In 1st Corinthians 13:4 through 8 the scripture says Love is patient, Love is kind, It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves. Love never fails. I'm a firm believer that you can't give what you don't have. I believe that in order to give true authentic 100% true love we must know that God is love Jesus is Love the holy spirit is love and we must love ourselves to love others I could be wrong but I do believe that self love is also important.