Anupriya Chowdhary - 365 Days of Gentle Parenting - Mommytincture

Parents ideally never grow up to be comfortable with all that they do for their kids. Because kids are growing and evolving every minute. And along with them, we as parents too have to reinvent ourselves. So, the bottomline is that I as a parent still lack confidence. I am no more confident of not making a mistake as I was 8 years ago.

So what’s the solution?

To follow ‘The Confidence Circle’

The complacency really is setting down. I need to actively start work on my new parenting technique of 'Reasoning not threatening' soon. Else I really will have nothing to share in this space. Well, the summers are here and the kids had a blast at the mini home pool yesterday. Listen to this episode how my attempts at threatening my younger went and how the entire day yesterday was everything pool and water. Do tell me how you are getting ready for the summers?

As I settle into the new normal of my life i.e. no shouting on my kids, I am getting complacent towards recording my days as a mother. That I have been busy on other fronts would just be another excuse. The thing is that it's time for a new parenting goal to take my parenting technique and experience to the next level. I have identified the goal, but I think I am going to take a little more time to start practicing it in real. I have already begun to practice it in my mind :) So here I am, on Day 27 of 365 Days of Gentle Parenting - getting a little bored because I do not see any reason to shout on my kids. 

I had another eureka moment today. I realised that all the fretting over our kids is actually needless. As moms we just need to relax and be there for the kid. Sometimes only in spirit. Else, they will never become independent.  Listen to my story of how I came to this conclusion because of an experience. 

And now I feel its time for me to move to the next target towards gentle parenting. And that is to do away with threatening techniques. No these threatens are not intimidating, but something as 'sleep, as the boogieman will come and take you'. The kids grow up soon to realise that its just a threat, but it has a long lasting effect on their mindset. I will talk more on that in the coming episodes.

Day 24 for a normal gratitude worthy day on all fronts. While Day 25, was another day of my temper shooting up on my younger son. I got into a self introspection mode after the temper tantrum that last not more than 120 seconds. And gave up on being the kid myself. Later, I mused on all that happened and all that I could make right. 

And guess what ? I had a Eureka moment. I was able to identify the trigger. And as is the law, it isn't the kid's mistake. It is actually my shortcoming as a mother. Listen to this episode of 365 Days of Gentle Parenting, as I share my trigger. Wait for the next episode on what solution I have come up with. 

The month of March is going to be a slightly absent parenting month, with me only checking on the kids now and then and jumping into my mediator shoes in times of a crisis. And that's the reason there are not many instances or observations to share from the day that was yesterday. And so I decided to share with you all the impact of practicing meditation has had on me as a parent. So I started practicing meditation around 4 years ago and it had various benefits for me. Listen to this episode of 365 Days Of Gentle Parenting to know how meditation can help you be a calm parent

Well today was a less parenting day. I was busy with various personal errands and professional chores. So no scope for any conflict or argument with the kids. The younger though, tore off his grandma's saree. And I did not react at all. Just nodded at my mother-in-law ;) The days to come are going to be slightly busy and I am going to be parenting less. Let's see how things turn up with the Gentle Parenting Challenge.

Ok, I had my first ever meltdown on Day 20 ever since I started this 365 Days of Gentle Parenting. The saving grace is that I stopped after exactly 1 minute and went back to being supportive of the little kid rather than questioning him incessantly about why he wasn't doing that he was expected to do. Listen to the exact details in this episode of 365 Days of Gentle Parenting. The next few days are going to be really busy, So I don't think I will be parenting much, but I really do wish to spend some quality time with the kids. My plan is to pull out a few latest social media challenges or trends and do those with the kids.  

How do you connect with the kids other than the time they have to study or eat? Do tell me about your unique ways of spending quality time with the kids?

I am a self proclaimed secular parent. But do I not teach my kids anything abut their faith or religion. Well that's not the case. I do let my kids enjoy the little rituals and ig festivals that make religion fun and lay a strong foundation of virtuosness. But I really do not want them to harbour any limiting beliefs with regards to religion. And the most important God I want my kids to believe in is the 'GOD OF KARMA'. In this episode of 365 Days of Gentle Parenting I talk about how I am trying to keep my kids on a neutral ground and yet enjoy their religion while respecting other religions. What is your take about teaching kids about religion? Do share your views.