Allegedly Credible

Hey guys this is the last episode of this season and we are talking about a controversial topic. This weekend is Father’s Day, but we wanted to talk about if having a father is still relevant in today’s time?

Both Mel and Danielle grew up with their fathers in their lives. Danielle is very much a daddy’s girl. Mel on the other hand had a different relationship with her dad, but she still appreciates the role he played in her life.

We’ve all heard the story of single mothers complaining about deadbeat dads or absentee fathers. Of course, some mothers have done amazing jobs raising kids on their own, but what about fathers that are present in their child’s life every single day? Or the single fathers out there raising kids on their own? There are plenty of fathers that still make it a point to be in the child’s life even though the relationship ended with the child’s mother. There are also so many men that step up and raise children as if they are their own.

Our question is do dads get a bad wrap?

As a mother, Mel feels that having her husband around to help her with the load of two kids is extremely helpful. The idea of raising her kids on her own feels like too much pressure for her. Mel and her husband might have minor disagreements on things, but overall they work together to make the best decisions for their family.

Danielle is single, but as she’s getting older she’s concerned about having a kid too late in life. Even though nowadays there are different ways to have a child, Danielle has never envisioned raising a kid on her own.  Today, more women are choosing to be single mothers by using a sperm donor, adopting,  or even just making an arrangement with a friend. Is this really a viable option for her?

Today we have Mel’s husband Teryn on the show to talk about how he feels about being a father and what role he believes a father plays in a child’s life.

Shout out to all the dads out there doing their thing! We’ll see ya’ll in the fall!

This episode is wild! Have you ever dated someone thinking you met the love of your life? You’ve been dating for a while and it looks like you guys are about to move to the next phase of the relationship.  We’re talking marriage, buying a house, and kids. You meet their family and everything…or so you thought?

What if you found out after all this time, they had a whole secret family and they were married for 2 years, but you’ve been dating them for 5?

We’ll today we have our friend Kayla on to talk about how this nightmare happened to her! Kayla was careful, she even ran multiple background checks on this dude when they first started dating! After being at his “sister’s apartment” she saw a red flag that made her suspicious. Kayla did some digging and found out her whole relationship was a lie.

We told you this was crazy!

Kayla will be discussing with us how she handled the situation and the steps she took to heal herself from the trauma. We’ll be talking about other red flags she may have ignored and what advice she would give to people to avoid getting in this situation.

Today we are talking all about one-sided friendships. You might have a few people in your life that fall under this category. When they call you, you automatically roll your eyes because you know they want something. At first, this wasn’t a big deal, but as the relationship evolved, you realized you are putting way more into the friendship than you are getting back.

Or what about the friends that always have something negative to say? No matter what is going on in life, they always have to bring everyone else down around them. As adults, life can be stressful enough without all the added drama of a “friend”.

Danielle believes she needs to stop entertaining people who don’t give back the same energy she gives to a relationship.

Mel knows she tends to be a taker at times, but that’s after years of giving her best and not getting anything in return.

Do you have friends that drain the life out of you? Well, we are here to talk about it!

Today we are talking about the struggles we deal with trying to find our own creative voices. We both grew up having many creative interests and outlets, but at times we would let self-doubt and stress keep us from pursuing our passions.

Mel has always had a love for photography and Danielle has always had her hands in the art and music world. This podcast has just become another form of creativity for us, but it’s not always easy.

Today to help us dive into our topic we have producer, singer, and rapper Gene Stovall. Listen as we discuss why we love creating and how we are learning to get over our creative blocks.

Do you struggle with sleep? Danielle defiantly does! If you are like her and have tried several over-the-counter and natural remedies, then this episode is for you.

Someone suggested Danielle try cannabis to help her sleep, but she has been reluctant to try it. Danielle has never been a fan of using drugs in her life and has never been interested, but her struggle with sleep has her considering other options. She never liked the smell of weed, nor does she want to feel high, but she’s willing to learn more about it.

Mel on the other hand has used cannabis in her life and she does feel like it has helped her to relax in the past. She hasn’t used it to help with sleep at all, but she’s looking to see if this could possibly be an option for her husband?

