An Open Conversation with Mark and Monica

An Open Conversation with Mark and Monica

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  • Who is my Enemy?

    In this thoughtful episode, Monica Neubauer and Mark Neubauer dive into the timely and often loaded concept of "enemy" in today's culture. With personal stories and perspectives, they reflect on how social media and politics have shifted the meaning and frequency of the word enemy, both in public discourse and personal relationships.

    The conversation unpacks the roots of tribalism, how beliefs form "tribes," and why it's become so easy to label others as enemies—even when true harm might not be present. The hosts consider the definition of "enemy," question whether the term is being used too loosely, and discuss the impact this has on families, friendships, and society at large.

    This episode also introduces their upcoming "It's Complicated" series, promising open, nuanced discussions about the toughest topics facing us today.

    Major Talking Points

    • The increasing use of "enemy" in social and political conversations
    • Personal experiences of feeling targeted or labeled
    • Tribalism and the human need for "the other"
    • How beliefs and group identity drive division
    • The shift from competitor to enemy in political environments
    • The dangers of viewing fellow citizens as enemies rather than people with differing views
    • Practical reflections: questioning who our real enemies are, and encouraging empathy

    Teaser: Introduction of the "It's Complicated" series, which will tackle challenging and divisive topics

    Memorable Quotes

    Monica Neubauer

    "Who is my enemy? I mean, when I meet people, if they had a different opinion of me... we either talked about it and just changed perspective or we... moved on.'"

    Mark Neubauer

    "To be human is to be tribal... But I'm kind of holding 'enemy' loosely in that context of we perceive people, we put them into the enemy camp, but they're not really enemies. They're just people that are not in our tribe.'"

    Monica Neubauer

    "Are you calling someone an enemy? Who is your enemy? Do they really wish you harm?'"

    Resources Mentioned

    Heineken "Worlds Apart" Ad https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dKggA9k8DKw

    Email for topic suggestions: [email protected]

    Call to Action

    Monica and Mark invite listeners to reconsider how they use and interpret the word "enemy" and to send in suggestions for complicated topics they'd like discussed in future episodes. Thanks for listening to An Open Conversation with Mark and Monica! If you have feedback or want to suggest a future topic, reach out via the contact in the show notes. Watch for the upcoming "It's Complicated" series for more open, challenging dialogues.

    Stay connected:

    • Community: Join here and receive 10 conversation starters to spark deeper discussions.
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    About the Hosts

    • Monica Neubauer – Speaker, Author, and Emcee | www.MonicaNeubauer.com
    • Mark Neubauer – Artist, Creator, and Innovator | www.TheLaughingArtist.com

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    18 min
  • What is Truth?

    🎙️ Welcome to "An Open Conversation with Mark and Monica"! 🎙️ Mark and Monica dive deep into the complexities of truth, challenging traditional ideas and exploring the layers that shape everyone's perspective. The discussion begins with their thoughts on the phrase "my truth," contrasting objective facts ("is that true?") with the emotions and experiences behind personal truths. Monica suggests replacing "my truth" with "my experience" to foster more meaningful dialogue and understanding. The conversation covers how our backgrounds, cultural, religious, or otherwise, influence what we believe to be true, and how stepping outside our comfort zones can help us appreciate the multiplicity of perspectives. They also tackle the reliability of science, emphasizing that even scientific "truths" are shaped by human bias and limitations in data collection. From marriage anecdotes to reflections on economic realities, Mark and Monica invite listeners to loosen their grip on dogmatic ideas of truth. They encourage curiosity, asking questions, and seeking out new experiences, whether through travel, trying new foods, or simply engaging with different communities. The episode closes with a call to embrace paradox and allow room for growth in our understanding of what's "true" for others and ourselves. Key Topics Covered:

    • The shifting meaning of "truth" and the impact of words
    • "My truth" vs. "the truth": Experience as perspective
    • The difference between facts (objective) and beliefs (subjective)
    • Influence of culture, religion, and science on truth
    • Bias in science and the importance of transparency
    • Approaching economic statistics and data critically
    • The necessity of holding truth loosely and living with paradox

    Main Points:

    • Words like "truth" change meaning and can create confusion
    • Reframing conversations from "my truth" to "my experience"
    • Cultural, religious, and scientific filters influence perception
    • Scientific methods aim for objectivity, but human bias remains
    • Engaging in curiosity and dialogue opens space for diverse perspectives
    • Many people struggle to hold contradictory truths, but doing so leads to growth

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Article: Those unsure of own ideas more resistant to views of others

    Takeaway Quote:"Ask more questions. Get into people's stories." – Mark

    Tips for Listeners:

    • Practice curiosity about others' experiences and beliefs
    • Experiment with holding your own truths a little more loosely
    • Seek out new experiences, whether cultural, culinary, or conversational
    • Remember: Your way isn't the only way. Expand your definition of truth.

