Adulthood: Revisited

Hi, hey, howdy, A:R Nation!

Happiness.

What is it?  Do some people or life forms have greater access to it than others?

Have we made happiness too complicated in our own lives?

I was thinking about my dog, and what makes him happy (or at least what I think makes him happy).

Why is it that my dog can experience happiness more easily and more regularly than I can?

That got me thinking about the universe, and whether we can find ways to experience happiness more in our own lives.

It starts with identifying what we think makes us happy.

From there, how far down can we distill the things that make us happy?

After we distill happiness for our own lives, imagine for a moment how much more accessible happiness can be in our lives - right here, and right now.

Don't worry, be happy.  This is the Adulthood:Revisited Podcast.

Hello, hello, A:R Nation!

When you're faced with a decision, what guides you?

I'm not talking just about logic or emotion.

I'm talking about the small voice in your mind.

In this episode, I'm happy to have as a guest a friend and colleague from my BNI networking chapter William Bolls.

William is successful licensed real estate broker and realtor with Compass here in the NYC area, as well as in Connecticut.

In our conversation, there wasn't much talk about shop, but rather the journey that William has had and why he's done it.

William starts us off with sharing his journey, growing up in a small town in Texas.

Sure enough, William shares that opportunities presented themselves to him that had him deciding yes or no in a big way.

One of those decisions he had to make was when a friend invited him to go out to live in California.

As William shares, his 'youthful optimism' guided his yes.

Later on, an opportunity presented to take him to New York, where he had to navigate changing priorities and wants in life.

While in New York, opportunities for change in William's career opened up, which would take him from the video and image world into NYC real estate.

As he shares, it was dogged tenacity and a refusal to fail that helped William build a successful real estate practice.

More recently, William once again underwent a huge change in both his career and lifestyle, moving from NYC to Connecticut.

In all of these decisions, he shares his experience navigating each of those moments of time.

He dives into tapping into the wisdom that exists in him and in each one of us, to know that we can trust in ourselves to make things work out.

Finally, William leaves us with some parting guidance, not just about why he thinks he's succeeded in the crazy world of NYC real estate, but how we could each succeed in any endeavor as long as we keep this in mind.

This conversation with William Bolls is thoughtful and spirited, highlighting the wisdom we all have access to inside ourselves, and to be comfortable with trusting our still-small voices.

With wisdom comes.  This is the Adulthood:Revisited Podcast.

Connect with William Bolls

Williambolls.com

William Bolls on Compass

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Bienvenidos, A:R Nation!

One reason I really enjoy podcasts is because I listen to them.

Not just hear them, but listen to them.

It feels as if we've gotten so used to operating with background noise, that we're better equipped to hear than to listen.

What's the difference between the two? 

I don't have any official definitions.

For me, hearing is just sounds coming into our ears and being recognized by our brains.

Listening, however, requires thought and processing.

I was recently involved in a work-thing where one party did not listen to anyone.

This person spent a lot of time talking, dominating the conversation with everyone they came across, but very little time or energy listening.

A few people told me in private that this person refuses to listen to anyone.

It got me to thinking, what if we all committed a little more to listening more - free from judgment, and free from conclusions.

Imagine how many fewer challenges we would experience in life.

Listening is often the only thing needed to help someone.  This is the Adulthood:Revisited Podcast.

Let's chat a bit, A:R Nation!

When you reduce your experience on this planet to its essence, what is it reduced to?

As Julia Phoenix, our guest on this episode, shares (and I concur), it's our RELATIONSHIPS.

Our life experience is a function of our relationships.

Julia Phoenix is a Relationship Specialist and Public Speaker who works with people to create empowered connections and strengthen relationships so that we could lead more enriched lives.

Julia starts us off with sharing her journey.

Growing up in Palo Alto, she shares that her family had a spiritual background, but that there was so much inauthenticity hiding in the background.

As she was growing up, she felt a disconnect between what her family was outwardly expressing and what the experience was really like.

