Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid

1:00 How we know each other

1:20  Favorite sandwich

2:54 What do you know for sure? 

3:52 Impetus of the blog

6:00 Can you believe Brett has 10 friends to ask for support to read his blog before he published them? Unheard of. 

7:00 The Sandwiched Generation-Parents and Children

9:00 Creative Process and post process selection

10:25 Key tip for perfectionists.

11:20 the benefits of therapy (that Amy has also benefitted from)

13:41 What I've learned about myself

16:10 Boundaries “Do You Want My Advice?”

16:45 Julia, his greatest confidant

17:09 Spreadsheets 

17:46 Don’t assume your opinion is wanted

17:59 The Modern Father

18:43 Jacob, his producer’s,  journey 

19:00 Sandwich generation merch

19:30 How Brett chooses post topics

23:27: YouTube audio vlog

23:40 I am an author vs I’m not an author

25:10 Amy’s goal - to return to writing (putting this in writing to for accountability) 

26:03 “I am” statements

27:37 Physics teacher desires creative endeavors and you should too

28:03 What Brett learned from others

29:09 Complaining isn’t the same as venting our feelings-no solution needed

29:59 Rather than volunteer, create something for a common cause

30:35 You are not alone

32:15 Validate feelings

32:44 Dis-ease

33:50 Tardiness and the Traitors

35:00 If you can’t change something, roll with it.

35:52 How to get out of the stagnant workplace

36:00 Never boring

37:29 Blog Fridays

37:50 Take Care of Each Other

38:39 Commencement - everyone surrounding the graduate is also going through a change. See blog for more. 

39:59 Fox story. See blog for more.

40:44 The Great American Road Trip - See blog for more.

41:53 What’s next for Brett (the audio vlog)

43:16 Brett and his daughter will write a companion post on the same topic-stay tuned (coming soon)

44:44 Closure:

3 TV Shows: The Pitt (HBO Max), Shrinking(Prime), The Bear (Hulu/Disney+)

2 Books: Who Needs Friends? by Andrew McCarthy, Death of a Salesman by Arthur Miller

1 YouTube channel: Quiet Quest 

Where can we find Brett?

www.thesandwichgeneration.blog 

https://www.youtube.com/@assemblingTSG 

Where Can I Find Amy?  

www.amyperras.com 

Linkedin: Amy Perras  

Twitter: @perras_scope  

IG @aintgonnabenostupid  

Tik Tok @aintgonnabenostupid  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid Woman (Book)  

https://amzn.to/2Np4aRj  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid podcast  

https://spoti.fi/2Nt4nTm  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid YouTube Channel  

https://bit.ly/3fT6v31  

Coaching Session  https://tinyurl.com/perrasscoping

3:01 Anthony is 40 days sober on the day we did this interview

4:14 How he stays sober

5:23 Vulnerability what is it?

5:48 Why don’t we show our vulnerability?

6:23 Alpha males cry

7:01 Keep your circle small

7:50 Therapy 

8:18 Generational curses

9:08 Tik Tok banned him

10:21 Tattoo sharing

11:42 Main purpose in sharing this story - alpha male know that you can be vulnerable and you’re never alone

12:53 Graduation story

14:08 Dopamine addiction

14:21 Men don’t communicate-why?

15:39 Share with your inner circle - find an inner circle

16:09 Jelly Roll song: "I know how to cry. And I know how to lie. And I know how to hurt. Been doing it all my life."

16:38 He will respond-DM him on Facebook - Anthony Gamino

17:04 3-2-1 Close

3 Three things to remember when

—when keep your mouth shut

—when to speak up

—when to show love

2 Major Habits to Adopt

—Nature-experience God’s creation. 

—Exercise - great for mental health

1 Thing to remember overall

—Be a good person. Be kind. You don’t know what someone is going through. 

Where Can We Find Anthony?

FB: Anthony Gamino

IG: High_Jinks7001

Where Can I Find Amy?  

www.amyperras.com 

Linkedin: Amy Perras  

Twitter: @perras_scope  

IG @aintgonnabenostupid  

Tik Tok @aintgonnabenostupid  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid Woman (Book)  

https://amzn.to/2Np4aRj  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid podcast  

https://spoti.fi/2Nt4nTm  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid YouTube Channel  

https://bit.ly/3fT6v31  

Coaching Session  https://tinyurl.com/perrasscoping

Introduction: Don’t settle for being unheard.

