Allyship Is a Verb

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☎️ ⁠Call⁠ the new ⁠QTP Loveline⁠ to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragement

This week, Andrew Lear (he/him) discusses what goes into curating gay art history tours and the homophobia he's seen in academia. In this episode, you will learn 1. What intimate and sexual differences he’s seen for teenage boys and men across different cultures 2. How he’s seen gay art evolve over time 3. Which LGBTQ+ historical figures he’d want to have a dinner party with, and why

🎙️ Connect with Andrew:

• Facebook
• Oscar Wilde Tours

💻 Sources and resources:

• Andrew Lear | Wikipedia
• Rare Photos of the Stonewall Riots On Display in New Exhibit | NY1
• Images From the Stonewall Uprising’s Final Night | NY Times
• 7 LGBTQ Uprisings Before Stonewall | History.com
• Stonewall at 40: The Voice Articles That Sparked a Final Night of Rioting | Village Voice
• Gay Liberation Front GLF | Wikipedia
• Gay Activists Alliance GAA | Wikipedia
• Frank Kameny | Wikipedia
• Craig Rodwell | Wikipedia
• Sylvia Rivera, “Y’all Better Quiet Down” Original Authorized Video, 1973 Gay Pride Rally NYC *loud volume warning* | YouTube
• Camp Pride | Campus Pride
• ShopQueer.co | Online, also has The Rainbow Book Bus
• The Lavender Rhino | Online, no website yet. Funded via Kickstarter
• List of LGBT Bookstores | Wikipedia
• 50 Queer Bookstores to Visit this Pride Month  | Book Riot
• Everywhere Is Queer | You can also see thousands of LGBTQ+ owned shops here
• Man in crisis calls gay bookstore, and manager and patrons answer | NBC News

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

🗳️ Voting for 'Allyship is a Verb' in the Sonic Bloom Awards People's Choice category has ended. Thanks to everyone who helped out!

☎️ ⁠⁠Call⁠⁠ the new ⁠⁠QTP Loveline⁠⁠ to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragement

This week, Shane Whalley (ze/hir) sheds light on living in Austin, Texas as an older queer and genderqueer person. In this special update episode, you will learn 1. Why ze suggests not intervening during misgendering (without consent from the person harmed) 2. How ze wishes we would proactively approach social/political change (instead of playing defense) 3. What we could say instead of calling someone "brave" or "resilient"

🎙️ Connect with Shane:

• LinkedIn 
• Twitter
• Daring Dialogues | Shane’s training and consulting business

💻 Sources and resources:

• Charlie’s Pronoun and Name Mistake Flowchart
• Waverships | AceDadAdvice on Instagram
• Want to practice pronouncing the ze/hir pronoun set? You can hear them (and more) here https://en.pronouns.page/

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

⁠⁠📺 ⁠⁠Watch the recording⁠⁠ for PFLAG Los Angeles Presents: Trans and Nonbinary Joy ✨

☎️ Call the new QTP Loveline to get various LGBTQ+ affirmations and encouragement

This week, Tonya (she/they) shares how questioning their gender 3-5 years ago has taken them on a journey, including navigating decisions about pronouns, make-up, hair length, and clothing. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why they hired a wedding planner who has experience with queer weddings, among other intentional decisions they've been working through 2. What a previous workplace did that was a positive change for the LGBTQ+ community at large 3. How, surprisingly, a trip to a coffee shop in a small town in Texas recently made them feel seen

💻 Sources and resources:

• Microsoft Teams Pronouns |  YouTube video showing how to enable it
• Reel one and two | Instagram account @butchboudoirproject showing how to add pronouns for iOS17

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

Watch the recording for PFLAG Los Angeles Presents: Trans and Nonbinary Joy ✨

This week, Patrick Ladonis (he/him) shares how he shifted from fear to freedom when he came out to over 400 people at the premiere of his web series SCALES. In this episode, you will learn 1. How stressful it was to have people pry into his personal life before he felt comfortable talking about his now husband in the workplace 2. What CEOs and senior leadership can do to show up for employees, especially for shifting to an inclusive culture 3. How creating his web series changed him by building up his confidence, and he hopes future generations will discover it

🎙️ Connect with Patrick:

• SCALES The Webseries | YouTube

💻 Sources and resources:

• Lost-n-Found Youth |  Atlanta-based nonprofit organization that provides services to LGBTQ+ youth experiencing homelessness.
• Atlanta Angels | Supporting children, youth, and families experiencing foster care.

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack.

This week, Tiffany Rossdale (she/her) shares about being a transgender woman and transformational life coach who emigrated from Manila, Philippines, to Tokyo, Japan. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why she’s passionate about legal reform for Japan’s LGBTQ+ community and advocacy, taking inspiration from other transgender actors and activists like Laverne Cox and Angelica Ross 2. How she has been navigating the complexities of dating as a transgender woman, including safety considerations 3. What healthcare providers can do to serve transgender and nonbinary patients better.

🎙️ Connect with Tiffany:

• Breakfast with Tiffany Show | Apple Podcasts
• Website
• Facebook
• Instagram
• LinkedIn

💻 Sources and resources:

• Good news! Days after the episode was published, this happened: Japan's top court says trans sterilisation requirement unconstitutional | BBC News
• FEW Japan | For Empowering Women in Japan
• Pride House Tokyo
• Famous Japanese Trans Women | Tumblr post
• 'Deeply hurt': Anti-trans hostility rises in Japan | Japan Times
• Aya Kamikawa | Wikipedia
• LGBT culture in Tokyo | Wikipedia

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠Substack.

