Movement, Mind, & Meaning Podcast

Anticipatory Grief: Finding Meaning Before Loss


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Anticipatory grief is a tender and deeply human experience that arises when we sense or know that a loss is coming—whether it’s the impending farewell of a loved one, the decline of a beloved pet, or the transition from one life chapter to the next.

In this heartfelt episode I open up about my personal journey of preparing to say goodbye to our sweet Bailey dog and explore the emotional, physical, and mental layers of grief before loss.

We’ll unpack what anticipatory grief really means, how it differs from traditional grief, and the complex emotions that come with it—like sadness, anxiety, guilt, and even moments of gratitude.

You’ll also discover practical tools to navigate this delicate space with love and intention:

  • Gentle movement practices to release tension and honor your emotions.
  • Mindfulness techniques to stay present in the moment.
  • Ways to find meaning and connection, even in the midst of heartache.
  • This episode isn’t just about grief—it’s about embracing the fragile beauty of life and love, cherishing the time we have, and holding space for all the feelings that come with deep connection.

    Whether you’re experiencing anticipatory grief or supporting someone who is, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, supported, and empowered to move through this tender time with compassion for yourself.

    Want to watch the Gentle Movement Practice to help you find calm in the grief you can here: https://youtu.be/8s0KK0h6TzA

    Please find the show notes below. Since it is a transcription there may be spelling errors and/or weird grammar. Ignore that and enjoy!

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    Hello and welcome to a movement of people

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    who care so much about how they feel that

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    they make time for themselves and their

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    health every day. I'm a leader of this

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    movement and the host of this podcast,

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    and my name is Megan Nolan. I am a

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    personal trainer, a yoga instructor, a

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    mental fitness coach, a best-selling

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    author, an award-winning speaker, and I'm

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    neurodivergent. So yeah, I got lots going

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    on too. But I'm on a mission to help

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    you make sure that not only you get to do

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    all the big, incredible things that are

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    on your heart to do in the world, but you

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    also get to actually enjoy your

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    life and everything that you've created

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    too. And that's what this podcast is all

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    about, helping you to do just that. So

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    let's jump in to today's episode.

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    Hello, and welcome back to

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    another episode of the Movement, Mind and

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    Meaning podcast. Today

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    is one that is

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    really alive for me

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    right now, um as they

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    all are for sure. But this one

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    is even more so

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    deeply. So

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    I'm in a pretty tender place right now

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    as our 16-year-old doggy at

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    this moment in time is

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    preparing to head over the Rainbow

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    Bridge. And

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    likely when you listen to this, at

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    least depending on timing,

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    yeah, when you listen to this, he will

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    have already transitioned. He has

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    congestive heart disease and it has

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    progressed over the last few years

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    and it's time and it's a really difficult

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    place to be in. And as a caregiver,

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    that's our ultimate responsibility is to

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    care for him and unfortunately.

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    As his body is fading and his trachea has

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    partially collapsed,

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    it's time because we want this to be

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    graceful, as graceful as this can be

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    and as easeful as this can be for

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    everyone. So right now

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    I have learned I am sitting in

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    what is called. I didn't know this was a

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    thing until recently. Anticipatory grief,

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    meaning the. Mental,

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    emotional, physical response to

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    this very real event, this

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    stressor. And

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    since this show is about mind and body

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    tools to navigate beyond

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    and through anxiety and depression,

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    this is a very real thing. This loss,

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    this loss when it happens in the

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    moment, this loss in this

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    future moment is which is what I'm

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    experiencing. And so I didn't even know

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    that this was a thing until, you know,

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    just a couple of days ago when I started

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    to look into this. And so, you know,

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    as it is very similar to grief,

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    but grief usually happens once an event

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    occurs, right?So this

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    anticipatory sort of

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    limbo, if you will, once

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    you get the news about something and the

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    feelings that you start to experience

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    right away. And it's, I got to tell you,

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    is really confusing and very conflicting.

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    And so, you know, this can be

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    at the loss, the the pending

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    loss of a pet or a loved one.

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    It occurs a lot in a diagnosis,

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    which makes sense because someone might

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    be grieving the loss of their vitality

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    and their health, you know,

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    maybe. Knowing that there's

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    financial changes at a workplace and and

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    the pending announcements of

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    like losing a job or you know a

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    relationship or something like that or or

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    recently and I mean it's probably longer

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    than recently. But another thing is

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    is climate grief, you know, because

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    there's this these very real changes that

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    are happening. And so anticipatory grief

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    can happen at these broader existential

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    levels as well and so.

