All Aboard ADHD

How much can the right support make a difference to children with ADHD - and their parents?

In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by Kate Peers - mum of 3 boys and owner of Department Store for the Mind, an online shop that allows you to explore the world inside your head. Kate is also a Youth Mental Health First Aid England Trainer. In this episode Kate shares some wonderful examples of the difference the right help and support can make to children with ADHD - and their parents.

Claire reached out to Kate in February 2019 via DM after reading a blog that Kate had written for Molly Gunn (aka Selfish Mother), at a time when she was feeling unbelievably alone following her son’s diagnosis. Kate's blog post was the very first time Claire had felt seen or understood, and emphasises the importance of parents connecting with each other to support each other on their ADHD journey.

Kate shares her story raising three boys, including her middle son diagnosed with ADHD and ASD. She describes some of the early signs of ADHD in her middle son, such as difficulty waiting and high energy levels. Following a challenging wait going through the process with the NHS, Kate shares the relief and validation she felt upon receiving her son's diagnosis. They go on to discuss some of the challenges of transitioning from primary to secondary school. Including a special story Kate tells about a Teaching Assistant who supported her son, highlighting the profound impact that supportive and trusted adults can have on a child’s life.

Claire and Kate reflect on the importance of advocacy and the role of educating yourself about ADHD as much as possible, especially on how differently it can present, for example in girls versus boys. They also share their experiences of connecting with other parents on social media and finding hope in their stories, highlighting the importance of building a supportive ADHD community.

This episode is an honest, inspiring and uplifting story of connection and support - a must-listen for parents, wherever they are on their ADHD journey.

How does nutrition impact ADHD symptoms in children? And what action can we, as parents, take to better support our children and their diet?

In this episode of  the All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by expert guest Lucinda Miller - family naturopath, functional medicine practitioner, author, coach and mentor for kids with ADHD and autism. She and Claire discuss how the food can affect the mood, behaviour and concentration of children with ADHD and other neurodevelopmental conditions. This episode offers judgement-free insight and practical, achievable strategies for parents facing the very real food challenges of their neurodivergent children.

Lucinda begins by sharing her approach to nutrition - which you can read more about in her new book Brain Brilliance - along with her own experience with ADHD and how food affects her day-to-day life. She describes the importance of zinc and iron in brain function, mood, and behavior, and how deficiencies can affect children with ADHD, for example expressing their mood and behaviour through food choices. We learn the crucial role zinc plays in a wide range of areas, from supporting the immune system and digestive health, to taste and smell, which can affect a child’s willingness to try new foods. Lucinda goes on to explain the role of dopamine and tyrosine in ADHD and how iron deficiencies can impair dopamine production - a crucial neurotransmitter for anyone with ADHD.

Claire and Lucinda also dive into the impact of nutritional deficiencies on ADHD and gut health in neurodivergent children. Lucinda talks through the daily nutritional needs for iron and zinc (especially for teenagers and children going through growth spurts), shares insight into the high prevalence of gut issues in children with autism, and how this can affect both nutrient absorption and brain function. She explains how ultra-processed foods are highly addictive and can exacerbate ADHD symptoms and suggests some simple, practical strategies parents can adopt to introduce new foods and improve their child’s nutrient intake through dietary changes. For example, adding zinc drops to favourite foods, as well as using probiotics to support gut health and digestive enzymes to improve nutrient absorption. She also shares insight into the role of using supplements as "scaffolding" while working on longer-term dietary changes, particularly for fussy eaters.

Blood sugar can also affect brain function and behaviour in children with ADHD, so Lucinda briefly explains how this can look. She also shares key information around the benefits of a high-protein, high-fat diet to help children maintain stable blood sugar levels and improve their focus and concentration. 

This episode is a must-listen for parents looking to understand how diet and nutrition can help their children with ADHD, especially if they are fussy eaters, and offers practical, achievable solutions, rather than yet another guilt trip!

What is demand avoidance and how does it show up in children with ADHD?

In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, we hear from Naomi Fisher, a clinical psychologist specialising in neurodiversity and trauma, for a fantastic discussion around demand avoidance, and pathological demand avoidance (PDA), along with the positive impact of low demand parenting on children with ADHD. Dr Naomi is the author of several books, with the most recent being “When The Naughty Step Makes Things Worse” with Eliza Fricker. This book is an incredible parenting guide for parents who find that conventional parenting techniques just doesn’t work for their child.

