In this week’s episode, I’m sharing something deeply personal and vulnerable. “and celibate + sober” isn’t just a follow-up to last week’s talk on sexual chemistry—it’s an honest look at what happens when you strip away the sex, the alcohol, the validation, and the constant performance. I talk about what led me to take a break from sex for 90 days and alcohol for 30, how hookup culture left me feeling empty, and the moments that made me realize I was being consumed, not truly seen. From being catfished by a fine-ass dude who didn’t even need to lie, to disappearing men who ghosted the minute I wouldn’t send nude pics or give them sex, this episode is about reclaiming my self-worth without external validation. If you’ve ever questioned your worth when sex or validation is off the table, this one’s for you.

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