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    It's a really natural process, but it's

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    it's complicated and it's it's heavy. And

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    so I'm speaking to this

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    because, you know, one of my core values

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    is integrity and authenticity and

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    this is very alive and very real for me

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    right now. And

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    grief is something that we all go

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    through. We all experience grief

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    and it's.

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    It's part of our our range of emotion

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    and

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    it's an expression and a reflection of

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    the love and

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    appreciation that you had

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    for whatever it is that you are

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    grieving and

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    it's. Mentally and physically and

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    emotionally, very similar to other

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    experiences of grief that I've had in the

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    sense of like the the sadness and the

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    heartache and the the

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    numbness. But it's

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    so unique because

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    he's still here, at least in this moment.

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    And and you know,

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    that's so strange because there's this

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    conflicting like. Knowing of what's

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    coming in the void because I've lost a

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    pet before, I've lost loved ones and you

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    know I've talked in other episodes about

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    losing my father rather abruptly and

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    but there it's it's that knowing that

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    anticipatory like

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    knowing you know or at least conceptually

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    we think we know cause we've experienced

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    something similar and like it's it's

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    confusing and it's overwhelming because

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    it's you know. How will things be

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    different?How will I cope with this?Oh my

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    God, is this going to be brutal?Is this

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    going to like rip a massive crap

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    hole in my heart?Because that's what

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    happened with Nala. And you know, and

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    like it's that causes a lot of

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    anxiety and uncertainty. And of course,

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    you know, the grief, the sadness is real.

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    And then it's so challenging because

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    he's here still and and you know.

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    Feeling this sadness around him and I

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    don't want him to feel that energy and

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    you know, and so it's just this really

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    interesting

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    sort of duality of this deep sadness

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    and this desire to be present and

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    be joyful and be with him and

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    create these lasting moments together

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    because that's how I want to remember him

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    and that's how I will remember him. And

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    so you know, it's really important that

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    we in this community, our work and and

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    one of our. Our tenants is that all of

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    you is welcome here, all of these

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    feelings, all of these parts of you.

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    especially like me, if you've experienced

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    really heavy and hard seasons of sadness,

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    there's a fear around

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    that taking hold again

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    because we know it's that sadness is with

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    grief is very real and.

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    It's so

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    important to have these tools and to have

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    this conversation because, you know, we

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    can't be high vibe all the time and and

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    nor should you be. That's not real.

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    It's not real. It's not. And it's

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    dismissive and it's toxic and it's

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    bypassing. And when we

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    experience deep emotions like this,

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    there is a tenderness that comes and

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    this. Deep connection to self

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    that comes and there's

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    and there's so many different

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    perspectives on grief in that because it

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    takes us to this tender place in the

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    heart, it gives so much

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    perspective. And

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    what I've been sitting into now is, you

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    know, and I know he's he's a dog, so it's

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    kind of different, but it's not. It's

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    like. How fully can you live each life?

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    And that's the thing is like he he's dog

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    and so he was just fully vibrant like his

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    life was just joy. It was, you know, tail

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    wagging and stick jumping and like eating

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    a lot of eating. But he was so fully

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    present in each moment and that's the

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    reminder, you know, it's like this the

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    just the go for it and this willingness

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    to to live life fully and don't hold back

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    and like it's there's never going to be a

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    better time. There's only this moment now

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    and so this recognition of. Although, you

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    know, it can feel like this

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    spiral and this vacillation, oscillation

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    between this numbness and this

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    heaviness and and the sadness

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    and this desire to love and appreciate

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    him while I still can and while we still

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    can. And of course we always will, but I

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    mean in the physical 3D sense,

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    you know, and whatever that is like.

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    It's really important for us to have

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    these tools because this

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    anticipatory grief differs in the sense

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    of of it's ongoing, right?Like we haven't

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    even got to that tough moment yet. And so

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    now it's already very real for

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    me. And so it's

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    giving me in a sense, giving us time to

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    prepare and and I'm

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    wondering, I'm hoping that if you know

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    this sort of walking through it

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    now. I don't know how it'll shifted

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    on the other side of things, but what I'm

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    recognizing is these these

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    tools of

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    noticing when I'm in the

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    deep emotional, physical, mental,

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    emotional experience of it.