Dispelling Ignorance: Toilet paper roll

2:53 “Bangs are cool and mullets are not”

4:00 Ryan’s stupid situationship that made Amy cry from laughing so hard. “ It was like agreeing to build a birdhouse, only to discover halfway through that you’re actually constructing a full-scale replica of the Taj Mahal... out of duct tape and optimism”.

5:55 Reconnecting through generations.

7:20 I ran into teachers through the years and reflected on how high school connects to real life.

8:46 Fitting in while in high school, we don’t just fit into ONE box.

9:45 Connect with others 

10:50 Adapting to the Ever-Changing Life

11:35 The Need for the Trades

13:16 Local 701 in Aurora offers a training center for mechanics.

16:33 January and July start times: Submit application at any time:  https://local701training.org/

17:42 Education and career paths. Don’t think what we learn in school isn’t relevant to life: persuasive essays, for example.

19:41 Writing is your voice.

19:54 Lessons from a Union Rep-The Power of Negotiation

22:05 The Life of a Mechanic

25:00 Rusty Bolt metaphor

25:20 Undercover Boss

26:40 Process is Key

27:03 Dead Poet’s Society

27:14 Grow ye roses buds while ye may.

27:54 Questioning Authority

28:19 Exercising my right not to walk.

29:10 Check yourself as a parent who makes their kid grind too hard.

29:32 Independent Thought is key

31:42-3-2-1

Three things every worker/person needs to know

Two Life Lessons

One Thing to Never Forget

Where Can I Find Ryan?

X:@ryan_haehnlein,

email: [email protected]

Where Can I Find Amy?  

www.amyperras.com  

Linkedin: Amy Perras  

Twitter: @perras_scope  

IG @aintgonnabenostupid  

Tik Tok @aintgonnabenostupid  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid Woman (Book)  

https://amzn.to/2Np4aRj  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid podcast  

https://spoti.fi/2Nt4nTm  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid YouTube Channel  

https://bit.ly/3fT6v31  

Coaching Session  https://tinyurl.com/perrasscoping

Introduction: Don’t settle for being unheard.

Dispelling Ignorance: Toilet paper roll

2:53 “Bangs are cool and mullets are not”

4:00 Ryan’s stupid situationship that made Amy cry from laughing so hard. “ It was like agreeing to build a birdhouse, only to discover halfway through that you’re actually constructing a full-scale replica of the Taj Mahal... out of duct tape and optimism”.

5:55 Reconnecting through generations.

7:20 I ran into teachers through the years and reflected on how high school connects to real life.

8:46 Fitting in while in high school, we don’t just fit into ONE box.

9:45 Connect with others 

10:50 Adapting to the Ever-Changing Life

11:35 The Need for the Trades

13:16 Local 701 in Aurora offers a training center for mechanics.

16:33 January and July start times: Submit application at any time:  https://local701training.org/

17:42 Education and career paths. Don’t think what we learn in school isn’t relevant to life: persuasive essays, for example.

19:41 Writing is your voice.

19:54 Lessons from a Union Rep-The Power of Negotiation

22:05 The Life of a Mechanic

25:00 Rusty Bolt metaphor

25:20 Undercover Boss

26:40 Process is Key

27:03 Dead Poet’s Society

27:14 Grow ye roses buds while ye may.

27:54 Questioning Authority

28:19 Exercising my right not to walk.

29:10 Check yourself as a parent who makes their kid grind too hard.

29:32 Independent Thought is key

31:42-3-2-1

Three things every worker/person needs to know

Two Life Lessons

One Thing to Never Forget

Where Can I Find Ryan?

