I get real about something so many of us feel but rarely say out loud: what the heck happened to my marriage? I speak directly to moms who feel like they’re living parallel lives with their partner—amazing teammates and parents, but disconnected lovers. I share how the mental load, cognitive overload, and constant fight-or-flight nervous system state slowly push intimacy, desire, and playfulness to the bottom of the priority list. Using my own story of realizing my husband and I had slipped into “roommate” mode, I walk through how awareness—not shame—is the first step to change. I then offer five practical ways to start reigniting the spark: seeing each other again through deeper questions, ditching logistics-only conversations, rebuilding connection through touch, having brave “spicy” conversations, and creating things to look forward to together. This episode is a reminder that you’re not “just a mom”—you’re a whole woman who deserves a relationship that feels alive, loving, and deeply connected.

Here’s Scottie’s 5‑point list from the episode, ready for your show notes:

1. See each other again

Ask real questions beyond logistics:

- “What are you dreaming about lately?”

- “What do you wish we had going on in our life right now?”

- “What’s something you miss from when we first met?”

2. Ditch the logistics energy

Go on a date with a "no-kid-talk rule". Even 30–45 minutes at a local spot where you’re just two adults again—not administrators or co-CEOs of the household.

3. Touch each other a lot

Rebuild body trust and connection with casual, frequent touch:

- Hugs

- Hand-holding

- Sitting closer

- Playful brushes and booty grabs in passing

4. Have the spicy convo

Be bold and vulnerable. Send a text or start a conversation that says, “I miss you” or “I want more connection,” instead of just talking schedules and to‑dos.

5. Create something together

Make a **shared future** that’s not about the kids:

- A couples’ bucket list

- A weekend trip

- Plans for your life together after the kids leave the house

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