Ambiguity with Ambi

Some people may thrive in uncertainty whereas others, like myself, prefer to know everything in advanced before making a move.  In this episode my guest, Nkem shares her extensive journey studying, working and living abroad and how she intentionally embarked on a journey of uncertainty and ambiguity to evolve and grow.

Nkem is a human-goddess hybrid sensationally journeying her way through life. She is a writer, writing coach, workshop facilitator, and podcast host, fascinated by all things language, self, and human relationships. Her ongoing goal in life is to support people in seeing themselves, which is why she created www.wellspringwords.love. Through her work and her passions, Nkem hopes people will gain a deeper relation to themselves, a sense of community, and more access to ‘aha’ moments leading them to greater personal and spiritual enlightenment.

Join me and listen as Nkem shares her journey of ambiguity and uncertainty and how she navigated it.

Key Highlights:

·  (1: 08-: 14:30) Get to know more about Nkem and her extensive journey studying abroad in Hong Kong and working and living abroad in South Korea, Abu Dhabi, Mexico and Portugal.

·  Nkem’s current and previous experiences of ambiguity and uncertainty and how she navigated it.

·  The soul push she experienced that caused her to step out of her routine life in Abu Dhabi and into a journey faced with ambiguity and uncertainty.

·  (15:42- 20:04) How she went about to determine what her next step would be when leaving Abu Dhabi, the people she met and how she continued building community.

·  Listening and trusting your intuition as the ultimate guide when embarking on a new journey.

·  (22:52- 26:58) Embracing the realness of community and the importance of community.

·  Not giving to much of herself but discerning who she wants to connects with.

·  The importance of discovering who you are and what you have to give in cultivating community.

·  (27:30 -29:59) Nkem’s advice for those who are living in a state of self - uncertainty and self- ambiguity.

·  Allowing yourself to be open to a shift in perspective, not trying to change of fix anything.

·  Feeling uncertain within ourselves leads to tenseness in your body, mind and your heart.

·  The importance of determining what the external factors are that causes tenseness and physical discomfort.

·  (31: 13 - 32:59) Wrapping Up

·  Nkem’s final words of advice for listeners is to surrender to something bigger than self or outside of self and see what happens from there.

·  The importance of practicing the basic yet important things life has to offer i.e., breathing and drinking lots of water.

Key Quotes

“It’s important to first understand who you are and what you can give. If it is being received then you start to attract the people who are receiving your love and hopefully their love matches what you need.” Nkem

“Uncertainty within ourselves can lead to tenseness. Discovering what the external factors are that causes physical discomfort is important so you can discover who you are.” Nkem

“The opportunity to understand who I am based on what is not feeling good or what makes me feel like I don’t have everything in order is a gift.” Nkem

Let’s connect

You can connect with our guest Nkem, @naturallyfree123 and @wellspringswords .

You can connect with our host Amber LaTrece on Instagram, @IAmAmberLaTrece.

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Do you give people the gift of your expectations too freely? Tune into today's episode with Chef K as we explore the reality of ambiguous expectations for ourselves and others.

Kattrena Swasey is a soul, work-focused-forgiveness coach, teacher, speaker, mentor, and chef. She is the founder and CEO of Everything with Love Catering and Reconstructed Bridges, LLC. She has made it her mission to bring awareness to the obstacles and disparities that often plague minority women. She is proud that her family roots run deep through the beautiful country of Belize, and she looks forward to continuing to provide hope and pouring into future generations!

KEY HIGHLIGHTS:

(01: 41 -11: 11)

Get to know a little more about Kattrena and her fantastic work.

The fast five questions

How she learned and established her faith in God.

The life-changing event Kattrena had when she was ten years old and how that changed her preconceived perception of others.

(11:39 -13:16)

How that event helped her to navigate other areas of life.

(13:20 - 17:26)

The advice Kattrena shares for those who may find themselves in situations where they are operating from a place of preconceived ideas.

