And Sometimes ... Why? with Rob Szabo

Lady Hayes is a multi-faceted artist: She’s a social media influencer, she makes flowers crowns, she created a perfume, she’s a photographer and she’s a singer-songwriter. We talk about how she integrates her artistic approach into her life as a mother of two young daughters and how she’s been expressing herself through clothing since she was a child. She also  shares simple wisdom for taking photographs and some fascinating behind-the-scenes insight into the ingredients in her perfume.

“I have always loved smell. I think I have an insane sense of smell. I can smell things from really far away and I can identify it. So, developing the perfume was a riot. I’d done a lot of research about how it affects your body and I wanted it to be a very sensual perfume, almost like a love spell. Like if you were gonna wear this perfume, people would just be attracted to you naturally and they wouldn’t necessarily know why. But it would be the smell. One of the main ingredients in a love spell in witchcraft is cardamom. Apparently when you smell cardamom, blood flows to your genitals. So … that’s one of the notes in my perfume! ”

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LADY HAYES
 WEB: http://www.ladyhayes.com
 IG: https://www.instagram.com/ladyhayes
 CBC DIY: https://www.cbc.ca/life/home/lady-hayes-1.4510672

 MUSIC - SPOTIFY PLAYLIST: https://spoti.fi/2IEbCsq

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Ryan Hennessey is Environmental Support Lead on the Trans Mountain Expansion Project and has worked in environmental compliance in the oil & gas industry for over 20 years. He shares his firsthand experience of oil spill clean up and life in the oil patch. We also talk about his alter ego as a musician, his compulsion to build community through music and how being recognized as a pillar of the Fort St. John, BC musical community is deeply satisfying. (We also talk about his love of the hard rock band Iron Maiden.)

“Recognize your relevance to other people and cherish the relevance you have with them and cherish the relevance that they have on you.  I love knowing people and if there's something that they do, if there's some fabric of their being, some little bit of themselves that I can somehow work into myself to make me a better person or help me get through my day, that's when I say: We are the sum of the parts of all the people we know and those relationships we learn to cherish.”

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 RYAN HENNESSEY
 FB: https://www.facebook.com/ryan.hennessey.37

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I'm off.

I'm camping.

I'll be back next Wednesday with another great guest.

Thanks for giving a shit.

Rob

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Matthew De Zoete is an internationally touring singer-songwriter. We talk about his masterful lyrics, his writing process, growing up in a strict dutch community and his life living and working on his family farm.

“I grew up in like a pop-culture vacuum, like there was no … it was only either CBC Radio 1 or 2 or it was some other classical or choral or organ music that my parents were listening to. There are certainly lots of those time where I feel like I should write a song, or I have this musical idea … What do I wanna say? What’s worth saying? And how can I say it in a way that’s worth doing?”

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 MATTHEW DE ZOETE
 WEB: http://colourfilm.ca
 FB: https://www.facebook.com/ColourFilmMusic
 SPOTIFY MUSIC PLAYLIST: https://spoti.fi/30OoVNA

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Jacob King does incredible custom wood work. We chat about his history as a musician, web + e-learning designer, recording studio owner and yoga instructor. We hear about his evolution from doing home renos to custom woodwork & furniture. He schools us on the term for the absurd urge we’ve all had to hurl ourselves off a balcony, and how that urge translates to a woodworking shop with deadly machines (“The Call Of The Void”). He also tells us why he hates sanding and uses a hand plane instead to save time. He explains how his wife helped him overcome perfectionism and reveals that he doesn’t consider his pieces finished until they’re actually being used in a person’s home and begin to get dings, dents & scratches.

“I will sit down with the client and I will build something that suits their taste. I need to have some lengthy discussions about what's your aesthetic? What do you like? Okay, so now we know what you like. What kind of functionality do you need in it? And then how can I take what you like visually, what you need functionally and incorporate that into something that I can make for you that you're gonna be happy with and love looking at for the rest of your life and maybe I'll just take that and let it go. There's a big part of building something and then just letting it go and this is gonna go back to Mike Pekovich again. He's the last person I heard say it: When you get the final coat of finish on it and you drop it off with a client or hang it on the wall or set it in your living room, the piece of furniture isn't finished yet. It's not until it starts getting the dings and the scrapes and the scratches and the dents and developing the patina. That is when the piece of furniture starts to get finished because it's getting used and loved.”

