this is intended for the advanced leadership students at Lincoln HS in Seattle WA. This is chapter 9 from the book "all about love; New Visions" by bell hooks. 

A reminder that hooks first published this book in 1999, and her tendency when talking about romantic relationships is to emphasize heterosexual relationships. In addition, she is writing through her personal lens and referring to her personal experiences as a Black feminist writer. While not everything she says will apply to you, focus on what she is saying that can be applied to you. If something makes you uncomfortable, ask yourself why before making a decision to consider it, accept it, or discard it.