Deep breathing exercises can help block off preconceived ideas and neutralize your energetic feel before entering any situation or room.

Practical example of Deep Breathing Exercises you can practice anywhere.

(17:46 – 22:33)

Kattrena's advice is when you have faced situations where you have been met with resistance, i.e., where you were not received well and how to navigate those situations.

"Don't take things personal from the Book: The 4 agreements, Don Miguel Ruize.

(22:46- 25:54)

How to not take things personal or once you have taken things personal, how do we make the quick adjustment so you can continue to navigate in kindness.

(25:59 – 29:57)

Why expectations can lead to disappointment and tips for managing your expectations.

(30:00- 35:30)

How to forgive when you have been hurt due to broken expectations.

A few things Kattrena implemented after her own therapy process.

Seeking therapy when you have trauma from your past will help you to process things.

Why forgiveness is not attached to reconciliation.

(36:00 - 37:52)

Wrapping Up!

Kattrena shares advice on how to navigate the ambiguity and uncertainty of life.

Kattrena encourages us to practice building a relationship with ourselves so we can take what we have learned and apply it to relationships outside of ourselves.

KEY QUOTES:

"Don't take things personally", from the Book: The 4 agreements with Don Miguel Ruize

"Today, you could be talking to someone who is trying their best not to fall apart, so whatever you do today, do it with kindness in your heart". Kattrena Swasey

"Everyone does not deserve the gift of your expectations" Kattrena Swasey

LET’S CONNECT:

You can connect with our guest, Kattrena Swasey on Facebook at Reconstructed Bridges and Instagram at Reconstructed Bridges LLC.

You can connect with our host Amber LaTrece on Instagram. Head to https://amberlatrece.com/ambiguity-with-ambi, and join us on this journey as we discover how to navigate the uncertain on Ambiguity with Ambi! Be sure to subscribe on Apple and Spotify, so you never miss an episode!

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If you are feeling overwhelmed by all the things you think you need to do, then you definitely don’t want to miss this episode. In this episode of Ambiguity with Ambi, I talk to my amazing guest and good friend Candice Lomax as she shares her journey of navigating through the ambiguous and uncertain moments of her life.

Candice Lomax is a mom wife, sista-friend to many and a lover of Jesus Christ. Her mission is to walk in the wholeness of who she was created to be, while sharing hope to others. She’s on a journey of learning to accept her own imperfections, embrace the newness that everyday brings, and letting go of the things she can’t control. She enjoys delicious food, spending time with those who are close to her heart and good book or drama series.

Key Highlights:

(1: 22-: 13:41) Opening

·  Get to know a little more about Candice , what she enjoys and values in her life

·  The fast five questions

·  Candice’s most recent experience of uncertainty she faced with her 19-month old daughter and how she navigated around that.

·  “Sometimes the pain or uncomfortableness we experience is part of life’s natural progression to take us to the next level of your journey”.

(13:42 -34:50)

·  Candice discusses how overwhelmed she felt and not being able to switch off her mind

·  Why is it important to take note of the times when you feel like controlling or pressuring yourselves?

·  Exercises she did in her therapy sessions that helped her identify the things that are weighing her down.

·  What is the real reason why she is putting so much pressure on herself to perform, to control and not to have any ambiguity in her life?

·  Schedules can help people get some much-needed rest

·  Getting in a good cardio session helps open up your mind.

·  Practicing mindful thinking replaces the negative self-talk or the need to do to many things with positive thoughts

·  Real consequences exist if she doesn’t get her mind in a place where it can rest.

(34:55-36:28) Wrapping up!

·  Candice shares advice on how to navigate the ambiguity and uncertainty of life

·  Candice advises listeners to seek help and support to navigate the ambiguous moments of life.

