Boundaries or why unconditional love is unhealthy

1. Know your boundaries

2. Communicate your boundaries

3. Ask about people’s boundaries

4. Ask for what you want

References / Recommended reading:

- Steven Pinker’s article in The Guardian, “The media exaggerates negative news. This distortion has consequences”: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/17/steven-pinker-media-negative-news

- Book “Time to think”, by Nancy Kline: https://www.timetothink.com/nancy-kline/

- News literacy network: https://newsliteracynetwork.org/

- Digital news report 2022: https://reutersinstitute.politics.ox.ac.uk/digital-news-report/2022

- Free online course on how to decode the media (at the time of writing this episode, the course was unavailable):

https://www.positive.news/society/media/the-online-course-that-teaches-you-how-to-decode-the-media/

- Compassionate directness: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0pqzocXolWtfEbIheyTXPb?si=22f5cb6b565748da

Limites, ou porque é que o amor incondicional não é saudável

1. Conhece os teus limites

2. Comunica os teus limites

3. Pergunta às outras pessoas quais os seus limites

4. Pede aquilo que queres

Referências / Leituras recomendadas:

- Artigo de Steven Pinker no jornal The Guardian, “The media exaggerates negative news. This distortion has consequences”: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/17/steven-pinker-media-negative-news

- News literacy network: https://newsliteracynetwork.org/

- Relatório de 2022 da Digital news: https://reutersinstitute.politics.ox.ac.uk/digital-news-report/2022

- Livro de Nancy Kline, “time to think”: https://www.timetothink.com/nancy-kline/

- Curso online gratuito sobre os media (não estava a funcionar da última vez que abri o link):

https://www.positive.news/society/media/the-online-course-that-teaches-you-how-to-decode-the-media/

- Frontalidade empática: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Et3b6f7ltTk75WfWPIuVp?si=ede73681d2de42c3

- Como viver bem, conselhos da Dona Noémia, que define limites claros na sua vida: https://open.spotify.com/episode/34Yu5mvt6uMrtATRatf2Dj?si=dd44e44c3dc64992

Um episódio e 3 convites:

1. Imagina o inimaginável

2. Reduz reduz reduz

3. Confia e responsabiliza-te

Referências

Lisboa Possível: https://www.lisboapossivel.pt/

Utopiano Visual, Jan Kamensky: https://www.instagram.com/jankamensky/

Decrescimento 1: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serge_Latouche#References

Decrescimento 2: https://braveneweurope.com/timothee-parrique-is-degrowth-bad-economics

Decrescimento 3: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0iJOjSAGdFYYYAjfnfKTug?si=1c1768d04f514be8

Decrescimento 4: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/53328332-less-is-more?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=oi7u7ilMEi&rank=1

Yuval Noah Harari sobre Vipassana: https://www.vogue.in/content/yuval-noah-harari-on-how-vipassana-shaped-his-success-story

(I meant figuratively, not euphemistically!)

One episode and 3 invitations:

1. Imagine the unimaginable

2. Scale down

3. Trust and take responsibility

References

Lisboa Possível: https://www.lisboapossivel.pt/

Visual utopist, Jan Kamensky: https://www.instagram.com/jankamensky/

Degrowth 1: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serge_Latouche#References

Degrowth 2: https://braveneweurope.com/timothee-parrique-is-degrowth-bad-economics

Degrowth 3: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0iJOjSAGdFYYYAjfnfKTug?si=1c1768d04f514be8

Degrowth 4: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/53328332-less-is-more?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=oi7u7ilMEi&rank=1

Yuval Noah Harari on Vipassana: https://www.vogue.in/content/yuval-noah-harari-on-how-vipassana-shaped-his-success-story

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Olá minhas lindas pessoas! Venho aqui com este microepisódio entregar-vos um presente! Finalmente resolvi enfrentar o meu síndroma de impostor e criei o meu primeiro curso na Udemy. Chama-se o sentido da vida mas é muito mais do que isso. Vamos falar de identidades e de valores que nos orientam nas nossas vidas, encontrando sentido nas nossas vidas à medida que vamos vivendo.