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    And maybe that's where I'm preparing

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    myself even more. And maybe this is where

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    you can, you know, play with this if God

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    forbid heaven, goddess, universe,

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    whatever. Forbid that you too experience

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    this at one point, or maybe you found

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    this because you are. And so

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    really recognizing those those

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    cues, those signals from your body,

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    from your mind as well. And so

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    dropping into the experience of it

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    because I've noticed that I'm.

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    When I'm really in the

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    the anxiousness and the sadness and the

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    spiral of of the the deep,

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    deep

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    tension and and pain of it,

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    that when I bring it

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    and I drop into my body and I have placed

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    my hands on my body and I breathe and I

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    feel into where it is, which you know,

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    admittedly. In the past I've been so

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    reluctant to feel it because it I thought

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    it would make it worse. But when we're

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    very in our mind, there's so much more

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    contributing to that experience. And in

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    our body there's this I

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    experience it. I should say I'm only

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    speaking from personal experience

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    that when I bring it into my body and I

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    feel it into my body and I approach it

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    with this sense of a deep holding

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    and love and I imagine that I am,

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    I'm. Enveloped and surrounded by

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    this deep, unending

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    wave and presence of deep,

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    deep, deep, pure love. I I hold

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    myself in that first and then I go into

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    it. So that's bringing an extra layer of

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    protection and tools. And then I I hold

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    the space for that and it feels like

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    I can go in there and I allow the feeling

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    to be safe and to be held because that

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    part of me that's really sad or that is

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    experiencing the grief. Wants to be

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    witnessed, wants to be held, wants to be

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    seen and loved and support at times,

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    right?At times. Sometimes we pull away.

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    And so when we can bring ourself into the

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    felt sense experiencing of it and really

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    name it and honor it, rather than

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    attempting to bypass it or push it away

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    or just

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    avoid it because it's brutal,

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    it really gives us the space to feel it

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    fully. And that seems strange,

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    right?Cause like, why would I want to go

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    and do that?Why would I, why would I

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    subject myself to that?But I'm telling

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    you, it's such an incredible difference.

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    Like the how I can explain it is that if

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    I'm in it in my mind, it feels like, you

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    know, when there's a crazy stormy day out

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    on the ocean and the waves are choppy and

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    big and the sky is Gray and the water is

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    Gray and it just looks like, whoa, it you

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    can tell it's a stormy day. That's what

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    it feels like when I'm in my mind and

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    when I go into my body to feel it,

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    it feels like. Being in a peaceful

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    Bay and it's just just floating

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    and that's right now.

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    I know that that can change, but it just

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    gives me an opportunity to be present and

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    to to love and support yourself. So I'm

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    just putting that out there as an

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    opportunity and as an option and and

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    holding it. And of course, you know,

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    these are tools and movement is such a

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    big tool and getting support

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    surrounding yourself in community, you

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    know, if you found this. If you're not a

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    listener to the weekly podcast and you

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    found this by some magic of the algorithm

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    gods, you know, really giving

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    yourself the support that you need and

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    hoefully you're finding that this is

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    helpful, but reaching out to people. Like

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    reaching out to people that love you and

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    and you know, and I've got to give myself

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    some gold stars, giving myself some gold

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    stars right now. Because, you know, I've

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    told my loved ones, I've told my friends

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    that, you know, he's, he's going over the

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    bridge on Saturday and

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    it's, yeah, it just feels

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    so surreal. But I've asked them to

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    check in on me and that to me

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    feels like a big win because, you know,

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    before in my sadness I would just.

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    Isolate and recluse. I don't know if

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    that's the right word, but I would pull

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    away and I know that I will need to do

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    that, right. And there's there's some

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    internalization that that happens with

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    all of this. But I'm protecting myself

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    from sliding down that slippery slope

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    into deep sadness and depression by

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    having people check in on me and feeling

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    that love and using the tools and and so

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    yeah, I just really hope that.

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    Again, the intention for this whole show

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    is to normalize these challenges as a

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    part of the full spectrum of the human

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    experience. And when we love, the natural

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    opposite of that is can be lost, right?

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    And and it's it's a really

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    strange and painful part

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    of the human experience is to to love

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    some point, someone or so much something

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    so much that when they leave

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    this physical form that it it

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    changes everything for us.