    If today's episode resonated with you, we'd love to hear your feedback! Join the conversation and share your thoughts with our community.

    Stay connected:

    • Community: Join here and receive 10 conversation starters to spark deeper discussions.
    • Facebook: Follow us for updates and new episodes.

    About the Hosts

    • Monica Neubauer – Speaker, Author, and Everything DiSC Consultant | www.MonicaNeubauer.com
    • Mark Neubauer – Artist, Creator, and Innovator | www.TheLaughingArtist.com
    31 min
  • Know Thyself - Personality Profiles

    Mark and Monica dive into personality profiles and their impact on relationships, particularly marriage. They discuss various personality assessment tools including DISC, Myers-Briggs, and the Enneagram, sharing their personal experiences with each. Key Topics Covered: - Overview of DISC personality profiles - Myers-Briggs personality types - The Enneagram system - The importance of personality awareness in marriage - Common misconceptions about personality types - Growth and adaptation in relationships Main Points: - DISC profiles explained (D-dominant, I-influencer, S-steady, C-cautious) - Mark and Monica's personal profiles: - Monica: ENTJ (Myers-Briggs), Enneagram 8 - Mark: INFP (Myers-Briggs), Enneagram 4 - The importance of understanding personality differences in relationships - Warning against using personality types as excuses ("I am what I am" mindset) - The value of continuous personal growth and adaptation Resources Mentioned: - 16personalities.com for Myers-Briggs testing - Previous episode with Sue Moore about Enneagram and families Takeaway Quote: "Just realize that the rest of the world doesn't think like you." - Mark Tips for Listeners: - Explore different personality assessment tools - Be curious about others' perspectives - Use personality insights as tools for growth, not limitations - Consider doing personality assessments as a family Monica is at www.MonicaNeubauer.com and Mark can be found at www.TheLaughingArtist.com

