Have you been called high maintanence, if so… what does that mean?

Are you being called high maintenance because men and WOMEN are conditioned to think that women shouldn’t be asking for what they want, desire, and need?

Or are you just demanding?

We’re going to talk about the balance within this.

It is your responsibility to ask for what you need.  Some of us aren’t even at the point where we know where that is because we are so disconnected from our bodies.  High achievers and athletes tend to think the answer is to just grind through everything instead of getting curious about what they need.

Your emotions are information… yes even negative ones.  IMPORTANT information for you to get curious about the environments you are in.

If something is off – it’s up to do you get curious and do your own inquiry.

NOW – it’s your decision whether or not to accept that behavior.  This is where your own personal growth lies. 

 EXAMPLE: If it’s a new relationship and you don’t like their communication style… and they aren’t meeting your idea of “healthy communication” … you have a choice to walk away. 

But before you walk away... you can ask yourself if there is any growth for you before you make the decision.  This requires you to process your own emotions and be okay when your partner isn’t doing what you see as “baseline relationship material”.  NOTE: I am not recommending staying in an abusive relationship -- if that is where you are at please get support you need immediately.

But also ask about the stories --- am I making theyre communication mean something about me… that my partner doesn’t like more or love me?  Or is it just that they don’t communicate in the same way OR simply that they don’t know how.

THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT. Because whatever while demanding doesn’t work because we can’t make anyone change or do their own work, it’s important to not compromise your own values.

Because staying in a dynamic that is fundamentally misaligned with your values and your needs will take it’s toll and there is a difference between using the dynamic for your expansion and growth versus compromising your values and integrity.

TRUST YOURSELF and your intuition to know the difference.  AND GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO PROCESS IT.

Ultimately this is all about building self trust – so that you don’t spend all of your time and energy questioning yourself and what you need.  Spinning back and forth between being reactive and defensive when someone or something isn’t giving you what you need OR just decided you will be low maintenance instead.

LOW maintenance happens when you don’t believe you are deserving of your own needs.  It’s not that cool to be the “cool” girl because you’re not being truthful with yourself and others about who you are.

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