This week, Mark S. King (he/him) shares how the landscape of HIV/AIDS has changed over the years since the AIDS crisis of the 80s and what it's been like for him, having lived with HIV for four decades. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why is it essential to fight against HIV criminalization, especially considering the injustices and stigma it perpetuates, particularly when it's used vindictively in personal disputes and can lead to unjust labeling as sexual predators 2. How not having access to basic services like transportation can impact our health and health outcomes 3. How he initially felt about folks making comparisons between the AIDS crisis and COVID-19 and what he thinks now

🎙️ Connect with Mark S. King:

• Website | Where you can find his blog, My Fabulous Disease
• My Fabulous Disease | Mark’s new book (borrowed from the blog’s title)
• The Day After He was Murdered, I Got a Card from Josh Kruger | Post from Mark’s blog
• Facebook
• X

💻 Sources and resources:

• TheBody | HIV/AIDS Resources
• The Reunion Project | National alliance of long-term survivors of HIV
• POZ magazine
• HIV/AIDS awareness days | HIV.gov
• USCHA | United States Conference on AIDS

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠, ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠Substack.

This week, Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), is interviewed by various friends to celebrate turning 36 on September 17th, 2023! 🥳 In this episode, you will learn 1. Why they changed their name to Charlie Ocean from Chris Angel Murphy and some of what went into that decision 2. What some of their favorite books, shows, movies, and memes are 3. How to talk about someone who changed their name or pronouns with someone who doesn't know

🎙️ Connect with Charlie:

• Instagram
• LinkedIn
• Substack

💻 Sources and resources:

• : Small, Medium, Large : Foamy The Squirrel | YouTube
• Muffins - Liam Kyle Sullivan (also known for the hit song Shoes) | YouTube
• List of Strongbad emails | Homestar Runner
• End of Ze World | YouTube
• Charlie bit my finger | YouTube
• Charlie the Unicorn | YouTube playlist
• Y tho | Know your meme
• Charlie’s epic 90s birthday playlist | Spotify

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠Instagram⁠, ⁠LinkedIn⁠, and ⁠Substack.

This week Zoa Starlight Glows (she/her) returns from the first season to share how they navigate the workplace as a trans and nonbinary person, and what they wish workplaces would do to make it safer and easier. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why she decided to leave professional performing 2. What hate comments do to their spirit, and how their reactions to it have evolved over time (plus what those of us who follow Zoa on social can do to support them) 3. How some gendered terms may feel good to her in specific situations

🎙️ Connect with Zoa:

• Instagram
• TikTok

💻 Sources and resources:

• Charlie’s reel about not being transmasc (which includes the 2D 3D comment)
• The Gender and Sexuality Galaxies | Action Canada for Sexual Health and Rights

📣 Announcements:

• Our names are a gift that we can exchange - Substack post about the name change from Chris Angel to Charlie
• New merch drop 👀 with another line coming VERY soon 👕 

Host Charlie Ocean (they/them) has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and social work. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions given their unique intersecting identities. You can follow them on Instagram, LinkedIn, and Substack.

This week, MJ Jupitus (they/them) shares about how they navigate language as a nonbinary person, including being their wife's wife, but not their parent's daughter. In this episode, you will learn 1. Why they call themselves a movement specialist instead of a physical trainer or physical therapist 2. What softness means to them physically and mentally 3. How we may have "queer posture" and what it is

🎙️ Connect with MJ:

• Instagram
• Website

📣 Announcements:

• There are just two days left to support Allyship is a Verb’s Indiegogo campaign, including lots of great perks! Please consider donating $15 in honor of Chris Angel’s milestone of 15 years on testosterone (August 12th).
• New merch drop 👀 with another line coming soon 👕

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*

This week, Jack Lam (they/them) discusses how being a Malaysian Chinese immigrant has impacted them, including struggling to release shame and fear so they could name and embrace their genderqueer identity after coming to the United States. In this episode, you will learn 1. How their gender expression becomes a powerful tool for visibility 2. When allyship begins to become performative and how to avoid it 3. Why we need to normalize talking about mental health and getting support

🎙️ Connect with Jack:

• Instagram (select posts included below)
  1. To be an immigrant
  2. When you’re part of the community
  3. Questions to a genderqueer person
  4. For when you want it all to end

💻 Sources and resources:

• Coming Out: Living Authentically as LGBTQ Asian and Pacific Islander Americans | The National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance and HRC Foundation

📣 Announcements:

• Love is in the air! 😍 Or is it? Charlie's personals ad for their friend Kaitlyn may have scared you away 😅 but if it hasn’t, go check out Kaitlyn on Instagram
• Want to bring Allyship is a Verb to your workplace or group? Get a shoutout? Check out our Indiegogo campaign, including lots of other great perks! Please consider donating $15 in honor of Charlie's milestone of 15 years on testosterone (August 12th).
• New merch drop 👀 with another line coming soon 👕

Host Charlie Ocean, MSW (they/them), has a background in LGBTQ+ training, community organizing, and technology. Guest episodes feature at least one allyship tip, including tailored questions based on the guests' unique intersecting identities. You can follow Charlie on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack. *You will hear Charlie's former name in this episode and previous ones.*