Dr Naomi begins by explaining that demand avoidance is actually a behavioral trait often driven by anxiety, particularly in autistic children but also in those with ADHD. She describes how "demand avoidance" refers to a general tendency to resist demands, whereas PDA refers to a more specific, severe form of demand avoidance, which can lead to significant distress and disruption in daily life. Dr Naomi provides some all-too familar examples of how conventional parenting techniques can backfire with demand avoidant children, leading to conflicts and battles. She then goes on to define ‘low demand parenting’, describing it as active and involved parenting without control, with more of a focus on reducing demands to help children manage their emotions and develop skills. Dr Naomi describes what is going on for our children when they hear something like ‘put your shoes on’ more than once and emphasises the importance of reducing everyday demands, to help children stay in a "window of tolerance" where they can more effectively learn and develop the skills they need for later life.

Claire and Dr Naomi also discuss screen time - a hot topic for many parents. Video games such as Minecraft can actually play a valuable role for demand avoidant children, helping them feel more in control and practice emotional regulation. Dr Naomi emphasises the need for parents to value their children's interests, and provides some much-need reassurance that parents’ efforts are crucial for building a strong, lasting relationship with their children. If your child with ADHD shows demand avoidant traits and you are in need of a new approach - this episode is a must-listen!

To find out more about Dr Naomi Fisher’s work, visit https://naomicfisher.substack.com/ or https://naomifisher.co.uk/
Or to order her latest book, head to: https://www.amazon.co.uk/When-Naughty-Makes-Things-Worse/dp/1472148681

What challenges do Black parents of neurodivergent children face in the education system? And what can we do about it?

In this episode of All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by Marsha Martin - a former behavioural therapist, neurodiversity awareness consultant and the founder of Black SEN Mamas, a charitable organisation supporting Black mothers of children with special educational needs and disabilities. As a neurodivergent woman herself and the mum of three children, two of which have diagnosed ADHD and autism, Marsha created Black SEN mamas to provide a space of psychological safety for mothers navigating both the challenges of parenting and the complexities of the SEN system.

In this episode Marsha sheds light on the additional prejudices and the barriers that she faces as a “minority within a minority”, to help raise awareness of ADHD and the experiences of mothers in the Black community. Marsha describes some of the systemic and cultural barriers, such as the scarcity of Black teachers and implicit biases in the education system. For example, due to the lack of understanding about neurodivergence in Black communities - both within schools and SEN services - children’s behaviour can often be misinterpreted as defiance, disruption or laziness, rather than communication of their needs.

Marsha also emphasises the importance of community support, advocacy, and cultural competency training for teachers. She shares some examples of her own experience as a parent to neurodivergent children, including the early signs and behaviours that led to the diagnosis of ADHD in her children, and why those diagnoses took a long time to reach. She also describes some of the ongoing battles she has faced to access the appropriate support for her children and the impact of systemic barriers on their development and wellbeing. 

Despite the challenges, Marsha shares a message of hope for Black parents of children with ADHD, highlighting the importance of finding community support and the positive impact of leaning on others who understand the challenges of raising neurodivergent children. She also shares the incredible impact of her advocacy work both with Black SEN Mamas and from a personal perspective on her family. Finally, Marsha encourages other Black parents to seek community support and fiercely advocate for their children.

To find out more about Marsha and her work, head to: https://blacksenmamas.com/

How can exercise positively impact ADHD symptoms in children?

In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD Podcast, Claire meets with Dr Shu-Shih (Stone) Hsieh to discuss ADHD and exercise. Dr Stone is a senior lecturer in the Department of Psychology at Kingston University. Stone's ActiGamer research at BREAD Lab focuses on the effects of exercise on cognition and ADHD symptoms in school aged-children.

Dr Stone Hseih kicks off with some insights into the many wide-ranging benefits of exercise for children with ADHD, including improvements in connection, attention and multitasking, alongside a reduction anxiety, stress and depressive symptoms. He and Claire also discuss the brain mechanisms involved in the positive effects of exercise and the differences between traditional forms of exercise vs multi-component exercise. Due to constant changes in the environment, multi-component exercise - such as such as football, tennis or basketball - can be more beneficial for children with ADHD, due to the compound effects on fitness, attention, and multitasking. 

To ensure they consistently engage and experience the longer-term benefits, Dr Stone highlights the importance of diversifying exercise choices for children with ADHD and ensuring they find activities they enjoy. He also shares some fascinating results from studies into ADHD and exercise, for example using an EEG to study brain activity during and after exercise in children with ADHD. His aim is to understand whether exercise could be offered as a complementary treatment strategy for children with ADHD. Finally Dr Stone introduces the exciting new potential of "exergaming", which combines video games with physical activity, showing promising results in improving attention and fitness.

To find out more about Dr Stone and his work, head to: 

Kingston University - Dr Stone Hsieh

BREAD Lab Kingston

Healthy body—Healthy mind? Does exercise benefit people with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder? By Dr Stone Hsieh

The effects of acute aerobic exercise on inhibitory control and resting state heart rate variability in children with ADHD. By Dr Stone Hseih.