For this topic we have John P. Turner discussing the medical benefits of marijuana. John is the CEO of Bomaye, the first Black-owned cannabis company to get you approved for a medical marijuana card in just two days. Bomaye's mission is to approve people, especially people of color, for their medical marijuana cards. A little about our CEO: John is a Philadelphia native - he graduated from Temple University with his undergraduate degree and from Rutgers for his graduate degree in social work. Finally, John specializes in healthcare administration and he focuses on collaborating with community agencies. 

No matter how you feel about using cannabis, this episode is for your education so that you can make the best decision for yourself.

Hey Guys! Remember when we talked in Season One about going to therapy? Well into today’s episode we wanted to go a bit more in-depth and specifically talk about dealing with unresolved childhood trauma.

In previous episodes, Danielle has talked about how being molested as a child has taken a toll on her relationship with herself and others. She’s had issues with self-esteem and unhealthy relationships with food stemming from her hatred for herself. Over the past few years, she has been on a journey to heal herself and be happy from the inside. She realized that in order to live the life she wants, she had to deal with her demons head-on.

Mel has had a share of issues that she’s had to let go of herself and is still working to get over. As a mother, she wants to make sure her kids thrive in a healthy environment, but sometimes she struggles with making sure she’s not damaging them herself.

To discuss this we have Devin A. White. He is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker currently working at a middle school in central Jersey. He is serving students in grades 6-8 facilitating individual, group, and family therapy services. Devin also works with couples families and individuals part-time in a local private practice. Devin has been working with youth and families since 2010 and has been providing clinical services since 2016. Devin holds a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Morehouse College, a Master’s in Social Work from Rutgers University-New Brunswick with a concentration on Addiction Studies, and is pursuing his EdD in Organizational Leadership from Northeastern University. He is also a podcast host and a consultant for a mental health podcast/organization.

If you have some trauma that you still may be holding on to, this is the episode for you! Let’s start that healing!

Hey Everyone! As you know Mother’s day is coming up and we wanted to do a special shoutout to the women who raised us. Danielle and Mel grew up very differently, but one thing is for sure, we love our mothers! So today we have our moms on to talk with us about mother-daughter relationships.

We will discuss advice both generations received from their mothers that we still use to this day! Make sure you give our moms a warm AC welcome!

Today’s topic was actually suggested by a listener.  If you grew up in a religious household, there was a huge influence to keep your virginity until you get married. Well, so many people these days have thrown those teaching out the window. We both did.

In recent times, as people are working hard to figure out self-love, we’ve heard of more females that are deciding to refrain from sex while discovering themselves. We’ve also heard of males that abstain from sex while building business to keep from distractions.  Lastly, we’ve heard of couples intentionally going weeks or months without sex in order to deepen the connection between them. Is this really necessary or does abstaining from sex for a period of time actually help to achieve better long-term results?

If you’ve been thinking about taking a break from sex to figure yourself out better, this episode is for you.

Hey Guys! Are you guys like us and focusing on getting your finances together in 2022? Well the AC Crew is here again and this week we are talking all about credit!

Growing up all we heard was to make sure we have good credit but no one ever broke down what exactly that meant and how to achieve it. It’s crazy because as we hit adulthood, you can’t get much of anything without having a credit check. You want a car? Credit check. You want to buy a house? Credit Check. You want to rent an apartment…guess what? Credit check!

How could we barely talk about a topic that is so detrimental to our finances? We believe that the lack of open conversation about credit is why people well into their 30s either don’t have credit at all or are deep in credit card debt.

To help give advice on this topic is Helena Richardson, Founder, and CEO of Financially Fit, a New Jersey-based credit repair company, whose mission is to provide credit education, increase financial literacy and promote building generational wealth. She has helped her clients to improve their credit scores, correct past financial mistakes, and reach their goal of homeownership.

Hello everyone! We are back with Season 3 of AC! Today we are talking about feeling good and owning your body! No matter your body type there are plenty of ways to feel sexy in your own skin.

Danielle and Mel have two very different body types. Mel has a thinner frame with longer limbs. Danielle is fully plump and shaped like a pear! We struggle with body image issues, but we still make it a point to feel good about ourselves.

We know that it’s easy to get wrapped up in constantly comparing yourself to others. As women we might want rounder butts and a smaller waist, but is that what truly makes you sexy? Is it only about physical appearance? Is being sexy actually a mindset? Can our attitude, confidence, and amazing personalities contribute to what makes us sexy?

Maybe it’s a mix of both, but whatever it is, we are here to talk about it! It’s good to be back!