Afterbirth 10/6/20: My Baby's Birthday Makes Me Cry

"Instead of being happy with my kid's birthday, it brings up birth trauma and grief for what I didn't get get".  ~ this in from new member Lindy

Points of talking were:

and how this plays out negatively and positively in almost all birth environments. 

Miscarriage brings up "the what if spiral" and how the not knowing of why this happened is one of the worst aspects of a rough time for many.  Also compassion to Chrissy Tegan and her family during this hard time. I appreciate her sharing her raw AF grief and shining a light on a horrid time that often gets hid. 

 The grief box ~ https://twitter.com/LaurenHerschel/status/946888649781608448

Tiff and Katelin say schedule time on the reg that is the same time so that you prioritize, and even if you don't have anything to do, hide in your room with a locked door and read a book. Whatever going on outside that door is a plastic ball that will bounce. 

Wait, what?

Rowan heard a great analogy attributed to Nora Roberts about dropping balls when juggling the work/life balance. When juggling balls, one or more is going to fall, like this is a given. Which ball s plastic, and will bounce and be fine.  Which is glass and won't bounce.  Spoiler alert: Moms and postpartum folx are treated as disposable styrofoam when instead, YOU are the glass. Article link https://twitter.com/jenlynnbarnes/status/1220182162118451200?lang=en

This is the song on repeat in my head, our group anthem. https://open.spotify.com/track/79qxwHypONUt3AFq0WPpT9?si=vvCx_FI4SNOZBbjFoUYNcg

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