Até ao final deste mês tenho alguns cupões para que os meus queridos ouvintes possam testar o meu primeiríssimo curso na Udemy. O meu presente é oferecer-te o curso gratuitamente e o teu presente para mim é deixares uma review encorajadora. Como em tudo, procura ser justo, ou seja, se podes pagar o curso, porque não o fazes de graça e ofereces o curso pago a um amigo ou a um familiar?

Estou muito entusiasmada por partilhar isto contigo.

Um abraço, cheio cheio de amor!

Ano novo Agenda Nova

Segunda-feira - Mexe o teu corpo

Terça-feira - Escolhe as tuas batalhas

Quarta-feira - Desacelera

Quinta-feira - Agradece e pensa nos outros

Sexta-feira - Planeia as tuas refeições

Sábado - Aventuras locais

Domingo - Busca soluções

Referências:

Página Just Stand: https://www.juststand.org/

Ideias para microadventuras, de Alastair Humphreys: https://alastairhumphreys.com/microadventures-3/

5 to 9 adventures: https://alastairhumphreys.com/5-to-9-thinking/ sub24 hour over-nighter:

https://www.adventurecycling.org/blog/s24os/

Positive News: https://www.positive.news/

TED Talk de Jim Vandehei, ‘How to write less but say more’: https://youtu.be/v6BmurUpiN0

Street Wisdom comigo no Jardim da Estrela: https://www.streetwisdom.org/event/street-wisdom-in-lisbon-portugal/

Start with a schedule

Monday - Move your body

Tuesday - Choose your battles

Wednesday - Wind down

Thursday - Say thank you and think of others

Friday - Food is good

Saturday - Satnav day

Sunday - Be the solution seeker

References:

Just Stand Website: https://www.juststand.org/

Microadventure ideas by Alastair Humphreys: https://alastairhumphreys.com/microadventures-3/

5 to 9 adventures: https://alastairhumphreys.com/5-to-9-thinking/ sub24 hour over-nighter:

https://www.adventurecycling.org/blog/s24os/

Positive News: https://www.positive.news/

TED Talk by Jim Vandehei, ‘How to write less but say more’: https://youtu.be/v6BmurUpiN0

Street Wisdom with me at Jardim da Estrela: https://www.streetwisdom.org/event/street-wisdom-in-lisbon-portugal/

Lisbon Park Run: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lisboaparkrun and

https://www.meetup.com/lisboa-vida-lisbon-good-life/events/286937070/

- Conversations on Love, book and newsletter, by Natasha Lunn: https://www.conversationsonlove.co.uk/aboutconversationsonlove

- Esther Perel https://www.today.com/health/esther-perel-relationship-expert-shares-parenting-advice-modern-masculinity-t130316

- Esther Woj’s book ‘How to raise successful people’: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40796147-how-to-raise-successful-people

- More ideas on how not to shout:

https://anitacleare.co.uk/how-not-to-shout/

- And

https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/tired-of-yelling-at-your-child-stop-screaming-and-start-parenting-effectively/

Gratitude: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/creative-development/201611/why-gratitude-matters

More gratitude: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/why-its-so-important-to-talk-about-gratitude_n_582b7d05e4b01d8a014b0b70

Feelings wheel: https://www.gottman.com/blog/printable-feeling-wheel/

- Lisboa Park Run: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lisboaparkrun e

https://www.meetup.com/lisboa-vida-lisbon-good-life/events/286937070/

- Conversations on Love, livro e newsletter, de Natasha Lunn: https://www.conversationsonlove.co.uk/aboutconversationsonlove

- Esther Perel: https://www.today.com/health/esther-perel-relationship-expert-shares-parenting-advice-modern-masculinity-t130316

- Livro de Esther Woj, ‘How to raise successful people’: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40796147-how-to-raise-successful-people

- Mais ideias sobre como não gritar:

https://anitacleare.co.uk/how-not-to-shout/

- E

https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/tired-of-yelling-at-your-child-stop-screaming-and-start-parenting-effectively/

Gratidão: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/creative-development/201611/why-gratitude-matters

Mais gratidão: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/why-its-so-important-to-talk-about-gratitude_n_582b7d05e4b01d8a014b0b70

Roda dos sentimentos: https://www.gottman.com/blog/printable-feeling-wheel/

Celebrating Nick Cave's Red Hand Files as they pass #200

Thank you for holding our hands and building this community of hope in a world filled with fear.