobbel helps us understand what is happening in us and our kids during times of dysregulation. Then she offers practical tips to help our children regulate.

Don't miss her explanation about the importance of matching our children's energy in the moment, which is different from being calm.

Links Relevant to this episode:

Robyn on Facebook

Gobbel Counseling Website

Episode 6: Helping Kids Process Scary Events with Robyn Gobbel

Episode 25: Regulating Through Movement and Play with Robyn Gobbel

Mentor Moments:

This week Lisa and Melissa answer the question:

"When you have been in the trenches and people say things like....'You knew what you were getting in to' or 'It was your choice to adopt,”...How does one gracefully respond?"

*If you're already on our email list, you automatically receive each week's download in our Quick Connection email.

Why is it so hard for our kids to stay calm and regulated? And how can we help them learn how to do it?

Today's guest, Robyn Gobbel, gives us a great explanation of how our kids' brains respond to stressors. She offers us practical ways to help them regulate through movement that is:

Rhythmic

Repetitive

Relational

Somatosensory

Links Relevant to this episode:

Robyn on Facebook

Gobbel Counseling Website

Episode 6: Helping Kids Process Scary Events with Robyn Gobbel

Episode 26: What To Do When Your Child is Out of Control with Robyn Gobbel

The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce Perry (this is an affiliate link)

Go Noodle

Mentor Moments:

This week Lisa and Melissa answer the question:

"How can I feel okay with fostering a child I don’t feel I can adopt but still want to foster so the child in question can become stable enough to move on at the right time? How do I reconcile that in my head and in my heart?"