All of us want love. For some, early on in our lives the channels of love and approval got fused together. I learned early on that I was “bad” and “a sinner”. So if I just changed what I wanted to do, how I expressed myself, and who I was, THEN I could get love. Many of us seek affirmation, approval, and acceptance as a substitute for love. We can even go as far as to create an inauthentic alter ego, which we think will please another, to get love. How does that happen, and what can we do about it?