    33 min
  • Engaging with Adult Children: Trust, Respect and Boundaries
    1. Respect and Trust in Family Relationships: Monica kicks off the episode by discussing the importance of mutual respect and trust, especially with children who have granted permissions like GPS location sharing for safety reasons. She emphasizes respecting their privacy and maintaining minimal invasiveness despite having access to their whereabouts. 2. Family GPS Sharing: We explore the different ways families utilize GPS sharing, its benefits for safety, and logistical reasons. Monica shares her experience with her daughter's GPS permissions, highlighting the delicate balance of safety and privacy. 3. Boundaries with Adult Children: Boundaries don't disappear just because kids grow up. Respecting the independence of adult children, even when living under the same roof, is vital. We discuss scenarios such as families opting out of shared GPS after marriage and the importance of trusting your adult children to make their own decisions. 4. Living Arrangements and Financial Responsibility: Whether adult children are living at home or on their own, contributing to household expenses and learning financial responsibility are crucial steps towards maturity. We exchange insights on how to foster financial discipline, including asking adult children to pay rent and manage their own chores. 5. Respect Across Generations: Monica highlights the differences in parenting styles across generations and underlines the mutual respect needed between parents and their grown children. This generational respect fosters healthier, long-lasting relationships. 6. The Power of Open Conversations: We can't stress enough how pivotal open and honest conversations are in maintaining trust and respect. Monica and Mark discuss the importance of regularly engaging with adult children to ensure strong, positive family bonds. 7. Teaching and Learning Responsibility: Through personal anecdotes, we dive into teaching self-reliance and personal responsibility to children, whether it's through household chores or financial management. These skills prove invaluable as they navigate adulthood. 8. Addressing the Influence on Children: We talk about the diverse influences on children, from media to peer groups, and how these shape their worldview. The conversation brings up the importance of a balanced approach to monitoring media and encouraging independent thinking. 9. Parental Sacrifice and Real-World Challenges: There's an insightful discussion on the societal expectation of parental sacrifice and its impact on children's preparedness for real-world challenges. We touch on the concept of sheltered upbringings and how they might contribute to struggles in adulthood. 10. Boomerang Kids and Financial Maturity: Mark and Monica humorously tackle the topic of "boomerang kids" – children who return home after living independently. Through this, they stress the importance of financial maturity and responsible living. 11. Trust vs. Control: Reflecting on the delicate balance between control and trust, Monica and Mark share personal experiences and strategies for trusting children to make the right choices, even when they make mistakes. 12. Worried While Overseas: A fascinating paradox is discussed where Monica admits worrying less about her children when they're abroad compared to when they're nearby, suggesting it's easier to maintain trust and independence when the physical distance is greater. If you enjoyed this episode, please share your thoughts and experiences with us. We always love hearing from our community! Stay Updated: Schedule Changes and More Monica's travel schedule has often resulted in inconsistent podcast uploads. However, she is committed to improving this, planning ahead to ensure we bring you regular, high-quality content. Stick with us as we navigate these changes! Thank you for being part of "An Open Conversation" community. We appreciate your support and look forward to continuing this journey with you. Connect with Monica at www.MonicaNeubauer.com
    37 min
  • What is Time Management?
    🎙️ **Welcome to "An Open Conversation with Mark and Monica"!** 🎙️ In today's thought-provoking episode titled **What is Time Managment** we'll dive deep into the concept of living life without waiting for some time in the future when the time will be "right". Your hosts, Monica Neubauer and Mark Neubauer, will guide you through a lively discussion about making intentional choices with your time and money to prioritize experiences, like traveling and personal adventures, without being constrained by financial barriers. We'll delve into the impact of social media on inspiring hobbies and activities and emphasize the importance of living with intention, or as Monica calls it, "Funtententional living"—a delightful blend of fun and intentionality. Mark will share some life lessons from his journey, from entrepreneurship to retirement, and emphasize the value of making gradual progress on projects and maintaining a calm attitude towards achieving long-term goals. This conversation was inspired by Monica's enjoyment of Ginny Yurich's podcast episode with Richie Norton about his book, "Anti-Time Management". Her podcast is called "1000 Hours Outside". So get ready to explore how to take control of your time, prioritize meaningful experiences, and live an organized, intention-filled life. Let's jump right in! 🚀✨ Join An Open Conversation Community and be a part of our open conversations. Sign up at: https://www.anopenconversation.com/contact We will send you 10 conversation starters to help you with having AN OPEN CONVERSATION. Follow us on FB at: https://www.facebook.com/AnOpenConversation About The Neubauers: Monica Neubauer is a Speaker, Author and Everything DiSC consultant. Follow Monica at: www.MonicaNeubauer.com Mark Neubauer is a creator of many things. This website is for his art. www.TheLaughingArtist.com
    29 min
  • Stress is real! Laugh it off with Mark and Monica
    In today's episode, Mark and Monica delve into the pressing and stressful issues of the day. They start with discussions of the retirement crisis, exploring the shift from traditional pensions to individual retirement planning. They discuss how the quest for work-life balance and the rise of AI are reshaping the job market and retirement landscape. The pervasive stress linked to climate change and the often overwhelming flow of negative news is tied to this to create a heavy stress burden. Monica shares her personal struggles with stress, particularly around environmental issues and government ineptitude. They take a deeper dive into the evolutionary perspective on stress and its health implications, emphasizing the need for relaxation amidst constant "aggregate stressors." The discussion will touch on generational communication gaps, social media's misinterpretations, and the personal and cultural pressures that come with modern living. You'll hear about the Neubauers' ways of mitigating stress, from the essential role of laughter and humor to finding solace in nature. They highlight the importance of expressing stress rather than suppressing it, while also focusing on finding solutions rather than dwelling on problems. From the impact of social media to the stress relief found in simple activities like deep breathing, dancing, and crying, this episode is a comprehensive look at the multifaceted nature of stress in our lives and how we can better manage it. Join us as we navigate through these important topics and strive for a bit more balance and laughter in our daily lives.
    36 min
  • Let's Talk Politics

    Mark and Monica are talking politics! The way they follow politics has changed so much throughout their adult life. If you are fascinated by it, enraged, or just curious, listen in for some tips for engaging when watching or listening and learning about politics in the US. Monica can be found at MonicaNeubauer.com Mark can be found at TheLaughingArtist.com - when the website works. So much to do.