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    And that

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    external stressor becomes an internal

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    challenge. And when our

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    patterns, our protective patterns of

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    handling stress tend towards the, you

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    know, this sort of hypervigilant anxiety

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    and worry and what can I do to make this

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    easy, you know, and that that spiral or

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    if it's the opposite and you tend to kind

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    of move into that heaviness of sadness,

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    it's. It's really important, especially

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    when there is something that it is so

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    painfully sad to lose a loved

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    one or opportunity or life or

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    whatever it is, you know, that has placed

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    you in this situation.

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    And and so, you know, it's

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    at least when it comes to the case

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    of, you know, being in this sort of limbo

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    period before losing someone, it's

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    it's really giving us that perspective

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    of. I want to really cherish and enjoy

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    every moment, right?And as hard as that

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    is and and giving clarity around what

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    really, really matters. And that is to

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    be fully present, to be expressed in your

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    love, to honor yourself, to to recognize

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    that all of you is welcome here and to

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    really see this as an

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    opportunity to

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    express your love when you still have the

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    time and space to and. The

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    beautiful thing is, you know, energy is

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    neither created nor destroyed. And you

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    know, it's it's always sort of this

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    bittersweet thing of, you know, when

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    someone passes on people say, oh, they're

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    always with you and and it's it

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    brings some peace. I feel like for me

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    that usually comes later like that, you

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    know, the initial grieving period is so

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    intense that that it

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    doesn't necessarily fill the gap

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    right away. You know what I mean?And so

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    yeah, I just, I wanted to. Just be real

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    with you and and let you know that

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    this is where I'm at and and

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    and honor you as well. Because the

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    reality is, is that life presents

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    us with these challenges and

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    when we are willing to

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    and with something like this, with a

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    loss, seeing it

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    as an opportunity or a gift.

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    Can feel a little bit more

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    challenging and a little bit further

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    away from, yeah, OK, I can see that here.

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    But The thing is, is that

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    their presence is a gift in your life

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    that whatever it is, whether it's a thing

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    or a person or or reality

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    shift and there's so much to

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    love and so much to appreciate and that's

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    a gift, right?And so we want to really

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    honor that. And what you're feeling is a

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    reflection of the love that you had for

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    them. And so then, you know, what is the

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    opportunity here?The

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    opportunity is to

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    really set ourselves up

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    and be as tender as possible in the

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    process and to use

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    these tools, right?One of which

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    is power causes.

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    So what I want to share with you now.

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    Is a practice that will help you

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    to give space to yourself if you are

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    experiencing anticipatory grief and to

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    hold yourself in the moment so

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    that you can receive some love.

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    Because I know in the tenderness of your

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    heart and in this moment, that's what we

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    need. We we really need to be

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    witnessed and seen and that's what this

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    is going to do. And it's so simple

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    and so if you're. Watching this

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    video on YouTube, you can watch. Keep

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    your eyes open. If you're listening to

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    the audio of this podcast, then you

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    know, as long as it's safe, you're going

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    to close your eyes. But

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    you know, if you're driving, just listen

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    and store this away for later. Just use

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    one hand. So what I want you to do is

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    I want you to close your eyes for a

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    moment and take a big deep breath.

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    Breathe it out through your mouth with a

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    little bit of sound.

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    So as we breathe in through our nose,

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    we're going to mentally say the word soft

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    and we breathe out. Mentally say the word

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    belly. Ready. Try inhale

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    soft. Exhale

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    belly. And what are you going to do when

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    you do that?You're so smart. Soften the

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    belly and breathe into it. Ready. Inhale

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    soft. Exhale,

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    belly.

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    And I want you to really move into this

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    power pause, knowing that you can leave

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    at any time. And of course, seek the

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    support if you feel like you need more

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    support, speaking with a counselor,

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    professionally trained professional

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    therapist, et cetera, et cetera. Know

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    that they are available for you too. So

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    let's take an inhale, and I want you to

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    just bring your attention to your body

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    and place your hands on your heart.

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    Classically, where we tend to experience

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    emotions, whether they are uplifting and

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    expansive emotions or more challenging

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    and contractive or heavier ones like

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    this, bring your hands on your chest

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    and breathe. Keep the mantra going

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    soft

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    belly. Snug your arms in a little bit

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    closer, and that might mean bringing your

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    hands into a, you know, a slightly more

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    overlap position, but hold your body

    480
    00:20:45,216 --> 00:20:45,776
    closer.

