Adventures From The Bedrooms Of African Women

A decade ago, Nana Darkoa wrote ‘How can you tell when a woman orgasms?’ for the Adventures blog. It remains one of the most popular posts to date. So, in this episode, Nana and Malaka dig into the mystery and mystique of the orgasm.

“It just feels like something's bubbling under, and then there's an explosion of pleasure,” Kenyan sex educator Kaz says. “It's a Hiroshima of pleasure.”    

We’re talking about everything from science to screaming, politics to peeing. And most importantly, women share what the big O feels like…and give their tips on how to achieve it.

Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers.

The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. 

Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions.

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With society’s traditionally binary views on gender, so much of what it means to be a ‘man’ is tied to the omnipotent power and performance of the penis. So, when Malaka and Nana Darkoa decided to explore the topic of dicks and masculinity, they expected the usual ‘size matters’ arguments to come through. 

But, they soon learned that BDE may not actually have much to do with what’s in your pants. This episode gets a surprising take from a range of cis and trans men, as well as a gender non-conforming person, as they share their fears and feelings about masculinity, performance, and pleasure. 

Writer and poet Nii Ayikwei Parkes has some wise words for men and women whose sex lives center the D. “It's not a machine,” he says. “If that's what's going to define your happiness in a sexual encounter, then you are never going to be happy.”

Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers.

The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. 

Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions.

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“What was the point of hurrying?” Sex toy guru Iheoma Obibi says, when asked what advice she would give her 20-year-old self. “I would've learned and understood my body better.”

In this episode, sexy ‘aunties’ tell Nana Darkoa and Malaka what they have learned about their bodies, and share what we all have to look forward to in the bedroom as we get older. The good news is, it’s plenty!

Could burning the rice set fire to your sex life? Get ready for these aunties’ advice. The alluring elders dig into how preference and pleasure change as we age; joke about the younger men who still find them desirable; and dish out some quality counseling to heat things up.

Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers.

The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. 

Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions.

Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom.

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Did your obsession with romance novels mess up your sex life? Did you grow up wishing it was Femi on the cover, not Fabio? This week, the aunties Malaka and Nana Darkoa return to their teen reads and question how the genre tantalized and traumatized them.

Inspired by an Adventures From The Bedrooms of African Women blogpost written by contributor, Voluptuous Voltarian – or VV - they dig into the problematic power dynamics of novels from Mills & Boon and Harlequin Romance. “I had just poisoned my brain,” VV says. “That stuff had given me a blueprint for romance and sex that was totally, totally, totally, totally unrealistic.”

But they also excitedly discover that new generations of African girls have more to look forward to as Black women reclaim and rewrite the genre. “My commitment is that girls who look like me will see themselves in my books,” best-selling author Nana Malone says.

Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers.

The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. 

Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Bluedot Sessions.

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Meet Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah: friends since 1994, sex bloggers since 2009, now podcasters, and always #BFFFL.

In this new series, Nana Darkoa and Malaka welcome you into their bedrooms, and the bedrooms of African women where they uncover and discuss all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure.

They kick off and celebrate their friendship, expose how little they used to know about sex, and share their excitement for the conversations to come. In one episode, writer, poet, and producer, Nii Ayikwei Parkes describes sex as “that is how adults play,” which Nana Darkoa loves. “It’s soft and secure, so if you fall, you don't hurt yourself.”

And as self-confessed aunties, they both look forward to what’s to come in the boudoir. “It's so important for us to do this, because right now the conversation is still like, ‘Oh, in your 30s, it'll be over for you,’ Malaka explains. “In your 30s is when life truly begins as a woman.”

Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah host the Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast. Frederica Boswell is the Senior Producer. Fatima Derby is our Associate Producer. Written by Wana Udobang. Audio editors are Mercy Barno and Tevin Sudi. Malaka Grant and Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah are Executive Producers.

The Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women Podcast is a production of AQ Studios in partnership with Masi Media. Mercy Githaiga is our studio administrator and Selly Thiam is the AQ Studios CEO. 

Our theme music is Damn by Ria Boss and music from this episode comes from Epidemic Sounds.

Find Adventures From the Bedrooms of African Women anywhere you get your podcasts, and in pursuing all things sex, sexuality, and pleasure, follow us on all our social media platforms @adventuresfrom.

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