    27 min
  • Life Expectations with Mark and Monica
    Welcome back to "An Open Conversation with Mark and Monica." In this episode, we delve into the theme of "Expectations." Monica and Mark Neubauer share real stories and insights on the impact of expectations in various aspects of life. From managing grocery expenses to parenting styles, aging, and societal norms, the Neubauers discuss the influence of expectations on relationships, work environments, and the real estate industry. They explore the importance of clear communication, adapting to changes, and embracing imperfections. Join us as we navigate through the complexities of expectations in this open and honest conversation. Timestamped overview 00:00 Adapting to changing workplace expectations across generations. 04:20 Frustration with agent's text-only communication preference. 07:41 Prioritizing healthy food, balancing expenses creates tension. 10:26 Joy can be found despite suffering expectation. 15:05 Overprotective parenting aims for an ideal childhood. 19:55 Parenting and gardening have similar outcomes. 20:43 Value in different approaches; imperfection is universal. 25:39 Miscommunication happens when words don't match feelings. 27:12 Enjoyment, challenges, and perspective on life's journey. 33:18 Value achieving easier movement and aging well. 34:18 45-minute strength training class for older women. 37:01 Seeking normality and adapting to situations positively. Key Points and Bullet Underpoints Primary Topic: Grocery Expenses and Financial Management - Impact of food expenses on finances - Importance of managing grocery shopping - Need for better financial management to avoid high grocery bills - Unexpectedly high grocery expenses due to Mark's surgery Primary Topic: Aligned Expectations in Life - Raising children and managing leisure activities - Reflecting on finding joy amidst suffering - Societal expectations of a perfect life and handling disappointments - Concept of misery being optional when reality does not meet expectations - Illustration of road trip and the impact of false expectations Primary Topic: Communication in Relationships and Work Environments - Importance of clear communication in developing new relationships - Poor communication leading to frequent failures - Adjustments in work environments to meet the expectations of new generations - Impact of lack of communication in the real estate industry - The value of scheduled check-ins for evaluating and improving systems in relationships Primary Topic: Aging and Expectations - Tailored exercise classes for specific age groups - Normalizing and adapting to changes in the body as it ages - Need to adjust expectations and embrace imperfections - Kids feeling pressure to be perfect in various domains - Lack of chance for people to make decisions and explore on their own - Unaligned expectations in midlife with the reality of aging - Challenges of unexpected physical changes and adjustment to aging If you want to start the journey to having better conversations, share your spiritual journey and listen to An Open Conversation, sign up at: https://www.anopenconversation.com/contact. We will send you 10 conversation starters to help you with having AN OPEN CONVERSATION. Follow us on FB at: https://www.facebook.com/AnOpenConversation Receive updates on podcast releases and share your pain journey with our Open Conversation Community. About The Neubauers: Monica Neubauer is a Speaker, Author and Everything DiSC consultant. Follow Monica at: www.MonicaNeubauer.com Mark Neubauer is a creator of many things. This website is for his art. www.TheLaughingArtist.com
    39 min
  • Holidays and Relationships with Mark and Monica
    Mark and Monica are looking forward to the holidays and time with family and friends. And with their favorite movies. Here is a review of the points Monica made at the end of the conversation. Remember, you cannot control others. You can only control yourself. Have some fun!
    1. Say you are Sorry. I am sorry.
    2. Forgive others. It is easier when they apologize, but it is good for you to do this all the time, regardless of whether they say it or realize it or not.
    3. Do your best to understand them.
    4. In conversation and time with others - at holidays or any gathering.
    5. Listen to what others are saying. If you disagree, listen until they finish. Thank them for the conversation and move on to another conversation. There is no need to argue. You won't change them.
    6. If you are a bit tired or don't want to "have to stay a long time". You don't have to stay. Go, have fun and leave early at an appropriate time. If it is at your house, you can go to bed and let your guests continue to have fun.
    7. Be in control of yourself. Whatever that means for you. For me, it means eating and drinking in moderation.
    8. Give grace to others. We all make mistakes. Let more things go. Give more hugs.
    9. Choose to no be offended.
    10. Take time to process the feelings you have when anyone is late or does something you don't like - process the feelings, snuggle the pet, or get or give a hug, and then move on.
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    32 min

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Mark and Monica Neubauer have invested hours and years into cultivating good conversation skills with each other and with others. People are complex beings and we live in shades of nuance that are…