Amateur to Pro

“How can I support you?” is one of my favorite questions to ask at the start of a coaching conversation. What I’m really asking is, “What is your support language?” So much has been written about our Love Languages and most people are familiar with their Primary Love Language. Gary Chapman has identified five in his book, and perhaps there are more. But what about Support Languages?

Many times, we scare ourselves before even starting, causing us to never begin. And that’s why, so often, simply to begin is to win. But what happens when we do begin and then realize we had forgotten how hard the effort actually was? I did finish the Borken Arrow Skyrace I wrote about last week. But perhaps due to a measure of Ignorance and Arrogance (I+A). Here are my thoughts in retrospect and what could have happened if it wasn’t for a little bit of I&A.

I’m obsessed with beginnings. Beginnings carry what I like to think of as “Pilgrim Energy”! I’m talking about that effortless stream of vital energy we experience at the dawn of a desire. Think of the beginnings of falling in love, starting a business, or committing to a big mission.

Efficiency and effectiveness are not the same. Understanding the distinction between these two words makes all the difference if our goal is to create more impact with our time, not just check off boxes on our “To Do” list.

Coaching is… NOT a hobby. It is a profession (and a sacred one at that). Casually using the title of "Coach" alongside another profession (so fashionable these days on every social platform!) is not the way to becoming a Professional Coach and certification alone doesn’t turn you into one or guarantee stellar results.

I frequently use the word extraordinary to describe my clients. Yesterday, while running on the trails, it occurred to me that using this adjective to describe people who are creating noticeable change and transformation in their lives, may be misleading to others who want to do the same.

When you were in your 20’s, did you ever think about how you would like to be remembered? The answer from most of us is a hell no! Last week, I asked this question of G. — a 24 year old young adult client who has been coaching with me for a couple of years.

28 things you can control. I’m not suggesting you do or don’t do any of these things — I’m just saying… You’ve got control. Do not fool yourself into believing that you don’t!

Spring is the season of possibility and potential, a time to plant intentional seeds for the future harvest. Let your mixed emotions guide you towards purposeful choices and thoughtful commitments.