People aren’t magically “worse” overnight, but the stress level in public life is undeniably higher, and home inspections sit right in the blast zone. We kick back for another Drinking With Jay conversation and get blunt about what we’re seeing: ruder behavior, shorter fuses, and more conflict showing up at the exact moment buyers are already maxed out emotionally and financially. 

We dig into the why, using real-world inspection stories alongside anxiety and incivility trends that point to a bigger pattern. When people don’t recover from the last thing that hit them, the anger gets displaced onto whoever is in front of them. For inspectors, that can look like the father-in-law who arrives ready to challenge you, the buyer who spirals at every defect, or the agent who accidentally inflames the room. We also talk about a newer reality many of us face: five or six people showing up to one inspection, not just as a headache, but as a clue that support systems are thinner and the stakes feel terrifyingly high for first-time buyers. 

Then we turn it practical. We share de-escalation tactics that actually work on site: how to open with calm energy, how to slow the conversation down, and how to deliver major defects in a way people can absorb without panic. We also get real about burnout and boundaries, because the inspector who never rests will match the client’s intensity and take that stress home. Finally, we make the case that as AI expands, the human element becomes more valuable, not less, and soft skills may be the deciding factor in who thrives long-term. 

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