After much strife, Julia realized that she needed to be disconnected from her family, and create her own life.

What she started realizing was that "her people" always seemed to find her.

In our discussion about empowerment, relationships and connection live at the core.

Julia shares with us how, she believes, people can't lead fully honest and authentic lives until they get over the assumptions and expectations that society lays out for us.

She discusses her powerful experiences with inner child work, and how we will often project onto others the things we, deep down, desire.

Julia shares that when people come to be OK with the idea that, as humans, the desire for connection and for security drives all of our decisions, we can make powerful choices around who we foster those connections with.

Finally, Julia leaves us with encouragement to start being more true to themselves starting right now.

Let's be more of ourselves.  This is the Adulthood:Revisited Podcast.

Connect with Julia Phoenix

JuliaPhoenixEleven.com

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Hi-ho, A:R Nation!

Quick question: were you told you were a bad student because you were often daydreaming or zoned out?

Would it shock you if I shared that this kind of practice may be the key to getting unstuck and unlocking more of what we want in our lives?

Over the last few days, my newsfeed has been littered with articles about some of the great minds in entrepreneurship and otherwise, past and present - Steve Jobs, Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Mark Zuckerberg, Sundar Pichai - having a common daily practice that's NOT meditation.

Want to take a crack at what it is?

It was referred to as 'No Time' - a time and space where the mind is free to wander and do/be/go whatever and wherever it wants.

Unlike meditation, which is often intended to clear the mind, the purpose of No Time is to give your mind the freedom to just cycle through whatever it feels like.

If there are no thoughts, then let there be no thoughts.

If all you can think about it bacon, then let your mind play in thoughts of bacon.

The premise of No Time is that it gives your mind the space and freedom to create without limits - just like when you were a child daydreaming and zoning out.

She was lost in her thoughts, in exactly the right place and at exactly the right time.  This is the Adulthood:Revisited Podcast.

Let's move, A:R Nation!

Answer honestly: how often do you REALLY listen to your physical body?

In this episode, we're talking with Janis Isaman.

Janis is the founder and owner of My Body Couture, a one-on-one private studio where she coaches people around movement and nutrition.

If you ask younger Janis, she probably didn't think that this is where she would find herself.

As Janis shares, there wasn't much beyond team sports like volleyball and basketball as she was growing up.

In college, however, she took a liking to running.

Unfortunately, runner's knee became a problem for her.

Traditional medicine didn't help her get back to running.

It wasn't until she came across pilates where she finally found something that worked for her.

Because of how powerful pilates had been for her, Janis became more and more interested in pilates, and how it impacts movement and health.

In the episode, Janis shares her journey, from this runner's knee injury to owning her own fitness studio.

She dives into why movement is so important to our well-being, and why we should pay more attention to what our physical bodies are telling us.

Finally, if you feel sedentary in any way, Janis shares why it's so critical to take action immediately.

Movement is the song of the body.  This is the Adulthood:Revisited Podcast.

Connect with Janis Isaman:

My Body Couture

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Are you ready to go a little meta, A:R Nation?

Walk with me a bit.

Although we're human beings, we're nothing more than some arrangement held together by magnetic bonds.

Science still can't explain it.

What is it to be a living being?  How is that different from a rock?  From the air?

What is an emotion?

I recently started Meta Human by Deepak Chopra.  

There's already a lot of discussion around consciousness, and that we are all expressions of the same consciousness.

Cool, I like that, but how can I use that in my own life?

That's where I started thinking about creative consciousness.

If we, physical beings, are just different expressions of the same consciousness as a rock or a thought, then why can't we use that same power to create anything we want in and for our lives?

Drop it in your heart, and let it simmer there a bit.  This is the Adulthood:Revisited Podcast.

Welcome, A:R Nation! 

What an energetic and inspiring conversation I have waiting for you!

On this episode of the A:R Podcast, we have Amy Sinha.

