A.M THOUGHTS

As we grow old, our understanding of concepts in some aspects of life changes especially in relationships. Listen as my friends Marian, Emy and JK debunk these myths about a relationship.

When I was a kid, I knew love by a different definition. I knew it was honest, pure, unadulterated. I knew love to be dancing around the kitchen in the refrigerator light. But I knew love before I knew what it really was. Maybe Taylor Swift was right—when you were young, they assume you know nothing.

But I know love better now. I know better than believing it stays the same, like a muscle memory of when I had his favorite cardigan. I know better than believing he’d come back thinking leaving me was nothing. Love is not a deal which both of you can renew once it expires.

Surely when a long-term relationship comes to an end, it takes a long time before you start feeling better. Succumbed to failure, I remember my friend then suggesting me to do the opposite. She said that it was normal for me not to be able to contain the urge within me to talk about it. But as a good friend, she would try this new tactic of cutting me off and talking about something else in an attempt to help me get over it. I remember not feeling well when we were trying this tactic. I remember feeling as though my throat would burst if she did not listen to my unending rants about those unanswered questions.

Life is always unpredictable and full of surprises. Some we win, some we lose. But in the end, we learn.

Wonder why you’re single?

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