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JACOB KING
 WEB: https://jacobking.ca
 IG: https://www.instagram.com/aplannedescape
 LINKS TO PIECES
 POPLAR CROTCH TABLE: https://www.instagram.com/p/CASn1d7D9Od/
*for sale* contact: mailto:[email protected]
 GUITAR: https://www.instagram.com/p/Btn4I62AA-v
 PEN: https://www.instagram.com/p/CABgJLoDne6
 PURPLE BOX: https://www.instagram.com/p/B7vtQYpgZkD
 SMALL BRASS & WOOD HAMMER: https://www.instagram.com/p/B6qNzsBASzP

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Milo Axelrod is a user experience designer, artist, creator & podcaster. They explain how so much of our technology does not respect us as users and how talking to strangers about sensitive topics can teach us a lot, especially if we focus on listening. We talk about their (incredible) podcast Describing A Rock and their propensity for precision and excruciating detail. We discuss both of us identifying as "on the spectrum" and how they were baffled by neurotypical people as a kid. We also dig into the impulse to be understood and the importance of being self-critical and really questioning one's assumptions.

“For me it was really questioning myself. That’s the key: is really questioning yourself all the time. Question your assumptions. There are so many things that we think are fact, about ourselves, about the world, and they mainly aren’t. Most of the things that you think are like a core part of who you are are actually habits that you can change without being untrue to yourself. You have to just keep questioning stuff and keep learning and being open to hearing that you are wrong. That’s probably the most important thing. If you are dissatisfied with where you are, ask yourself if you have been open to the idea that you’re wrong … about anything.”   

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 MILO AXELROD
 WEB: http://www.miloaxelrod.com
 DESCRIBING A ROCK: https://anchor.fm/miloaxelrod
 IG: https://www.instagram.com/millennial_cyborg
 EMPATHY IN TECH DESIGN: https://dispatch.moonfarmer.com/my-tech-inept-grandma-isnt-the-problem-36d64ad97c0d  
 MILO ON THE TODD DONALD SHOW: https://bit.ly/3gvjV62

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Beverly Kreller is owner of Speak Music Publicity, Artistic Director of the Speak Music Be Kind Festival and one half of the dustbowl duo Hotcha! We reminisce about her experience as an actor and wig maker at the Stratford & Shaw festivals and talk about her many roles in music: songwriter, musician, publicist and festival director. She also shares her thoughts on the healing power of music.

“Many people say this, but it’s very true to me: The fact that it’s a healing thing. Whether it’s the toe-tapping music that we do or something that’s more of a ballad or softer gentler music, it’s all healing. It’s healing for the audience but it’s in fact healing for the artist. And especially singing, I find that’s one of the most beautiful things that people can do. I don’t care if you’re in tune or whatever. I think people should always sing. Sing out loud! [laughs] Where would we be without music in the world? The world IS music. The world is frequency. What would we do without it?” 

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 BEVERLY KRELLER
 WEB: http://www.speak-music.com
 FESTIVAL: https://www.speakmusicbekindfest.com
 WEB: http://www.hotcha.ca
 MUSIC - SPOTIFY PLAYLIST: https://spoti.fi/30OeY1m

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Cal Brunker is the director & co-writer of Escape From Planet Earth and the upcoming Paw Patrol: The Movie among several others. We talk about his life making animated films, not mythologizing the creative process or waiting on inspiration, focusing on individual strengths in a co-writing team and two very different opening weekends he’s lived.

“Being able to not mythologize the creative process is really helpful for younger people to be able to hear. It’s not that it’s a bolt from the blue and you get this amazing inspiration that this guy has and you don’t have that and if you just had the bolt then you could do it too but … and you’re like ‘It’s all bullshit. It’s not that at all. Here’s the real process.’ That would have been so helpful to me when I was young. I think it’s probably more available, that information now. Even when you listen to people talk about art, if you think about ‘high art’, you hear people talk about a painting, you’re like ‘This is mostly a con for the intelligentsia.’ The people making the art don’t talk about the art like that. It’s for a level of criticism and the circles of intelligentsia will discuss art in a certain way that’s very different than the people putting paint on the canvas.“

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 CAL BRUNKER 
 WEB: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cal_Brunker
 TWEET: https://twitter.com/calbrunker

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 Breaking Even Animated Video (2006): https://bit.ly/2WJefNN

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The tables get turned as And Sometime Why host Rob Szabo takes the guest seat in this conversation from The Todd Donald Show. We delve into Rob’s motivation to get involved in podcasting and how podcast conversations subvert social conventions around intimacy. Todd also asks Rob if he’s happy about his life.(!)

“Why I do the podcast is because in regular life there are certain social conventions that prevent you from really continually digging deeper and asking certain kinds of questions without it being awkward. That is THE reason why I do this … is so I can have those conversations with people in my life and people that I don’t know hopefully. So you can get the deeper truth about being alive that you kinda never get to in regular life.”

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 ROB SZABO 
 WEB: http://www.robszabo.com
 MUSIC - SPOTIFY PLAYLIST: https://spoti.fi/3h2QDeH

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 This conversation was first published on The Todd Donald Show: https://apple.co/2Oo9iWb

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And Sometimes Why celebrates its first half-year Podiversary by playing clips of every guest since episode #1.

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