After 15 years of marriage, I was reflecting on the conflict between my husband Brad and I, and it's not what you might expect. Our problem was a lack of conflict due to our people pleasing tendencies. With awareness, time, and work, we learned to face our fears and get good at conflict. Today's eye-opening interview taught me another word for this: negotiation, and it's not just reserved for business and law.
Though he is a lawyer, my conversation with Kwame Christian is not what you might expect from one. He shares his own story as a recovering people pleaser and how he navigates relationships now. Kwame has really practical tips, such as using his compassionate curiosity framework, that you can implement right now. Plus, he advocates for having a strong relationship with yourself, including questions you can ask to make valuable improvements.

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AP 461: How to Better Handle Conflict, Even as a Former People Pleaser || with Kwame Christian

All the self-help extremes out there seem to be designed for perfect robots . . . But, you’re a real woman living a real life! About Progress is a podcast and community that is alllllll about progress made practical. Here, Monica will help you embrace the truest model to lasting growth, and teach you how to *do something* to grow in ways that stick.

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In today's bite-sized episode, we're debunking the myth of the "habit person" – you know, the one who flawlessly executes a perfect routine every single day. Spoiler alert: that's not real! The truth is, good habit builders are actually all about consistent self-support. So, ditch the perfectionist mindset and tune in to learn why you can absolutely become a habit person. Don't let fear hold you back – the Sticky Habit Intensive starts May 13th, and I'll show you exactly how to build routines that stick, no matter what life throws your way.

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AP 597: You don’t have to be perfect to have good habits || Growth Spurt

This episode originally aired on my listener-supported, premium podcast, More Personal. If you want access to more deep dives, including part two of this episode, honest reviews, casual convos, book reports, and other bonus content, make sure to become a supporter.
Rachel Hollis is a self-help guru whose empire brought her immense success, but also seemingly caused her downfall. I explore the reasons behind the strong reactions she evokes, her path to the top exceeding expectations, and the damage inflicted on herself and others during her descent. Additionally, I share some personal thoughts and encourage you to consider whether the blame lies solely with her, societal expectations of women, or the blurring of lines between personal identity and brand.

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AP 596: Deep Dive: Rachel Hollis || preview for More Personal

This monthly series features an episode sharing my recent highs and lows, how my habits are going, a Do Something List update, plus what I'm loving lately and my commitments for the upcoming month. I hope this glimpse into my life, my family, my work, and my own self development encourages you in your own journey.
Around here the goal is never perfection, just to keep trying, even if in very simple ways. I think you'll see that with all of the big changes going on for me, taking the smallest of steps has helped to keep me afloat and feeling like myself. As always, I encourage you to get messy, too!
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AP 595: A Medical Emergency (Doing Okay Now!), Juggling Kid Extracurriculars, Hiking on My DSL, Three Things I’m Loving Right Now, Thoughts on Having a Kid in Middle School || Messy Middle May 2024

KC Davis is a licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, and the person behind the mental health platform Struggle Care. She offers a profoundly refreshing perspective on home management that's far from the all-or-nothing standard we’re so accustomed to. We dive deep into KC's story, exploring the journey from shame-driven perfectionism rooted in her past struggles with addiction, to discovering a compassionate and gentle approach to maintaining her home. 
KC shares how her diagnosis of ADHD at 35 played a significant role in understanding her relationship with cleaning and organization, eventually leading to innovative, shame-free strategies for home maintenance. We discuss the importance of functional living spaces, moving beyond societal pressures and the shame associated with not meeting unrealistic standards of home perfection. 
Join us as we discuss how to break free from the shame cycle in home maintenance, fostering a relationship with our living spaces that supports us as individuals, rather than succumbing to overwhelming expectations.
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AP 594: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Maintaining Your Home || with KC Davis

Is there something that has made you think other people can do that, but not me? This episode is part of a monthly series to convince you otherwise. These episodes feature real people who are answering the question “How do you…?” about their various passions and pursuits.

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AP 461: How to Better Handle Conflict, Even as a Former People Pleaser || with Kwame Christian

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