This beautiful topic came up during a recent conversation with a client. As we talked about the experience he was trying to avoid, he said, 'I think I am trying to transcend my feelings'. I couldn't resist looking up the word ... and got this result. 'To go beyond or above the range of normal or physical human experience.' Word by word, phrase by phrase we unpicked it. We started with 'normal or physical human experience.' Surely if we are having an experience, it is normal. How can it not be if we are having it. Imagine if we saw all our experiences as normal. How much would that take off our minds?

Even the space where the seekers of transcendence want to be is therefore part of the human experience. In the phrase, 'go beyond or above' there is sense of escaping, judging, measuring - all things which put more on our minds. The thing is, wherever you are seeking, trying to transcend, judging therefore the lack in your human experience there will be more on your mind! Your experience is perfect just as it is. You are perfect just as you are. Stay here and play.

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