    481
    00:20:49,456 --> 00:20:51,337
    And if it's safe for you to do so, just

    482
    00:20:51,337 --> 00:20:54,257
    gently sway, gently sway

    483
    00:20:54,257 --> 00:20:56,257
    yourself forward and back. Again, if

    484
    00:20:56,257 --> 00:20:58,017
    you're driving, you know, just do what

    485
    00:20:58,017 --> 00:21:00,017
    you can or just listen. If you're fully

    486
    00:21:00,017 --> 00:21:01,697
    in the experience, close your eyes and

    487
    00:21:01,697 --> 00:21:04,177
    gently sway yourself forward and back.

    488
    00:21:06,977 --> 00:21:08,097
    And if it's a thing that you're

    489
    00:21:08,097 --> 00:21:10,417
    comfortable with, imagine that you are

    490
    00:21:10,737 --> 00:21:13,697
    maybe in a beautiful, calm

    491
    00:21:13,857 --> 00:21:16,297
    ocean, or maybe you prefer a

    492
    00:21:16,297 --> 00:21:18,657
    hammock. And you're just gently getting

    493
    00:21:18,657 --> 00:21:21,577
    rocked back and forth, held

    494
    00:21:21,577 --> 00:21:23,937
    in place by this beautiful

    495
    00:21:23,937 --> 00:21:26,577
    envelopment of this warm,

    496
    00:21:27,217 --> 00:21:29,057
    deep, pure,

    497
    00:21:29,457 --> 00:21:31,617
    loving, energetic presence

    498
    00:21:32,017 --> 00:21:34,337
    all the way around your body and your

    499
    00:21:34,337 --> 00:21:37,097
    being. Feel yourself getting held

    500
    00:21:37,097 --> 00:21:37,617
    by it.

    501
    00:21:40,337 --> 00:21:42,577
    Breathe. If that feels like a little bit

    502
    00:21:42,577 --> 00:21:44,697
    out there for you, no worries. Just hold

    503
    00:21:44,697 --> 00:21:47,377
    the the pose, rock back and forward,

    504
    00:21:47,377 --> 00:21:50,257
    hands on your body, gently breathing in

    505
    00:21:50,257 --> 00:21:50,657
    and out,

    506
    00:21:55,297 --> 00:21:58,017
    and then gradually come to a

    507
    00:21:58,017 --> 00:21:58,417
    stop

    508
    00:22:01,617 --> 00:22:02,257
    and stay.

    509
    00:22:06,338 --> 00:22:07,298
    Take another breath

    510
    00:22:09,338 --> 00:22:10,498
    and notice how you feel.

    511
    00:22:13,218 --> 00:22:15,858
    So this power pause is part

    512
    00:22:16,058 --> 00:22:18,498
    of the full episode

    513
    00:22:19,098 --> 00:22:21,938
    of Navigating Anticipatory Grief on the

    514
    00:22:21,938 --> 00:22:24,138
    podcast, which is the Movement, Mind and

    515
    00:22:24,138 --> 00:22:26,698
    Meaning podcast, or if you

    516
    00:22:26,978 --> 00:22:29,898
    happen to be. Listening to this and

    517
    00:22:29,898 --> 00:22:31,938
    want to watch the video, it's over on

    518
    00:22:31,938 --> 00:22:34,098
    YouTube. OK, so wherever you're at,

    519
    00:22:34,098 --> 00:22:35,978
    there's more for you, right?And if you

    520
    00:22:35,978 --> 00:22:37,418
    need to see the visual, that's what the

    521
    00:22:37,418 --> 00:22:40,138
    YouTube clip of the power pause is for.

    522
    00:22:40,138 --> 00:22:41,378
    And if you're catching just the power

    523
    00:22:41,378 --> 00:22:43,418
    pause, make sure to listen or watch the

    524
    00:22:43,418 --> 00:22:45,218
    whole episode because there's a lot more

    525
    00:22:45,218 --> 00:22:47,778
    in there for you. So

    526
    00:22:51,538 --> 00:22:53,778
    yeah, I think that's all I have for

    527
    00:22:53,778 --> 00:22:56,618
    today. I.