Dr Stone also has an ongoing study on the effects of physical activity and EEG on Executive Function children with ADHD. If you’re interested in participating, you can sign up here 

Will ADHD medication help my child, or dull their spark?

In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by Professor Samuele Cortese for a comprehensive exploration of ADHD medications and how they work, so that parents listening can make informed decisions for themselves and their children. Professor Samuele Cortese, MD, PhD is currently Professor of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at the University of Southampton and Honorary Consultant Child and Adolescent Psychiatry for Solent NHS Trust. Professor Cortese’s main research interests are in neurodevelopmental disorders, with a focus on ADHD.

Professor Samuele Cortese begins by explaining the different types and mechanisms of ADHD medications, which are broadly divided into stimulants (e.g. methylphenidate) and non-stimulants (e.g. atomoxetine). Whilst both types of medication affect neurotransmitters like dopamine and noradrenaline in the brain, they operate differently. Many parents worry about dulling their child’s spark if they go down the medication route, so Professor Samuele also shares some insight into which medications are more effective and why. In his research, he shares that 70-80% of children respond well to stimulants, while non-stimulants may help the remaining 20-30%. He also describes how medication can actually be personalised to the child, not only by type but also by release formation e.g. slow release throughout the day.

Interestingly, only 20-22% of children continue treatment after a year, so Professor Samuele also explains what challenges children and parents can face when it comes to adhering to a medication routine. He also explains some potential common side effects and how they can best be managed. Claire and Professor Samuele also touch on the long-term effects of medication - with long-term studies showing benefits such as a reduction in mortality rate and improved quality of life. Overall Claire and Professor Samuele stress what a deeply personal choice medication is, and through this episode aim to support parents and their children to make the right decision for them. This epsiode is a must-listen for parents weighing up the pros and cons of medication for their child with ADHD.

What happens when you throw out the parenting rule book?

In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by parent guest Mark Allen - a former stand-up comedian who juggles working in IT, with being a writer, podcaster, and dad to three neurodivergent children, who have a combination of diagnoses including ADHD, Autism and PDA. 

Mark describes himself as an “undiagnosed neurotypical”, who navigates the competing needs of his family with humour and insight, which he channels into his podcast Neuroshambles, where he chats with guests about the lighter side of parenting neurodivergent children, including an episode with Claire.

Mark kicks off by describing how differently ADHD presents in his children, with Jay's early signs of ADHD manifesting as a need to move constantly, whereas Otto’s distractibility and inattentiveness provide challenges in terms of planning daily activities. Mark also shares some insight into how difficult it is to distinguish between ADHD and autism in his children, and the different pathways their family took to get diagnoses for their children. Mark speaks of the relief and understanding that came with the diagnoses, allowing them to better understand and support their children. He also shares some wonderful examples of how accommodations such as movement breaks and sensory-seeking activities support his children to learn and regulate themselves.

Claire and Mark also discuss the positive impact of allowing children to be themselves and how it can boost their self-esteem. In fact, Mark advises other parents to ditch the parenting rulebook altogether, along with their expectations of neurotypical children. He shares his own experience of how changing their approach to meal times has reduced stress and increased happiness for their family. He also shares a lovely take on his children's unique character and energy, particularly their strong opinions and eccentricity - fedoras and all!

This is a must-listen for any parent navigating the day-to-day challenges of raising neurodivergent children, particularly the dads!

The Journey into S.E.N.D Fatherhood: Fathers Beyond Limits book:

https://amzn.eu/d/iT1fOTM?sfnsn=scwspwa

Neuroshambles Podcast (Claire’s episode):

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3JTYK9U0KUGSb2u18lKk6f?si=N2x-hFQaQEGI06k7SLAJfA

What does burnout look like in ADHD children and teenagers?

In this episode of All Aboard ADHD, Claire is joined by Dr Samantha Hiew to discuss the signs, causes, and prevention of ADHD burnout in children and teenagers. Sam - a highly sought-after neurodiversity keynote speaker and trainer - founded ADHD girls at the age of 40, after a decade of existential anxiety living with undiagnosed ADHD. Sam seeks to humanise neurodiversity, bridging the empathy gap between those who are neurodivergent and neurotypical to foster a sense of connection, understanding, and belonging

Claire and Sam begin by discussing what causes burnout: typically various sources of long-term stress, sensory overload, and social and academic pressures. Sam also shares some insight into Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) and how this can play a part in triggering burnout. They then go on to discuss the symptoms parents can look out for in their children, for example, emotional challenges, sleep issues, and defiant behavior. 

Understanding and recognising burnout in our ADHD children and teenagers is key to prevention, so Sam shares some great examples of how we as parents can work to better support our kids to avoid burnout. For instance, creating supportive routines, ensuring the right kind of nutrition, and supporting our children's self-esteem. For children and teenagers already experiencing burnout, Sam emphasises how crucial rest and self-care are as tools.