Key quotes

“It is not so much control but creating the structure to truly surrender and release yourself in that space”- Candice Lomax

Let’s connect

You can connect with our guest, Candice Lomax on Instagram: @thewifeyhood or Website: wifeyhood.com and be sure to check out her Podcast: Wifey hood

You can connect with our host Amber Latrece on Instagram @IAmAmberLaTrece. Head to https://amberlatrece.com/ambiguity-with-ambi, and join us on this journey as we discover how to navigate the uncertain on Ambiguity with Ambi! Be sure to subscribe on Apple and Spotify, so you never miss an episode!

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Have you ever experienced uncertainty in your relationships? In this episode, my dear friend Keosha shares how she learned that it's important to take a step back and focus on your core values when you're facing these situations. She delves into how she and her husband took a step away from their relationship to work on some character "flaws" they felt needed to be worked on, and how it helped them to go in the right direction and create a better future relationship. She stresses the importance of prayer and mindfulness to help set oneself up for success and encourages you to be patient and gracious with yourself and those around you in these challenging times. Let's dive in!

Key Highlights:

[00:01 - 10:01] Navigating Paths And Moments Of Uncertainty

• Keosha Barnett discusses navigating paths and moments of uncertainty and ambiguity

• The fast five questions

• Kiosha discusses a time when she faced ambiguity in her career

[10:02 - 19:24] Being Transparent and Honest

• How a young couple navigated ambiguity

• Keosha shares her experience with her husband

• Why it is key to get back on track, take a break and figure out what your goals are as a couple

[19:25 - 27:54] Creating a Better Future Relationship

• The reason why you should step away from your relationship sometimes

• Each person or couple has to define what "step away" means for themselves.

• Focus on yourself and check if there's a character-building that needs to take place

[27:55 - 35:17] Wrapping Up!

• Set yourself up for success and extend grace to yourself and others

• Why you should have a routine to trigger your mind to think differently every day

Want to connect with Keosha? Follow her on Facebook, and Instagram.

Key Quotes:

"Understanding that you have the same end goals, I think that's what really helps and pushes you to do things differently." - Keosha

"Don't say what you wouldn't do, or what's not gonna happen. Just allow God to navigate you through that time. And you might end up being way happier." - Keosha

"It's okay to just own your lane and own your speed but have grace for those that are trying to get to a place of where you are." - Keosha

Let’s Connect! You can connect with our host Amber Latrece on Instagram. Head to https://amberlatrece.com/ambiguity-with-ambi, and join us on this journey as we discover how to navigate the uncertain on Ambiguity with Ambi! Be sure to subscribe on Apple and Spotify, so you never miss an episode!

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Are you living in a way that makes you feel comfortable and joyful despite what other people think? In this week's episode, our amazing guest, Dez shares her story of how she's learned to embrace ambiguity and uncertainty in her own life and encourages listeners to do the same. She also shares advice on how to connect with people and be intentional in finding those who support and uplift you. She discloses why it is key to take ownership of your life and choose yourself and touches on how to approach ambiguity and uncertainty by connecting with those who align with you and add value to you. Let's dive in!

Desiree Maya is the Founder of Born Unbreakable, a keynote speaker, a six-figure earner, and host of the Born Unbreakable Podcast. With 15+ years of entrepreneurial experience, she successfully challenges and inspires people to take action and believe in themselves as a part of designing a life and profession that they truly love. Desiree has taken years of setbacks, disappointments, and successes and uses them to fuel powerful, yet simple lessons that will help anyone face their fears, crush their self-limiting beliefs and embrace their uniqueness.

Key Highlights:

[00:02 - 06:59] Navigating Spaces of Uncertainty And Ambiguity

• Dez shares her story and background

• The fast five questions

• What it's like to navigate spaces of uncertainty and ambiguity

[07:00 - 18:06] The Most Impactful Time in Dez's Life When She Experienced Ambiguity

• Dez break's all the changes she experienced when she was 22

• What happened in Dez's life when she got divorced

• Why people should get aligned on goals and have conversations about what the future looks like.

