When it comes to your relationships, do you bend over backwards to please others in the hope they’ll love you in return? Do you play it cool and silence your needs in the hope they’ll admire and respect you? Or, are you able to interact in ways that embody trust and love for yourself and others?

[4.20] Sue explains secure attachment and how it impacts our relationships.

[7.14] Sue shares how 'secure relating' is available to everybody regardless of our childhood experiences.

[10.57] Sue outlines how our nervous systems move between connection and protection and how this shapes our relationships.

[16.26] Sue explains the impact of the 'good girl' scripts we tell ourselves and how that impacts our ability to securely relate to ourselves and others.

[22.10] Sue shares what it means to be in Green Zone where our relationships feel just right.

[26.00] Sue introduces the Red Zone and how our nervous systems heat up when we feel our relationships are being threatened.

[34.38] Sue introduces the Blue Zone and how our nervous system cools down when we feel too vulnerable with others.

[45.17] Michelle and Evie post-show ah-ha's.

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