Sam also highlights the importance of self-compassion and the need for a holistic approach, including school adjustments and support from a trusted adult. She also sheds light on the significance of recognising and addressing burnout early, to ensure we support our children to avoid long-term mental and physical health issues. Finally, Sam encourages parents to seek support via community and the right resources, so that they feel less alone in their journey - of course, that is the whole ethos of this podcast!

This episode is a must-listen for parents of children and teenagers with ADHD who want to get ahead of burnout and learn practical strategies to support their kids.

Links to articles mentioned in the episode:

ADDitude article - https://www.additudemag.com/grow-up-already-why-it-takes-so-long-to-mature/ 

ADHD Embrace - https://adhdembrace.org/teaching-pupils-with-adhd//1000 

To find out more about Samantha and her work, head to:

https://samanthahiew.com/ 

What are the best practical strategies to support our children with ADHD and help them flourish in the classroom?

In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by Jamie Gilbert, Assistant Head Teacher of a school for children with Social, Emotional and Mental Health (SEMH) needs.  Jamie (aka Mr G) has been teaching SEMH children for over 10 years and works with amazing children with a range of neurodivergent conditions, such as ADHD, Autism, Dyslexia. During lockdown, Jamie created social media channels @mrgteacher on Tiktok and Instagram, which showcase and raise awareness of teaching neurodivergent children, and has now amassed a huge following of almost 1.3 million and counting. 

In this episode Claire and Jamie discuss the different ways we can build trust and foster positive relationships with ADHD children - and the amazing benefits of doing so for children and adults alike. 

Jamie speaks about his surprising route into teaching and his rapid career progression, due to his unique ability to relate to children with severe social, emotional, and mental health challenges. He goes on to share what inspired him to begin sharing his teaching techniques on TikTok and how his first viral video led to a huge social media following. 

Along with some fantastic practical examples, Jamie shares his approach to creating a safe, secure learning environment that successfully ‘unlocks’ hyperfocus for his students with ADHD. For example, using strategies like breathing exercises to support emotional regulation, shuffle dancing to channel hyperactivity, moving breaks for self-regulation, and tailoring lessons to his students' interests. He also highlights the importance of teaching children about their ADHD so they can understand themselves and their needs. Jamie also shares the highly effective PACE approach (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity and Empathy) which adults can use to better understand the underlying reasons for ADHD kids’ behaviour, plus the importance of having a safe space in the classroom for students to self-regulate.

As he is currently on his own ADHD diagnosis journey, Jamie also shares some insights into the challenges of waiting for an NHS assessment and the benefits of the ‘Right to choose’ pathway to speed up a diagnosis. This episode is a must-listen for parents looking for practical - and fun - strategies to better understand and support their children with ADHD.

To find out more about Jamie and his work, head to: 

https://www.instagram.com/mrgteacher/?hl=en

https://www.tiktok.com/@mrgteacher

How do you balance providing your neurodivergent children with the right support, whilst empowering them to make their own decisions?

In this episode of the All Aboard ADHD podcast, Claire is joined by Hester Grainger - a former TV and BBC Radio presenter, certified ADHD coach, and mum of two neurodivergent teenagers who were diagnosed with autism in 2019 and then with ADHD in 2020. Hester speaks honestly and openly about her journey raising children with ADHD and autism, managing life as a neurodivergent parent, and her own journey with ADHD having been diagnosed later in life at 43. Their conversation provides a refreshingly positive look at ADHD traits, showing how deeply understanding and advocating for neurodivergence can have a huge impact on parents and children alike. 

Hester shares the early signs of ADHD in her children that only became apparent during their lockdown homeschooling experience, which led to their diagnoses - and her own! She also reflects on how her children's true selves emerged during their assessments, showing behaviors they typically masked in school where they had mainly been viewed as ‘compliant children’. Hester highlights some of the challenges she faced getting the right school support in place for her children, and the benefits of home education for her daughter in particular. 

Claire and Hester discuss how they balance providing their neurodivergent children with the right support, whilst empowering them to make their own decisions. Hester describes her own approach of giving them a safety net, with a ‘loving push’ to try new things and learn from their experiences. She stresses the importance of taking the time to understand our children’s individual needs, encouraging them to advocate for themselves, showing them empathy - and throwing in a bit of humour when needed! 

Finally, Hester shares her experience of finding support from other parents who faced similar challenges and the importance of connecting with people who "get you." She advises parents of neurodivergent children to find their own supportive communities and to work on a loving yet firm approach to parenting, to help children build their resilience and self-awareness. 

To find out more about Hester and her work, head to:

perfectlyautistic.co.uk

perfectlyadhd.co.uk

To buy tickets for Hester’s ADHD Unmasked tour, head to:

https://www.mapletreeentertainment.com/currently-touring/ADHD+Unmasked/36/summary/