    528
    00:22:56,898 --> 00:22:59,818
    Receive your love and I send it back to

    529
    00:22:59,938 --> 00:23:02,658
    you and just honor you and hold you and

    530
    00:23:03,298 --> 00:23:04,818
    and you know whether you're in this

    531
    00:23:04,818 --> 00:23:06,498
    reality right here, right now,

    532
    00:23:07,938 --> 00:23:10,658
    there isn't an inevitable, well, that was

    533
    00:23:10,658 --> 00:23:12,738
    hard to say. Inevitably,

    534
    00:23:13,618 --> 00:23:15,778
    there will be a moment when someone that

    535
    00:23:15,778 --> 00:23:17,898
    you love or maybe you

    536
    00:23:19,338 --> 00:23:21,939
    deal with this. And so please feel free

    537
    00:23:21,939 --> 00:23:23,939
    to share this episode with them or just

    538
    00:23:23,939 --> 00:23:25,539
    hold this knowledge in your heart that

    539
    00:23:25,539 --> 00:23:27,339
    this is a very real experience

    540
    00:23:28,219 --> 00:23:30,419
    and it is

    541
    00:23:31,619 --> 00:23:32,499
    a beautiful

    542
    00:23:35,219 --> 00:23:38,179
    evidence and reflection of the love

    543
    00:23:38,179 --> 00:23:40,419
    and appreciation that you felt for

    544
    00:23:40,419 --> 00:23:42,299
    whatever it is. Maybe it's a pet, maybe

    545
    00:23:42,299 --> 00:23:44,979
    it's a parent, maybe it's, you know, a

    546
    00:23:44,979 --> 00:23:47,139
    partner, I don't know, something else,

    547
    00:23:47,459 --> 00:23:50,379
    health, you know, and

    548
    00:23:50,379 --> 00:23:51,939
    so. I really,

    549
    00:23:54,339 --> 00:23:56,379
    I'm sending you a lot of love and

    550
    00:23:58,019 --> 00:23:59,979
    I really just honor yourself. And so the

    551
    00:23:59,979 --> 00:24:02,019
    other thing is, is that, you know, the

    552
    00:24:02,019 --> 00:24:04,339
    physicality of of grief and sadness is

    553
    00:24:04,339 --> 00:24:06,499
    just to really to nurture yourself. You

    554
    00:24:06,499 --> 00:24:08,059
    know, I just stood before I got on here

    555
    00:24:08,059 --> 00:24:09,379
    and I was like, I was hungry, I was

    556
    00:24:09,379 --> 00:24:11,259
    hungry and I stood in front of the fridge

    557
    00:24:11,259 --> 00:24:13,619
    and I got over there and I I just stared

    558
    00:24:13,619 --> 00:24:16,259
    at it, you know

    559
    00:24:17,219 --> 00:24:18,179
    So just know that.

    560
    00:24:22,659 --> 00:24:25,539
    That whatever it

    561
    00:24:25,539 --> 00:24:27,219
    is, is temporary.

    562
    00:24:28,339 --> 00:24:30,899
    And that's both beautiful and

    563
    00:24:30,899 --> 00:24:32,979
    challenging at the same time. And the

    564
    00:24:32,979 --> 00:24:35,539
    depth of what you're experiencing will

    565
    00:24:35,619 --> 00:24:38,580
    gradually soften. And

    566
    00:24:39,140 --> 00:24:41,260
    again, beautiful and challenging at the

    567
    00:24:41,260 --> 00:24:42,540
    same time. It's like we don't want to

    568
    00:24:42,540 --> 00:24:43,860
    lose them. I don't want this to ever get

    569
    00:24:43,860 --> 00:24:46,500
    any easier, but I do at the same time. So

    570
    00:24:47,100 --> 00:24:49,260
    it's strange. So I guess I'll just stand

    571
    00:24:49,260 --> 00:24:51,260
    there and just, you know. Just put a pin

    572
    00:24:51,260 --> 00:24:52,740
    in that that this is a strange part of

    573
    00:24:52,740 --> 00:24:54,060
    our human experience, but it's a

    574
    00:24:54,060 --> 00:24:56,820
    vulnerability that you know

    575
    00:24:57,380 --> 00:24:59,780
    that we want to be mindful of and

    576
    00:24:59,780 --> 00:25:02,020
    compassionate about so that

    577
    00:25:02,980 --> 00:25:05,620
    and if you notice that you are moving

    578
    00:25:05,700 --> 00:25:08,020
    further into other

    579
    00:25:08,020 --> 00:25:10,580
    challenges that you have from the mental

