The past is so temptingly presented to us as the panacea of mental wellbeing. You are encouraged to work through your traumas, find the source of your behaviour and root out those unwanted feelings. I went down that path for many years but it just doesn't make sense any more. Because now I see the truth that human beings feel what they think in the moment. So, when we think about something bad in the past we feel it. It's a clever trick which makes it look like the past has harmed us but it really is all thought!

Imagine if you stopped thinking about the past. You would never feel the past again. I know this is not always easy but just knowing this is how it works can be helpful.

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