May 09, 2022

After year or even decades of marriage, how can you pursue your spouse?

26 minutes

After years or even decades of marriage, how can you pursue your spouse?

You must pursue your spouse. This step is centered on action — some sort of initiative that causes your spouse to turn toward you. It needs to be something that grabs his or her attention — a wholehearted effort to entice and win the affection and favor of your spouse.

“It’s not enough to just go through the motions." You must passionately pursue your spouse with purpose and zeal. Put your heart into the things you do for your marriage and family, and you will see the difference it makes.”

Pursuing typically involves one of these three actions:

Allure your spouse. In a way, allure is simply another word for woo. Impress your mate — make him or her realize what a catch you are. According to Hosea 2:14 (NIV), this was something God did to win back His bride: “Therefore I am now going to allure her.”

Be attentive. It’s all about being thoughtful, patient and kind. It’s about listening well, but it’s also important to talk, too — to reveal parts of your inner self to your spouse. It’s about seeking forgiveness when you need it, showing grace when he or she needs it and even keeping yourself clean and presentable. In short, it’s all the stuff you do to get a second date!

Nourish. When you spend time together, make sure that it’s quality time. Go on dates together. Give each other little gifts. Have sex. Develop a meaningful system of communication. Discover your spouse’s love language.

Guest: Thurane

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