In this necessary conversation, I sit down with Joseph, a biracial Black and White gay man to talk about the deeply uncomfortable truth behind racial preferences in the queer community. From the casual “no Blacks, no Asians, no This, no That” on dating apps to the fetishization of Black men as sexual objects. Together, we unpack what’s really behind the phrase “it’s just a preference,” and how media and porn have shaped our biases. We also reflect on our own lived experiences being objectified, erased, or hyper-visible for the wrong reasons, and even how people of color internalize anti-Blackness and Eurocentric ideals.

This episode doesn’t offer easy solutions. It’s honest. It’s personal experiences. And it’s just the beginning. Because we didn’t even scratch the surface of colorism, internalized racism among POC, or the ways trauma can shape attraction. A Part 2 might be necessary but for now, this is the truth as we’ve lived it.

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