X:@ryan_haehnlein,

email: [email protected]

Where Can I Find Amy?  

www.amyperras.com  

Linkedin: Amy Perras  

Twitter: @perras_scope  

IG @aintgonnabenostupid  

Tik Tok @aintgonnabenostupid  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid Woman (Book)  

https://amzn.to/2Np4aRj  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid podcast  

https://spoti.fi/2Nt4nTm  

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid YouTube Channel  

https://bit.ly/3fT6v31  

Coaching Session  https://tinyurl.com/perrasscoping

2:09 Wrong college for the wrong reasons

3:10 Goshen College opportunities: student newspaper, hosted radio show, acting, changed his major, met his wife

4:16 Wanted to be a sports journalist but not fulfilling

4:44 ended up in education instead, a better decision

5:28 Coach Rhodes will give feedback on your essays ;)

5:51 Social Emotional Learning and teaching literature

6:30 Hole in My Life: Gantos, Jack: Amazon.com: Books

7:10 “The unexamined life is not worth living” Socrates

7:35 E+R = 0 [Experience + Reaction = Outcome]

8:50 Run - Flow -  Disrupt

9:40 Jason’s coaching records

10:41 C.A.’s wisdom 

11:34 Jason’s macademia nut experience (7 years of rebuilding)

13:12 Natural talent and work ethic

13:50 Ibrahim Samra shout out for his work ethic, leadership and reaching his potential

14:17 No ceiling on any kid

15:08 Inner Game of Tennis 

16:28 Mistake response mechanisms

17:17 Player development tools

19:46 Reading and how it’s changing

21:08 Tik Tok 

22:00 Anything we don’t wanna learn

23:24 Making college decisions-do what’s right for you but especially get on college campuses to get a feel for it.

Final Thoughts

3 Author

2 Podcasts

Smartless

The Big Picture

1 Thing That Has Changed Jason’s Life

Yoga

Introduction | How we know each other

4:15 Faith muscle that grows during struggles

4:48 if you’re not in a storm yet, you’ll be heading into another one or coming out of one.

5:10  Above the Turbulence: Your Ticket out of Pain to Purpose

6:06 Fly higher and you’ll be able to weather the storm

6:40 Gain perspective and look down on your earth’s circumstances

7:11 The eagle flies directly into storms and spreads his wings out and does nothing. The currents of the wind helps them rise up. They have the best predator eyesight too. They also sit and for 40 days and 40 nights like Jesus

8:30 The phrase "mount up with wings like eagles" appears in Isaiah 40:31 of the Bible, which reads, "Those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength. They will mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint".

9:12 Be careful what you allow in your mind. 

9:42 Travel agent metaphors

10:42 Carolyn’s self-deprecating journey that lead to this book.

11:42 She asked herself, how did Jesus teach a lesson, through stories.

12:05 Head knowledge vs. applying that knowledge.

12:40 spiraling into the what ifs solutions in her book

13:00 Faith is an action word.

13:17 Turn off your thoughts if they are not productive

13:32 Be the air traffic controller of your mind

13:53 Change the channel

14:35 Messages when her mom was in the hospital. She leaned on: • Proverbs 3:4: "Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man"."Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding". "In all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight".

15:15 Get in a rhythm with God

16:45 I am the god of order. Do not worry.

18:29 BeLIEve - Lie is inside of BELIEVE

19:15: The power is in our choices

20:20 Also marriage isn’t perfect. It’s two broken people coming together so buckle up

21:30 Prince of this World -  John 14: 1-6 “Don’t let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, and trust also in me. There is more than enough room in my Father’s home. If this were not so, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you. When everything is ready, I will come and get you, so that you will always be with me where I am. And you know the way to where I am going.” and Corin 2:4 The enemy actively participates in blinding the minds of those who don't believe in Jesus, to keep them from coming to faith in Christ. His purpose is to keep them from seeing the light. 

23:45 In the Beginning Genesis 1:1 In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. 2 Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters.

25:30 God had a plan of redemption and He wants to be loved by us.

26:34 In your pain-Rom 8:28 "And we know that for those who love God, all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose"

27:21 No plane has crashed in turbulence

28:21 Not a citizen of earth.  Phil 3:20 But we are citizens of heaven, where the Lord Jesus Christ lives. And we are eagerly waiting for him to return as our Savior.

29:50 all proceeds of the book go here:  faceswithnames.org 

30:29 Connect the dots of your life to where you are today.

