This past week, my husband and I celebrated 19 years of marriage!  Traditional gift giving lists tell us that we should give each other gifts of jade.  But we did not have this expectation of each other.  Unfortunately, many of us have very specific expectations in our mind of how these milestone celebrations "should" go, and then we feel angry when they don't.  This often creates feelings of resentment, and feeling misunderstood or uncared for on these special days, which is probably the opposite of how we wanted to feel.   So, what are we to do?  Listen in as I describe the story of our anniversary celebration, what we did and didn't do, and how taking empowered action can create fabulous feelings early on in our day, adding to the excitement, long before the anniversary celebrations even begin.