[18:07 - 27:30] Taking Ownership of Your Life During a Difficult Time

• The importance of recognizing that you have control over what you want

• Why having a greater sense of self-awareness is essential

• One way to have help and support in times of ambiguity is to be intentional about the people around you.

[30:26 - 32:23] Wrapping Up!

• Find those people or those situations that support you and are aligned with your values and goals.

Want to connect with Coach Dez? Follow her on Instagram. Head to Born Unbreakable, and be unapologetically you!

Key Quotes:

"Take care of yourself first, before you can give the best of yourself to others." - Coach Dez

"I took ownership for me and lived on terms that made sense for me, despite if other people may question or disagree with it." - Coach Dez

"When you have a greater sense of self-awareness, then you can start to problem solve and take action." - Coach Dez

Let’s Connect! You can connect with our host Amber Latrece on Instagram. Head to https://amberlatrece.com/ambiguity-with-ambi, and join us on this journey as we discover how to navigate the uncertain on Ambiguity with Ambi! Be sure to subscribe on Apple and Spotify, so you never miss an episode!

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Oftentimes people find themselves in ambiguous and uncertain situations because they're unwilling to make decisions. In this episode, our incredible guest, Dr. Edwina Martin shares advice on how to navigate through life's uncertain and ambiguous moments and emphasizes the importance of embracing the uncomfortable. She encourages people to use whatever decision tree they may find helpful in making decisions. If a decision turns out to be bad, she advises using the information gathered to make the next one more wisely. She also discloses the importance of taking control and not being paralyzed by the uncertain and ambiguous moments of life. Let's discover how ambiguity has shaped her life in ways you cannot imagine!

Dr. Edwina is a licensed clinical psychologist currently working for the Department of Defense, a role in which she regularly confronts and assists others with managing ambiguity. She is passionate about helping others learn skills to better help themselves. She resides in Okinawa, Japan with her husband. She enjoys traveling, animals, skydiving, great food, and spending time with friends and family.

Key Highlights:

[00:01 - 09:27] Tips for Navigating Uncertainty and Ambiguity

Dr. Edwina's background and work

The fast five questions

The most challenging experience Dr. Edwina has encountered in her life

[09:28 - 18:03] How to Adjust Your Expectations When They're Not Met

Dr. Edwina shares how she experienced a period of ambiguity in her relationship with her husband

How people can deal with the uncertainty and ambiguity of life by setting realistic expectations and compromising when necessary

It is important to be humble and understand that we cannot always control the actions of other people

[18:04 - 28:16] Accepting Yourself and Your Partner

How to deal with frustrations in a relationship and modify our expectations

Using assertive communication within a relationship is vital

We all have to make decisions every day, and there are consequences for every decision we make

[28:17 - 34:12] Wrapping Up!

Be comfortable with uncertainty and ambiguity

Key Quotes:

"We have to be willing to modify our expectations because when you set your expectations too high, you set yourself up for disappointment." - Edwina Martin

"You have to humble yourself and realize you're not right all the time and everything's not going to go the way that you want." - Edwina Martin

Let’s Connect! You can connect with our host Amber Latrece on Instagram. Head to https://amberlatrece.com/ambiguity-with-ambi, and join us on this journey as we discover how to navigate the uncertain on Ambiguity with Ambi! Be sure to subscribe on Apple and Spotify, so you never miss an episode!

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We all know the pandemic changed tremendously our way of living, and all of us are still trying to adjust and navigate the changes. Luckily, our host Amber Latrece, created The Ambiguity with Ambi Podcast, a unique place designed to discover how to embrace and accept moments of uncertainity and ambiguity. This season is going to be amazing, so get ready to have insightful conversations about relationships, parenthood, college life, self-view and self-worth. You don't want to miss these thought-provoking episodes!

You can connect with our host Amber Latrece on Instagram. Head to https://amberlatrece.com/ambiguity-with-ambi, and join us on this journey as we discover how to navigate the uncertain on Ambiguity with Ambi! Be sure to subscribe on Apple and Spotify, so you never miss an episode!

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