32:55 Link to the creator of the clouds.

CONCLUSION 3-2-1

3 Bible Verses

34:11 11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. 14 I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity.[b] I will gather you from all the nations and places where I have banished you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back to the place from which I carried you into exile.”

The Names of God: Yahweh, Emmanuel, Jehovah Jireh, etc.

2 Books to Read

The Garden Within

Ed Mylett - DrJoe Dispensa interview podcast

1 Final Thought

You are greatly loved, seen, you are worthy and he has a plan for you.

1:18 Amy intro

3:03 Trauma in the orphanage about our grandmothers | orphan spirit | gen curses

5:01 Amy’s “ignorant moment”

6:40 nurture into their nature

7:23 pancake metaphor

10:11 unexpected grief

10:30 https://herviewfromhome.com/teen-shes-14-and-i-already-miss-her/

11:00 Figuring out what I was doing wrong

17:43 Learning to parent differently

18:00 NOTICE and NAME

19:45 What story are they telling?

20:14 Mental Health Issues

23:11 Negotiate vs Control

23:54 The bank of trust

25:45 Launching Kids

27:00 Amy has grown

27:16 God has them

28:02 Parenting for the Long Haul

30:28 Sock Hack

33:30 Kids in church

34:29 You can lead a kid to church but you cannot make them pray.

36:11 Prov 22:6 (KJV) Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

37:45 Learning how to pass the torch in a different way

40:30 Ouch and Ooops

41:29 Three things you need for communicating with your teenagera. not ready to talk? give them spaceb. when they are ready, listenc. use technology | is their native language and they can speak more openly

43:28 Two Self Carea. give yourself a time-outb. get a therapist (even if you don’t think you need one)

45:22 One: Never underestimate the power of prayer

46:07 2 Chronicles 7:14 New International Version (NIV) if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.

Where can I find Amy Betters Midtvedt?

https://www.instagram.com/amy.betters.midtvedt

amybettersmidtvedt.com

Where Can I Find Amy Perras?

1:52 One thing You Know For Sure | God loves you and Jesus is coming soon. Get right with Him today.

3:09 Stop Sitting and Stand by Phyllis Calderon - available on Amazon.

3:33 2 Corinthians 12:10 NRSV

Therefore I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities for the sake of Christ; for whenever I am weak, then I am strong.

4:09 Our posture (Luke 7 - healed just because of his posture)

5:04 Humble Out

6:00 Idolatry

8:07 a friend sticks closer than a brother

9:19 His grace is sufficient

CLUTTER = Greed

10:22 spiritual clutter and physical clutter

11:48 remove clutter if you want to hear God

12:26  “Anxiety in a man's heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad” Prov 12: 25

13:01 Anxiety is rooted in fear and self-control

13:50 “Cast your care upon Him, for He cares for you” - 1 Peter 5:7

14:30 Stop turning up your nose to all that doesn’t match your worldview.

16:46 Despising what you don’t know is dangerous. 

17:28 TProverbs 9:10, “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.”

18:16 Forgiveness frees you. Unforgiveness gets in your bones.

19:05 SDD Spiritual Deficit Disfunction

19:47 Psalm 94:16 Who will stand against the wicked?

21:00 2 Corin 6:1 We are coworkers with God. 

22:22 Offended by our faith? That’s your problem.

Gal 5: 22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

24:00 Romans 5:3, "More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings..." He says in Colossians 1:24, "Now I rejoice in my sufferings for your sake..."

25:25 Proverbs 4:25-26 (NIV)

Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways.

26:00 The end is near. Get right with God.

How Can I Find Phyllis?

www.violinprophet.com 

Listen to her sermon on August 4, 2024

https://thevc.org/church-services

Where can I find Amy?

www.amyperras.com

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid YouTube Channel

https://bit.ly/3fT6v31

Ain't Gonna Be No Stupid podcast

https://spoti.fi/2Nt4nTm

Podcast Pre-interview Questionnaire

https://bit.ly/3U8Drui

9:11 What is Born a Again?

10:37 The Serpeant and the Dust - Genesis 3:14, of the curse given to the serpent that he would crawl on his belly and eat dust all his life.