Amy has spent her career in various aspects of the music talent and performance arena.

That couldn't be all, though, could it?

Her story is one of inspiration, and almost (as Chet Holmes was quoted as saying) "pig-headed discipline."

Shortly after she was born, Amy developed cataracts, and was also diagnosed with an illness that made her unable to experience physical sensations, such as temperature and pain.

As a result of these physical challenges, Amy was always smaller than everyone around her while growing up.

Her family was into music, and Amy and her sisters were always singing, including in shows.

From these experiences, Amy discovered a love for singing.

She pursued a career in music, going to college at a music school, where she discovered a real liking of jazz.

After music school, she went on to write and perform her own music, including a single that broke the top 5 on a world music chart.

Since then, Amy has found herself doing voice over work for all types of clients, as well as interviewing musical talents on her YouTube channel.

In our conversation, Amy shares some of her insight of how she pursued her dreams in the face of physical limitations and obstacles.

She dives into why she thinks music and singing has been so impactful in her own life, and how she thinks people can use music to enrich the quality of their lives.

Finally, Amy leaves us with encouragement about pursuing the things we want for ourselves and our lives, and how we oughtn't leave anything in the tank.

For inspiration, click here.  This is the Adulthood:Revisited Podcast.

Connect with Amy Sinha:

AmySinha.com

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Hey, hey, now A:R Nation!

In this episode, we're exploring confidence.

I'd posit that, universally, confidence is regarded as a good quality that can much improve our lives.

If that's true, why don't we spend more time building confidence in our lives?

This thought was sparked after a conversation I had with someone.

She shared that it was acting in confidence that helped her reach her goals and overcome obstacles, even when she didn't think she could.

If confidence is that potent in our lives, maybe it's time we start focusing on confidence just like any other muscle, and practice it each and every day.

Imagine what life can be like after just 30 days of acting confidently each and every day in some way!

Show up and show out.  This is the Adulthood:Revisited Podcast.

Cheers, A:R Nation!

Have you ever felt like you have no control or say in your life?

Is overwhelm and stress a regular experience for you?

If you're nodding your head yes, then this episode is definitely for you!

We have Jennifer Wren Tolo has a guest on the A:R Podcast.

Jennifer has spent much of her adult life helping others.

In the early part of her career, she was a registered nurse.

Add to that mom, wife, personal trainer, certified reiki master, mindfulness practitioner, holistic health and wellness educator, and author.

Obviously, it didn't all come in a single sitting, and Jennifer shares that journey with us.

She shares her experience as an RN, in the chaotic hospital setting yet thriving in the chaos.

Jennifer goes on to share that her world erupted when, during the birth of her second child, he had suffered a massive stroke and had to be taken away.  The medical world told Jennifer and her son that what they ought to expect is a future of struggle and challenges.

From that, Jennifer decided that she wasn't going to let others dictate how she and her family grew.  She resolved that she would have to learn how to best be there for her son

On a friend's recommendation, Jennifer was introduced to reiki healing.  Her path evolved to include other health and wellness practices, including personal training, nutrition education, and mindfulness.

All of her growth and training would be on display in a few years when she learned that her third child was diagnosed with leukemia.

She shares how, while still challenging, the experiences with her second child made her better equipped to handle the challenges that would come with this diagnosis.

Notwithstanding, soon after, Jennifer found herself burnt out and overwhelmed. 

Through these experiences, Jennifer shares much of what she learned to take control of your life when things seem out of control.

She shares a powerful lesson of being open to accepting help, whether asking others or when others are offering.

Jennifer leaves us with a message to consider ourselves and our own health if we expect to show up for others.

Taming the chaos of life.  This is the Adulthood:Revisited Podcast.

Connect with Jennifer Wren Tolo:

Butterfly Family Wellness

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YouTube

Warrior Moms On a Mission FB Group

Family Fuel book on Amazon

The Wellness Universe Guide on Amazon