Episode 126 - Are you self-aware but still so stuck?

Are you super self-aware? Like, you’ve learned what you like about yourself and you’ve learned what you don’t like — but still feel so stuck and can’t seem to change? Rewind back a few years and this was so me. So self-aware yet so stuck.  This is a frustrating place to be on the fertility journey. Because I would see people who were so unaware, so unreflective, so inconsiderate… get pregnant easily. And it didn’t make sense why I was still struggling with all the awareness I had of myself, my body and my life.  Here’s the truth: You have a huge heart. You’re  self-aware and you’ve got a lot of love and a lot of integrity. But awareness clearly isn’t enough. You need to learn how to harness this awareness, this love and this intelligence in a way that offers you grace in the journey of self-discovery — in a WORLD constantly telling you that you’re falling short. Cue the missing piece of this "awareness equation.”  How do you RESPOND to what you learn about yourself? This is what we’re talking about on this weeks podcast: Are you self-aware but still so stuck?  When you learn something new about yourself, do you respond with:  Shameful Self-Awareness? IE. “Oh wow. Now it all makes sense. What a terrible quality to have. Why am I so awful? This is why you’re not pregnant yet. Get your shit together already. I knew something was wrong with me.”   Or  Compassionate Self-Awareness? IE. “Oh wow. Now it makes sense. I’m sad to know that I’ve been living this way. But I’m also feeling okay to offer myself understanding while I navigate this difficult thing – that’s not fully in my control. I’m okay to feel how I feel. I’m not wrong. I’m human.”  Beyond aiding your emotional well-being, studies show that self-compassionate awareness is way more conducive to creating change, but also has a huge impact on your physical health—lower stress levels, improved immune function, better health behaviors, and even reduced inflammation related to auto-immune disorders. It’s a win-win. Spark a new relationship with yourself and improve your fertility along the way. Listen now!