Black. Queer. Unapologetic.

I've been unemployed for two months, and dating feels different, lighter, calmer, clearer.

In this episode, I talk about how not working became a filter in my dating life, revealing who needs me to be impressive and who can meet me as I am. I unpack the pressure on Black gay men to always be strong, stable, and exceptional. My worth didn’t disappear when my job did.

I’ve been single for eight years and I’m not ashamed of it. In this episode, I talk about my dating history, why apps feel like a drug, how therapy changed the way I date, and why I refuse to compete for someone who can’t choose me. If you’re single, tired of being questioned, or done entertaining confusion, this one’s for you.

After 19 years of working nonstop, I quit my job, not because I failed, but because I didn’t recognize myself anymore. In this episode, I talk about rejecting perfectionism, burnout, and the pressure to constantly be “better,” especially as a Black person navigating systems that reward overworking and self-erasure. I share what I saw after a decade in HR, how hustle culture became survival conditioning for me, and why I’m choosing wholeness over performance. This isn’t a motivational speech or a quit-your-job fantasy. It’s a reckoning, a reset, and a reminder that success shouldn’t cost you your soul.

This episode is about what happens when success becomes something you perform instead of something you actually live.

I talk about the pressure many Black men, queer folks, and people of color grow up carrying the unspoken need to always be “on” to be seen as worthy or safe and how that pressure shows up in careers, dating, and mental health.

From tone-policing at work to being “too much” or “not enough” in relationships, this episode explores the quiet exhaustion of constantly proving your value and the moment you realize surviving isn’t the same as living.

If you’ve ever done everything right and still felt tired, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, I break down the negative reactions to my Instagram reels about queer representation and how a conversation about “men of color” somehow became a conversation about Black people. I’m talking honestly about the patterns of queer anti-Blackness, the defensiveness I saw, and how media quietly programs desire for young queer people of color by framing love as something that happens closer to whiteness.

Season 2 is HERE.

New clarity. New intention. Same unapologetic conversations.

This season we’re diving even deeper into dating, identity, boundaries, hookups, emotional self-awareness, and the messy, nuanced, human experiences we all wrestle with.

Thank you for rocking with me, whether you’re Black, Queer, both, or neither.

If you’re open-minded, reflective, and ready for more honest conversations?

Welcome back. 

This year, I’m heading to World Pride not just to celebrate but to take up space. In this episode, I unpack what Pride really means to me in a world that still wants us quiet, small, and scared. From corporate performativity to the weight of shame we’re still unlearning, I’m talking about the power of showing up, being seen, and choosing joy anyway. Pride didn’t start as a party and I’m not treating it like one. Not this year.

What happens when the version of you the world praises… isn't the full story? In this episode, I’m unpacking the lifelong performance so many of us get trapped in, especially if you're Black, queer, and navigating corporate systems, family expectations, social media, and survival. From being a queer athlete in the 90 - early 2000s, to managing in Corporate America as a young Black man without a degree, I reflect on how I learned to edit myself for safety, acceptance, and respect — and how I’m learning to stop.

We talk work trauma, imposter syndrome, image curation, chasing status, and the fear that being silly, soft, or fully you might cost you everything. Spoiler: it doesn’t.

In this week’s episode, I’m sharing something deeply personal and vulnerable. “and celibate + sober” isn’t just a follow-up to last week’s talk on sexual chemistry—it’s an honest look at what happens when you strip away the sex, the alcohol, the validation, and the constant performance. I talk about what led me to take a break from sex for 90 days and alcohol for 30, how hookup culture left me feeling empty, and the moments that made me realize I was being consumed, not truly seen. From being catfished by a fine-ass dude who didn’t even need to lie, to disappearing men who ghosted the minute I wouldn’t send nude pics or give them sex, this episode is about reclaiming my self-worth without external validation. If you’ve ever questioned your worth when sex or validation is off the table, this one’s for you.

In this episode, I’m joined by my friend Stephan as we get real about recognizing sexual chemistry, owning our sexual positivity, and learning how to trust our bodies — and our boundaries — at parties and beyond. We share the story of how we met at Folsom Weekend in San Francisco, navigating overstimulation, connection, and how sometimes the universe really does line things up perfectly. We talk about the difference between sexual attraction and emotional connection, learning how to take rejection, and why embracing your self-worth and being honest with yourself changes everything in these environments. Whether you're in the scene, curious, or just love hearing real conversations about sex and self-love, this one's for you.