In this episode I’m telling a story I never thought I’d say out loud. The time in my twenties when I secretly was hooking up with my friends’ boyfriends.

There was no drama. No blowups. No one ever found out. But the real damage? It was what I did to myself.

Fresh out of the military and new to the LGBTQ+ community, I was starving for connection. I confused attention with affection, sex with love, and ended up chasing validation from people who were never really mine. This episode isn’t about glorifying those moments—it’s about owning them. It’s a confession, a reflection, and a cautionary tale about what happens when you don’t yet know your worth.

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