11:22 Even though we walk with Christ, we still will have issues. Trust and walk with Him. Learn Him. 

12:03 Christianity isn’t religion. Fire and brimstone is often fear-based. 

12:56 God was fully man and fully God in Jesus. He died for our sins and fulfilled the original covenant in the garden. 

13:38 Jesus brought restoration. 

14:11 Willy Wonka 

14:49 Unlocked on Netflix

15:33 Do we reap what we’ve sown? Thank God for what Jesus did for us.

16:07 For by grace we are saved not by works.

16:50 Fear is what keeps you from being honest.

17:07 Jesus paid the penalty. Don’t let fear stop you from coming forth with anything you’re hiding.

17:37 He welcomes us with open arms.

19:00 Luke 23:39-43 (NIV)

19:10 Take off the do not disturb sign

19:25 2 Corinthians 12:9: But he said to me, j“My grace is sufficient for you, for kmy power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that lthe power of Christ may rest upon me.

19:40 For when I am weak, then I am strong” (2 Corinthians 12:9-10).

20:00 prayer

22:59 come as you are. Doesn’t need to be formal prayer. Just talk to him.

23:00 Keep coming back to Jesus

23:45 Please God show me you’re real.

24:21 The Bible will reveal God’s character

24:58 Isaiah 53: 5 But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.

27:07 The Power of God is still for now.

28:27 His supernatural power is still at work today.

29:04 Kingdom vs. Worldview

30:30 Jesus is still healing today

30:39 John 5:19-20 Jesus gave them this answer: “Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does. 20 For the Father loves the Son and shows him all he does. Yes, and he will show him even greater works than these, so that you will be amazed.

31:40 Matthew 17:21 [AMP] But this kind of demon does not go out except by prayer and fasting. ”

32:00 How to fast

33:12 Counteracting negative interactions

33:55 “Date night”

34:26 We are the bride of Christ | Ephesians 5:22–33

35:55 How God is with us like parent/child

36:58 How God wows us with our children, the gift they had.

37:55 Tampatha has the mother anointing

38: 15 Matthew 14:14-21

And when Jesus went out He saw a great multitude; and He was moved with compassion for them, and healed their sick.

39:00 Warfare is Alive today

40:00 John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

40:57 Ephesians 6:12 (KJV) For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

41:51 Imposter/copy cat

42:00 God has equipped us with everything we need in our relationship with Him.

42:48 Speak the word to dispel the lies.

43:50 Pray Psalm 91

44:00 Baby Christians - don’t give up

47:15 Ephesians 2:8-9: For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:

9 Not of works, lest any man should boast.

Final Thoughts

3 Restaurants 

2 Favorite Foods

1 Favorite Song

1:06 Introduction

2:53-ADHD Situationship-Neurodiversity | ADHD-misconceptions-Not a DISORDER, but a Superpower

Source: The Disruptors, a documentary about ADHD, spins it as “distraction can really be curiosity, hyperactivity can really be creativity, and impulsivity can really be energy.”

16:30 Eddie cameo

16:38 - The Eclipse Talk

20:40 - The Statue of Liberty hit my lightning

21:21 Francis Scott Key Bridge

21:34 Tav and Aluf-Last letter of the Hebrew alphabet

23:09 Rainbow is a sign of God’s covenant to never flood the earth again.

32:46 Unfilled Prophecies - https://bible.org/seriespage/lesson-7-unfulfilled-prophecies

36:01 Tetelastai “It is Finished” https://bible.org/question/what-does-greek-word-tetelestai-mean

In other words:

Your debt of sin has been fully paid. 

The judgment for your sin has been fully served.

And the spiritual war against death, sin and Satan has been fully won.

Listen to: Todo va a estar bien & No Weapon Formed Against Me Shall Prosper

Psalm 91: Pray it back to Him.

More Resources:

FACT CHECK: Two cities named Ninevah not Seven

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/factcheck/2024/04/05/april-8-eclipse-totality-path-nineveh/73215252007/

Where Can I Find Amy?  

www.amyperras.com 

[email protected]

IG: @aintgonnabenostupid

Where Can I Find Jill?

[email protected]