Everyday we make thousands of choices. What to eat. How long to sleep. Whether to exercise. How much money to spend. Much of this is unconscious. We eat toast because our father ate toast. We spend lots of money on Christmas gifts because our family spent lots of money. We drink every night because our […]

Most humans hunger to be appreciated, to be loved, to achieve and receive admiration. This is confirmed by Maslow in his famous Hierarchy of Needs. So where is the line between a healthy desire to be more, and narcissism? Narcissism is often understood to mean extreme self importance, delusions of grandeur and a lack of […]

Blame, in its simplest terms is about who is at fault for something that occurred in the past. That thing can have consequences in the present, and indeed into the future, but the original catalyst has passed. Blame is by its nature backward looking. Blame feels good. It feels righteous. Its often in acknowledgement of […]

When I started on my work of healing, I was angry. After years of denying I had been emotionally abused, suddenly I had to face the fact that it had happened. Not only that, but the abuse that impacted my life, my choices and the way I thought. I hated my abuser, and blamed them […]

When we are in a bad place, we often try to use our minds to work our way out. We ask ourselves why the situation happened, we consider what we could’ve done differently, we try to figure out what we want and need. In other words, we try to think our way forward. Sometimes, this […]