    580
    00:25:10,580 --> 00:25:13,460
    health perspective, then really honoring

    581
    00:25:13,460 --> 00:25:16,140
    that and and seeking support,

    582
    00:25:16,580 --> 00:25:18,100
    right, seeking support whether that's

    583
    00:25:18,100 --> 00:25:20,740
    through. Counseling, therapy, movement

    584
    00:25:20,740 --> 00:25:23,220
    modalities, you know, medication,

    585
    00:25:24,820 --> 00:25:26,980
    talking to, you know, someone you love,

    586
    00:25:26,980 --> 00:25:28,340
    etcetera, etcetera, etcetera. You know

    587
    00:25:28,340 --> 00:25:29,700
    the, you know the avenues. But I'm just

    588
    00:25:29,700 --> 00:25:31,860
    putting that out there because sometimes

    589
    00:25:32,180 --> 00:25:33,860
    as much as this is really powerful to

    590
    00:25:33,860 --> 00:25:35,420
    have these tools and to hold yourself in

    591
    00:25:35,420 --> 00:25:37,140
    a rock and do those, you know, more

    592
    00:25:37,860 --> 00:25:39,580
    nervous system regulation tools that we

    593
    00:25:39,580 --> 00:25:42,180
    were doing there in the power pause, it's

    594
    00:25:42,180 --> 00:25:44,580
    also time for you to receive love.

    595
    00:25:45,060 --> 00:25:47,420
    And support and to be held as well. And

    596
    00:25:47,420 --> 00:25:49,620
    that's what the power pause did. But can

    597
    00:25:49,620 --> 00:25:51,740
    you do it in a way that you know you

    598
    00:25:51,740 --> 00:25:54,341
    align with that you you feel is what you

    599
    00:25:54,341 --> 00:25:57,261
    need. But reach out, you

    600
    00:25:57,261 --> 00:25:59,421
    know, reach out and and take care of

    601
    00:25:59,421 --> 00:26:01,221
    yourself because it's never easy to lose

    602
    00:26:01,221 --> 00:26:03,741
    something or someone. And so sending you

    603
    00:26:03,741 --> 00:26:06,661
    a lot of love and Bailey

    604
    00:26:06,661 --> 00:26:08,421
    is at his other family's right now, but

    605
    00:26:08,501 --> 00:26:09,861
    I'm going to go pick him up in a little

    606
    00:26:09,861 --> 00:26:10,661
    bit and we're going to,

    607
    00:26:14,381 --> 00:26:16,021
    yeah. We're going to have some time

    608
    00:26:16,021 --> 00:26:17,861
    together. So

    609
    00:26:19,221 --> 00:26:21,301
    again, it's, yeah, I'm going to stop. I

    610
    00:26:21,301 --> 00:26:23,221
    love you. Have a good rest of your day.

    611
    00:26:23,381 --> 00:26:25,141
    Take good care of yourself. And before I

    612
    00:26:25,141 --> 00:26:28,061
    go, squeeze your furries. Love your loved

    613
    00:26:28,061 --> 00:26:30,181
    ones. Appreciate this day.

    614
    00:26:31,061 --> 00:26:34,021
    Go. Do it. Live. Time is now.

    615
    00:26:34,941 --> 00:26:37,541
    OK. I love you. Bye.

    616
    00:26:39,221 --> 00:26:41,701
    Thank you so much for listening. I hope

    617
    00:26:41,701 --> 00:26:43,581
    you really enjoyed this episode and got a

    618
    00:26:43,581 --> 00:26:46,501
    lot out of it. Please let me know

    619
    00:26:46,541 --> 00:26:48,261
    what landed for you by taking a

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    00:26:48,261 --> 00:26:50,381
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    622
    00:26:52,701 --> 00:26:55,541
    me at I am Megan Nolan for a

    623
    00:26:55,541 --> 00:26:58,421
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    624
    00:26:58,821 --> 00:27:01,221
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    625
    00:27:01,221 --> 00:27:03,301
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    626
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    627
    00:27:05,661 --> 00:27:08,542
    are in the show notes. So, until next

    628
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    time, cheers to you living on

    629
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